It is not funny! I am serious. I am tough. I was teased and picked on in school when I was young. Now this.. I do not like one bit to that one person who said something that I think its not funny.
True. But how they would know where that person lives? This is a dating site that does not reveal the street.
There are ways you can find a person of course. I know a few ways.. but I do not want to bother with that unless I really smell a scammer then I investigate further and make report. I have done a few on here and other sites.. I think that is why scammers had me banned on other sites. I am furious about that.
Oh really? Then I do not see they explained that they are in two places.. I never ever saw a profile that says so.
I have a gut feeling it is, sometimes, because they prefer to live there rather than where they are living now? Say maybe one wants to live in Texas would put Texas or rather texas before their state or country.
I selected no since age does not matter only if you describe a couple of reasons. Say, a very mature 20 years old can date and marry a 50 years old if the 20 years old grew up quickly for good reasons. Maybe parents passing, or one dying of cancer, or already there act older and wiser.
The other is that When we are over 18, we all are adults and it does not matter.
However, for some, like myself, it does matter when one has desire to have children even when he is much older so he would fundamentally be "forced" to look for younger woman who can bear children with him.
Money should NEVER be the issue however, class status MAY be important. A very dirt poor homeless woman marrying a wealthy-to-do business empire owner is a no-no because homeless woman in this example I am explaining has no social experience. Remember the movie Pretty Woman or a couple of Michael J. Fox movies in the 1980's that he struggled his way up the ladder from the bottom or the movie with Frank Whaley and Jennifer Connelly? I know they all are movies but you get the idea. There is no way in this example both would get married. That wealthy gentleman will end up marrying a wealthy model or a Miss. America instead. You will need to understand class is an issue so money IS an issue after all.
But this subject is about age. That is the whole point here. All depends.
One thing to answer that question that was so genetic, you can not really answer it until explains more.
I would answer no because it would say including underage of 18.
One thing though, you can not be 18 and marrying a dying man laying in hospice today who will die this weekend. That is another reason.
So, therefore, the answer is all depends on situation.
That is why I am seeking for younger, not older and will older women stop looking at my profile lately!!?? Thank you!!
Why would they put fake city or town on their profile. Even perhaps fake state.
"california, California" or "texas, New York" Those are actual taken from profiles. Likely scammers or cons as I call them.
Even if they are real ladies, then why they do that for? they need to be honest. Normally if a lady do that, and say, if she wrote me and I review her profile and I see that, I would reject because it is not real.
Is it because they want to relocate to THAT state or country? Or for their own safety. Well, for those two, those are no excuses.
I am picky, OK? Even grammar incorrectly when they do not capitalize their city. "albany, New York" instead of "Albany, New York." It clearly showed me it is the same when I open profile, I see too many "i" instead of "I" and part of it seemly to write different. Clearly they are scams too.
If they said it is because of them using cell phones making profile or writing, no excuse. It is easier to write on the computer by sitting down and write with your laptop or desktop.
I am very creative thinker. Dream and thought of things. No wonder I can design things, write, very talented. Even when I was young at age 8, I worked with my father on our old 1970 Ariens snowmobile that had free-air engine and it had no vents on the cowl. So, Ariens said it was a recall and my father taught me a bit about design and I figured where the vent should be and yup, many Ariens snowmobiles I noticed years later had same location! The collectors have them.
That sparked my interest in design.
I am into products and automotive design. I do other stuff like cartoon characters, wine bottle/jar lights, RV design, interior and kitchen, even fashion, logo, and many more.
I am a Freelancer in art and design as well as CAD drafting. I also write. Have 2 self published books (one hard, the other e-book)
I did a snowmobile design for 1990's in 1985, did a design of a black RV for a famous RV manufacturer in 1984. Now brands out there have black RVs! The one I was designing for RV company, they choose someone else and they dropped the motorhome that I designed for them. They ceased operations on motorhome to focus on travel trailer (US) (overseas, its called caravan).
There IS one art work I have posted on this site. If you can find it. It is on my group for Deaf Singles. His name is Cory Big Heart (R) 1998-2015.
