I have never seen or heard of an adult smacking a child with calmness it is usually an act which comes with anger and frustration - so what do we teach our children? When you are angry or frustrated, hit and smack? I have a 17 year old son and in all of his life I have never laid a finger on him - he is respectful and a really nice guy, doing well in school and generally a nice person with a lot of friends.
What I did instead, as you ask, is I talked to him, I explained why he was wrong to do whatever it was that he had done and when he was younger I asked him what he thought should be his punishment. He used to set his own, he would hand over his favourite toy or game and I would hold it for a week.
I dont write a lot on here, I am always lurking around having a nosey tho lol and I dont want to come across as preaching but there are other ways.
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Sometimes it can be all about chemistry - I know a lot of people talk about looks and personality, I am a great believer in the chemistry side of it - if its not there then you are both better off leaving it.
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I am just finding my way around at the moment, thanks for welcoming me the other day. 
RE: Corporal Punishment
Hi cantbetamedI have never seen or heard of an adult smacking a child with calmness it is usually an act which comes with anger and frustration - so what do we teach our children? When you are angry or frustrated, hit and smack? I have a 17 year old son and in all of his life I have never laid a finger on him - he is respectful and a really nice guy, doing well in school and generally a nice person with a lot of friends.
What I did instead, as you ask, is I talked to him, I explained why he was wrong to do whatever it was that he had done and when he was younger I asked him what he thought should be his punishment. He used to set his own, he would hand over his favourite toy or game and I would hold it for a week.
I dont write a lot on here, I am always lurking around having a nosey tho lol and I dont want to come across as preaching but there are other ways.
Regards
J