there are some things Obs, that are best not said online - but for the record, it's just me doing my usual balancing act - within my circle of life - and making a mess out of it...
but twodags thanks for the reality check... that was so far left field - I couldn't but help laugh at the comment...
It all depends Serene - as the collective, they are just "men", but the ones that I interact with, well, they have names and feelings and I treat them with consideration and respect...
Oh for heavens sake, let's be truthful here.. How many of us are really looking for a long term relationship with the big capital C - half of us are to scared to make that kind of commitment again, particularly for those that have come out of a long term relationship, be it marriage or de facto - mine was over 20 years - and as much as I was bitter and angry - I don't regret the ending - we were not compatible - I was angry and resentful that he got to travel and do things without me, while I stayed at home and raised our family...
Now, being single - I have over time become selfish - I like doing what I am doing, when and how and I don't have to answer to anybody UNLESS I choose to do so... and yes I do have a special person in my life - first and foremost we are friends - we have a strong bond, well I like to think so after 2.5years, but he is as much as enigma to me, as I am transparent to him...
Our needs and wants within a relationship has changed as we get older - I am not expecting happy ever ending afters - and yes I do at times feel that I have been cheated - loving someone, caused me to doubt my own mind - how could I ever trust myself again not to make the same mistake
But, we have to start somewhere, even if it saying "hello"
I am not apologising for getting on my soap box - this relationship topic is something I have been sole searching - it is even why I quit here at one time and quit the other dating agency before coming back here again...
I guess like all - I want a second chance - a chance to meet someone, fall in love, get married and live out my old age with a man who doesn't care that I prattle, dull and boring, talkative, sulky, moody, scared, confident one moment and twisting myself in knots the second - who doesn't mind me playing on the computer, reading a book or watching a movie that bores the living daylights out him - as long as he content to have me part of his life for as long as that life is... with or without marriage, with or without living together
was checking out a link .. this guy was talking about relationships, and one of his comments was db about 80/20 in a relationship if you ignore the 80% good points and only focus on the 20% negative/bad points then your relationship is not going to work.. and you know something TN he is right to a degree - I think mosr t of us focus on the Web 80 until an argument breaks out then every little thing becomes the focus...
Very true Wash, although I guess I was trying to make comparison as to the type of story -
My ex made me (gosh I am stuck for words today) but I had to shrink my book collection - when I finished packing the books to move from Sydney to Brisbane I had over 20 cartons - cook books, my text books from high school etc - so cull I did (ahh the word I was looking for!! lol) at the end of the day - I came up with 10 cartons, which included Alastair Mclean, Agatha Christie, Ellis Peters, Jack Higgins, Arthur Conan Doyle, Robert Ludlum, and an an author who I can't remember, but he wrote the ninja stories - I was pretty heavily into that at the time.. I still cry over the books I gave away - however, when I moved from the rental into my own home, I had another culling and donated most of my books to the local library - hoping that someone else may get the same enjoyment out of reading whatever it was that I had read...
I love his books - and lucky for me I was given a heap of his books for my tab - I already about 6 of them in paperback - but I love the way, he introduces himself into the book as well... although that must of come later, as it saying that pacific vortex is one of his first books...
I have lent one of my books to a friend, and Clive has now got another fan...
I have not long finished reading Clive Cussler's "Pacific Vortex" -
I enjoy the presentation of the character that Clive Cussler has created, Dirk Pitt - an underwater specialist ex military, who somehow manages to get himself into some sticky situations, in and out of the water..
The best way to describe Clive Cussler, a bit of Ian Flemming, Alastair Maclean, Jack Higgins, and a touch of Dan Brown...
When my dad changed over to cd's back in the last 80's, he gave me his vinyl collection, what was left of it... I won't part with them, even though I don't have a record player... There is so much info available - like the lyrics to all of Cat Stevens - Catch a bull at four album, the design and shape of the Rolling Stones Album - autobiographies - Dusty Springfield - The cd's are dearer, but they don't have that info... which is a shame...and the sound from the vinyls is raw, pure and unadulterated raw - for some older music, the sound cannot duplicated on cd - and they the record companies do tell you the music has been enhanced and digitalised... Just like a live concert/pub band cannot be recreated on record...
I buy my music but I am also guilty of downloading - I download impossible albums that are no longer available having checked out sanity first and those albums are the ones that I have on tape or vinyl - Individual songs I do download as I you can't buy them separately like you could back in the 80's and 90's...
Sorry Serene, this is one area that I am all for the new technology - Mp3 music - I love it that I can rip my cd's using window media, convert to mp3, transfer my music to a flash stick and shove it in the usb of my car stereo unit or my dvd player (which goes through my surround sound)
It saves wear and tear on my cd's, because unlike my vinyls - I must have played frizzbie with them - are scratched and distorted...-
Games of Thrones is absolutely fantastic - I started watching season 1 and 2 and I felt there was so much missing (behind the scenes stuff) that I bought book One - Now I have the entire collection and book 6 is due to be released this year - can't wait, as my favourite characters weren't featured much or at all in book 5 a and b...
as for the girl with the dragon tattoo - that is also a wonderful story, although I haven't read the books - I have the dvd's (The Triology) - original Swedish version, not the Daniel Craig version, even though I admire Daniel Craig as an actor.
Love my new Samsung Tab 3 - particularly since I have now downloaded the Kindle app and play books which has opened the door to many books
Amazing that I have a Jack Higgins book in my book, which I have yet to finish, but having Auschwitz and Jack Higgins on my tab - I have completed reading them - go figure!!!
RE: Book Club
I have a few ebooks that I am willing to shareauthors are clive cussler, jack higgins, ellis peters
If interested let me know... cheers