I love creativity! For a time, I was called MacGyver. I do that kind of creativity as well.
Wow, I was going to reply but noticed when someone posted a new thread and close account, that person is not going to be reading and or replying. Do not waste time here.
Not necessary in order but I am listing all of the problems.
1. Money. In today's economy global economy tanked since the Great Recession and it is not the same.
2. Fear of Commitments. People are sincerely afraid of making commitments and may not want to travel a great distance to find out that other person is not what they are looking for. This takes to you number three why number two is supported.
3. Meeting online is so different than offline. The answer is right there that it sounds good to be true online may not in person. Let me give you an example from my experience. I met a beautiful woman online and all that but when I saw in person, she was not beautiful at all. Yucky! Both outside AND inside. Another example. My very first meeting someone from online, she sounded great and sounded so lady like and when I met her in person, oh, gum chewing red-neck tomboy with big muscles and all. Nooo!!
4. People have other priorities. Such as they place their own family first or in their faiths, second behind God. Or because they have a great career or they love their hometown or just relocated and love it there that they do not want to uproot and move. Bad idea for some. Perfect example with my ex-wife who refused to move when I needed to move for career sense.
5. Trust. Trust is one of big issues today people are doing on the net that it is possible to cheat or be player to someone sweet. That is bad. That hurts potential chance of having a LDR with the next person. Last year I had a Filipina girlfriend who cheated behind me and was trying to force me to join her cult. No thank you! So, I had to dump her. She lives in the Philippines and I am here in upstate NY in the USA.
6. Expenses. A little different than first one: cost of travel, run up phone bills, the move. Paperworks.
7. Cultural Differences. Even if you are an American dating someone on the other side of the country in the US, culture is different there than here. Syracuse tend to be closed minded cold people compared to New York City with bunch of snotty fast paced attitude (no offense NYers!)
8. Language and Barriers. Say, you are fluent in English and you are dating an Latina from Centro America. Si, muchas difficul. No facil. (Yes, much difficult. Not easy). Been there and done.
9. Scammers, Cons, Leechers, Diggers, and Spammers as well as Hackers. They are having their field days lately everywhere. This turned off people from joining dating sites. The height of dating online was 15 years ago. The ship may have sailed. Like in 1930's bars were really the clubs to go to and have fun and good social and hear bands and singers. Not anymore. By 1980's bars are seedy, dive, even nice new new ones are still dive because of the way everything is in there. Drugs, meat market, you name it. Not good and clean. Same with the internet now. We are now in 1990's style of internet, not the 1930s style of internet.
10. Burn Out. They have went through this in past 20 years online and its a burn out. Done deal with LDR. All 9 above have affected everyone that they may not want a LD anymore.
Successful with online dating.. Well, no. It was more of bad experience than good. Too many stories I do not want to get into again as I have already written a 700 page manuscript about my failures of dating life and creative life I have. I still skeptical until I have a proven that there is a nice sweet woman whom I will love and marry to.
The limitation is quite difficult if you limit geographical distance. It does not work in modern times. Pre-1990s it did work.
I learned in family genealogy that in pre-automobile era, many spouses are found usually in the same town, actually right cross the street or next door farm. For non-farming, they met and marry in college or their workforce or even in same one-room schools.
With the advance of automobiles, people who were in high schools, college... they marry. In 1950's most girls at age 17-19 get married when they graduated from high school. But before that, young as 13 did get married.
My grandmother was 16 when she married a 23--my grandfather. It was legal back then in 1929 (married day before Stock market crash!)
By 1960's thanks to new advance commercial jets, mail order catalogs with brides... and thanks to mid-century military bases worldwide, Americans were able to get an oversea bride.
By mid-1990s with the internet, dating was easier globally without having to leave home until you fly over and meet her and marry her.
So, take advantage of that. If it is because of limit budget that you are unable to travel far, then try locally.
BUT for locally, internet is not good idea. People on the net prefer to find someone farther away. For local as I experiment that it seems best to do something in person. For instance: you go out to singles dances, join a singles club or group. They have activities. If you have a child, go join single parents group. If you have a specific interest you are so much interested in. Say, you are a Star Wars fan, go to comic cons, or find a local fan club. If you like rugby, attend the games and you will never know. Bars and taverns--no no. Not a good spot to find someone. Usually they are for different reason.
