>>If every body waits on the other to move,nobody moves any where(:
Exactly. I'm too impatient, I hate to wait. But risking rejection (or worse!) is tough too. If I find a potential match profile, it's tempting to make the first move. But then I think, no, HE should find ME. I need to know that he's intrigued by what he found in my profile too. It bothers me to think that if I make the first move, he may think I'm hot for him and anything goes.
Who do you think should make the first move in contacting someone, either on CS or any site, or heck even in REAL life.
Traditionally it's the man who is supposed to make overtures to a woman, and a woman is supposed to just sit back and wait for that to happen....or not.
Times have changed, at least a little. Is it now acceptable for women to make the first move to contact a potential match? Men, how do you feel about that? Do you assume that she's a "pushy broad", too aggressive, etc.? Would you prefer to make the first move?
kpunk, maybe it's simply that she gets tired of hearing it.
I wouldn't take it as a personal insult. Just give her some space. Maybe she wants to watch her favorite tv show and can't even hear it because you're playing too loud. Or something.
Maybe you could find another place to practice? Like the garage maybe? You need your privacy and she needs hers. If that's not feasible, maybe pick a time to practice when she's not there.
Really, though, you have to be willing to compromise a little bit. Even though music is very important to you, you shouldn't expect it to have the same importance to everyone else. Same for bowling or stamp collecting or whatever. And she should be willing to compromise too. She should allow you times to practice and not get angry or upset or jealous over the time spent with the guitar instead of with her.
And if none of the above works out, then resign yourself to living alone, dude. Sometimes that's the best solution.
Right on, Chrissy! Shelomo, just be yourself. Everyone wants to make the very best first impression, but we all have different tastes and personalities. Some prefer jeans and casual attire and some prefer a more traditional and conservative look. And it's okay for you to try to dress to suit the occasion, whether it's a fancy restaurant or a picnic by the lake.
But to avoid the type of embarrassing scenario you described, I would suggest doing a bit more research on what would be considered proper dress attire for the place you are going and also let your date know what that proper dress attire is. Some really nice restaurants have a dress code, where they require gentlemen to wear a jacket and tie, and absolutely NO jeans or athletic shoes allowed.
Yeah, I know, I don't frequent those kinds of places either.
But you would definitely want to let your date know BEFORE you go, so that she won't be dressed in jeans and sneakers and then be embarrassed at the door of the restaurant when they won't allow her in. Yep, it happened to me. My date didn't tell me where we were going. He should have said something like "Dress nice" and that would have given me a clue. But he didn't, so for all I knew we were going to the local pizza parlor for pizza and beer.
Just be yourself. If you prefer a suit and tie to jeans and sneakers, then by all means that's what you should wear. And here's a little tip -- stay away from any woman who wants to control how you dress. If it's your first date, you should be spending time getting to know each other's wonderful qualities, not finding fault with how someone is dressed.
Yeah, I liked "Angels and Demons" much more than "The DaVinci Code", which was rather a disappointment after A&D.
I've discovered a terrific writer whose books I'll definitely be looking for from now on: F. Paul Wilson, who writes the Repairman Jack series. Repairman Jack kicks some serious psychic butt.
But right now I'm reading "Sarum" by Edward Rutherford. Absolutely rivetting fictional history of the area in England known now as the Salisbury Plain. (Stonehenge et al)
And I always ALWAYS have a copy handy of Jane Austen's "Pride and Prejudice". It's my favorite book of all. I never tire of reading it over and over.
Well, "glam rock" actually was around long before Bon Jovi. I can remember going to David Bowie and Mott the Hoople concerts in full "glam" regalia - even pasted flat-backed rhinestones or sometimes sequins around my eyes, affixed with fake eyelash glue.
I live in the country, in a very rural area. The closest major city is Memphis, about ninety miles away. I find it extremely difficult to connect with potential dates because of where I live. And long distance love, while it can be fun for a time, isn't realistic unless you've got the financial means to actually meet sometime. Even driving nearly 100 miles for a date is taking a serious safety risk. So what's a person who lives in the country to do??
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Who should make the first move?
>>If every body waits on the other to move,nobody moves any where(:Exactly. I'm too impatient, I hate to wait.