Maybe I misread you here, but this is what I had in mind when I said "people have internalized the duty to be committed". You don't let yourself go emotionally because you are paired up.
Read my comment again. I said I may have felt in a similar way to what you described in your post. And yeah, you didn't give lots of detail so that's why I could only guess that, once again, it may have been similar.
Note also that when I characterized that love as delusional and selfish, I was careful to say "that young love of mine".
Thank you for taking time to explain what is love for you.
I think I may have felt in a similar way when I was younger. A love that's blinding, almost obsessive. Accompanied by bliss when it's reciprocated, and a sense of total loss and emptiness when it's not.
I now find that young love of mine to have been delusional and selfish. It reflected my need to be "loved", and that need has subsided over the years.
Yes, it sounds offensive but it's my view that the notion of an exclusive love is a contradiction in terms. I understand exclusive relationships (and I have one too) but not exclusive love.
Can't see the video and I'm not a believer but I'd be surprised if the whole story didn't have any historical basis. A historical event that may be related in some way is the flooding of the Mediterranean.
Living in a foreign country means implicitly supporting its policies and institutions. Disagreeing with or disliking some of them is understandable. Giving it some "tough love" is fine. But if one hates the country and thinks it's uniquely bad or rotten, then why stay?
Although I hate the American wars, drones, assassinations, spying and police state, I love the country and I appreciate the opportunities I was given, so that's why I've supported it with my feet. Chris, on the other hand, acknowledges no benefits from or appreciation for SA; only criticism and condemnation.
Ooops this can start a fire, given Britain's role in Cyprus
I also agree that criticizing while choosing to live in a country and benefit from it is disingenuous and cowardly. There are a thousand things I dislike about the states, but the fact that I have chosen to stay and I'm able to make a living here (as a foreigner) means that it's net positive for me.
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Maybe I misread you here, but this is what I had in mind when I said "people have internalized the duty to be committed". You don't let yourself go emotionally because you are paired up.