I go to trade shows and that is how I can meet the ladies. Networking yourself without exposing yourself that you are really looking for someone can really works well. Women like men who are not there looking for someone. They want to see the real you having fun out there. So, go out and have fun locally and you will never know.
Another thing Nikki, when I was your age, I was already greying with my hair! Naturally, of course. And I remembered at church and my brother said he needed to talk to me and the way he said it scared me. He had me stand in front of 3 or 4 females at church and they could not say it so my brother told me they think I am too old for them. Ha! I was 23 and my brother was 20 at the time! They even told him that they thought I was his father! That was both the worst and the best time I ever known why women avoided me like plague.
3 years earlier, I was fixed with a blind date that this woman was 35 and already had her tubes tied and I wanted to start a family. That was it with her. I did not date her again.
But there were so many "fishes in the sea" of women over 15 years older than I am throughout next 20 years plus that they wanted me and women my age did not want me during that time.
Then I was wrong to give in to someone older because I was not getting any younger. I felt no choice.
Now, I had a choice and it was over with with my ex-wife who is older and who could not have any babies.
Now, I am firm and so picky like I was to find someone I like to start a family. Women my age or older would look at my profile on here or any other sites I tried in past and I just ignore them. Rarely they write me but I make it so clear in my profile why and who I am seeking for. And I am firm about that.
I find foreign women tend to be more of interested in me. That is only flexibility I need to allow so I can start a family.
You see what I am talking here? Maybe you can describe quite clear and I am sure you will find someone your age who will love you for who you are.
I do not mean to be rude. Are you on Social Security? You need to know about the law on that. If you marry, you lose your Social Security benefits. I know because I lost mine. They said I would keep it but they lied to me. No lawyer wanted to help me. So, that is something you might want to rethink. I don't like the way the Social Security works. It needs to be changed. I found out that you can have SS if you married someone who has SS and IS disabled also but it is not clear about that. Talk to your SS caseworker or your independent living counselor about this or lawyer.
I am curious since I am Deaf. Any of you are Deaf, CODA, or HOH members of this site? I am profounded Deaf and I can talk very well like a hearing person and I do wear hearing aids. I lost more hearing in 2004 due to Meneire's Syndrome (Vertigo and Tinnitus). I hate that. I was born Hard Of Hearing (HOH) and used to talk on the phone, and so forth.
I am seeking for anyone who is here who is Deaf, HOH, or even CODA.
Also anyone with American Sign Language (fluent) such as an interpreter for the Deaf.
I am actually here seeking for the right woman no matter what hearing loss she has but curious if any of you are here with a hearing loss.
I believe there are something out there. I have heightened sense of awareness since I am Deaf and I can see better and feel and know what people are saying beforehand. I have those gifts. I am not into new age stuff but I have experienced them. Had one kept going up the stairs and one time saw me. Freak me out but I told them to leave and they left. You have to command them to leave. I had one time at a closed roller rink outside and was punched in the stomach. And a photo was taken of a GREEN streak of light pretty low area just above the parking lot. They said a child was killed at the rink in 1965ish.. and the stabbing was in the stomach in the 1980s I think. I researched and someone told me about the stabbing. He told me he is a EMT responsible for that victim of stabbing in stomach! I said ah! That is why I felt punch in stomach. It was hard!
I saw a black mist one time above behind this young 20s woman at a seminar about letting it go and be free. I am Deaf so I did not want to bother listening and my then wife (years ago) was in the audience. I was sitting behind the stage waiting for her and seminar to be over at the paranormal expo. Anyway, the lady told the girl to stand back and then I saw it clearly this mist and I jumped and slight scream about that. I can see, I can feel, I can sense. For sense, I know what people are saying to me before they said things to me.
I saw another ghost.. at the paranormal expo right after I set up my booth. A pretty girl in white about my short height was standing behind the booth table next to my booth. It was clear visually then she disappeared when I said, "Whoa! I didn't see you there!" I told other exhibitors at the show and they said they knew of a story of this girl in that place where the expo was (former theater where she wanted to be actress but never got to).
I also met Jay and Brit from TAPS a few years ago when they were in town when I went to pick up my friend at the hotel where those guys were staying. They were in hurry to go out for dinner. Ha ha.
Another experience I had was at this abandoned house that my sister knew. Long story. Anyway, the ghost slammed the door as we were leaving and loudly heard saying, "Don't ever come back here again!" Whoa! So, I brought other friends and we were there, easily spotted her upstairs and was captured evident. And the ghost was choking our lady friend hard! So, we said we need to get out and we did and I said no more!! It is dangerous with the punching, and the choking. Paranormal investigation is dangerous physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I was trying to help people back then to understand the dangerous and apparently many did not want to listen and I said okay, no more. Other groups hated me. So.. Okay, and the one the most hated me is no longer a group! Judge, you get judged! It happened to them.
Hi Nikki, welcome to CS! You know, you are not the only one. I am Deaf and I am still looking. I just got a spam message tonight and sure is a waste of time. So, you will get things like that.
Not to worry, you will know what a scam message is like and as for older men, well, haha, funny, I am older but not that old! I am 50. Going on 51 next week.
I know, maybe you should say in your profile what ages you are seeking for. Like for me, I am seeking for someone young because I like to start a family.
Everyone has different preferences.
Well, I am sure you will find someone. Just give it a time. Check out the men's profiles and start writing. Don't be shy. I am sure one will reply.
I do write to women but they don't write back! I wonder why! So, give it time. Enjoy forums, talking with people. Hey, I am sure someone on here may have someone for you. Its called networking. Never know. Networking is best choice I think when meeting someone. However, that part is not always perfect. Long story since I went through this before.
I see. I know how you feel. Many developed countries like Aussie, and the United States are quite tough with laws and regulations on bringing a bride from overseas. Have you consider MOVING to her country and live there? Perhaps your dollars go farther than some other countries meaning its cheaper to live there than here depending on where you are and where you would live. Say, I am in love with a Filipina, I would move there and marry her and stay there than in the United States since its cheaper to live in the Phils and depends on where as well because of conditions there compared to where I live in the US.
So, give that a try by considering relocating. I am considering relocating. I LOVE tropical islands! Tired of snow! BRRR!
I believe you. I believe all things are possible to make that happen.
I know so because back in 1990's, I was really in love with this woman for EIGHT years and we were good friends but she hesitated and not sure if she wanted to marry me. Then finally after having her as my date to a fundraising event and I was one of speaker there. She really impressed with me then wanted to marry me like that without having as boyfriend-girlfriend stage by skipping that part from friendship to marriage. Oh, about 3 weeks from that night at the fundraising dinner, she kept changing mind about marrying me every single day or two. I had enough. Someone told me at a support group for singles and he went thru the same. And he said better to marry quickly before spending years as friends or dating someone. Well, her loss and wanted me back in 2005 but I got married to someone I wish I didn't and we are divorced because I spend 2 years with the wrong one. She played me good. Oh man.
So, sometimes its good to get married like that and other times, for some people no. I do believe in marrying that quick. I do not know your faith but my faith in God and what the Bible tells me, I can marry right away like Rebekah and Isaac did. They met and married same day.
Another I wasted time with was in 1980's for six years on and off. I was going to college and she wanted to live with me. I can't focus on her and college at once so she got mad and got engaged with someone she met in a week (2 weeks after I dumped her), then she got married six months later. Well, that marriage of her with her husband ended badly and got divorced. She apologized to me 2 short years later but I said too late.
So, quickness can be good for some, but others no depends on their maturity and a lot of things to it that I can not explain in here. Everyone is different so that is one of many reasons why I said I can't.
I still believe in getting married on same day I meet her if that is going to happen.
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RE: Does age matter in the relationship / marriage of today's modernity.
It is not funny! I am serious. I am tough. I was teased and picked on in school when I was young. Now this.. I do not like one bit to that one person who said something that I think its not funny.Actually two of them here. I had enough.
One more time, I am outta here.