Who should make the first move? (32)
Im Thud.... Hell yes......
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Don't know about the other guys but I am very flattered when a women makes the first move.. especially on a site like this with so many people if you don't, you might miss out on "the one" just because of tradition..
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I don't give this much thought. If it feels like the right moment I go for it. If he can't handle someone his equal in all things it's dead in the water anyway. Just as well to know up front. I'm too old to have the patience to be delicate about handling a fragile male ego...can you say...high maintenance?
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Yes times have definatly changed and for me personaly I think both can make the first move. There are actualy some men out there who likes it when the woman takes the initiative. :o)
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both should get drunk and let what happens happen!
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i like it when the girl makes the first move for a few reasons.
1) if i make the first move,i know the interest on on my side and it may not be mutual,i may get shot down.
2) if the girl makes the first move, then i know she is interested in me,that make me feel nice!
however,somebodys got to do it. whether it is the man or woman. if every body waits on the other to move,nobody moves any where(:
ive ben shot down and its not so bad here,not like in person.
and ive turned down some. but at least the lines of communication have to be open. i say,if you see something you like,and you dont make a move,maybe some one else sees the same person,and does move.
then ,ya may be too late. so GO FOR IT!!
1) if i make the first move,i know the interest on on my side and it may not be mutual,i may get shot down.
2) if the girl makes the first move, then i know she is interested in me,that make me feel nice!
however,somebodys got to do it. whether it is the man or woman. if every body waits on the other to move,nobody moves any where(:
ive ben shot down and its not so bad here,not like in person.
and ive turned down some. but at least the lines of communication have to be open. i say,if you see something you like,and you dont make a move,maybe some one else sees the same person,and does move.
then ,ya may be too late. so GO FOR IT!!
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>>If every body waits on the other to move,nobody moves any where(:
Exactly. I'm too impatient, I hate to wait.
But risking rejection (or worse!) is tough too. If I find a potential match profile, it's tempting to make the first move. But then I think, no, HE should find ME. I need to know that he's intrigued by what he found in my profile too. It bothers me to think that if I make the first move, he may think I'm hot for him and anything goes. 
Exactly. I'm too impatient, I hate to wait.
But risking rejection (or worse!) is tough too. If I find a potential match profile, it's tempting to make the first move. But then I think, no, HE should find ME. I need to know that he's intrigued by what he found in my profile too. It bothers me to think that if I make the first move, he may think I'm hot for him and anything goes. ------ This thread is Archived ------
I actually prefer for the woman to make the first move...Im not saying i wont...I just prefer the woman to make the first move
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I don't think it matters...just depends on the people.
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If someone doesn't make the first move, something may never happen. Why is it though, that after just ONE email in this site, people want you to email them with their regular email address? Why so QUICK?
The "first move" can be a signal to someone else to RUN LIKE HELL
The "first move" can be a signal to someone else to RUN LIKE HELL
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I don't usually give out my email until the 2nd or 3rd message, but communicating through email is more comfortable to me you can dress it up and express yourself better.. The mails you get here are fine but they do look a bit cold if you know what I mean.. and with email I see in real time when I get a mail and don't have to log into the site.. it's not because I want to do some kind of weird things or stalk someone..
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It depend on the person, who ever it's more outgoing, I don't mind a woman making a first move, i find it very attrative, but if i like one a lot i will defitnely make it.
El Diablo
El Diablo
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Yeah, I understand that. My yahoo email program doesn't have anything to "dress it up" I'm not sure how anyone is doing that.
How about the ones who won't post a picture unless you give them your email address?
How about the ones who won't post a picture unless you give them your email address?
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I'm not very comfortable with trying to make the first move......I've tried it a couple of times with email......
I would rather an interested guy make the first move......... but that is just me......
I would rather an interested guy make the first move.........
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well if anyone gives you an "either or" they aren't worth talking to anyway.. It's just a sign of trouble to come in my opinion..
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Who cares as long as a move is made and you want it made. If you want something, why wait. Makes no sense really. If I see something or someone I like, here, there, or anywhere for that matter, I will go for it. I may get rejected or I may not, but sometimes the payout far outweighs the, ummm, jitters. Yea, the jitters. But that's more like in rt. Anyways, the point of my short novel is, go for it or you may miss out.
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I dont think it really matters who makes the first move whether its the man or the woman. If I see someone on here that I like I have no problem with messaging them first because I have been told by guys here that they have noticed me and thought to message but were afraid of rejection so didnt carry it through. Sometimes some one has to set the ball in motion or you might never know, so I dont think its a bad thing if the woman makes the first move aslong as the move is made, at least you know you have tried instead of wondering what if. Its easier on here though to spark up conversation with a potenial match, in real life I would not be so confident. Its not so bad if you are rejected on here you just get on with it and keep looking its only to be expected on a dating site at least you will know for sure.........so just go for it I say! And good luck to all!
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oooooooh, ladies i don´t care if want to make the first move, but it has to be rhythmical.
Lutz
Lutz
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I have learned, and very recently, that time is something that there is not enough of.
If you are interested in someone, go for it. Wasting precious time waiting for one or the other to send mail/flowers, email and/or messenge is not good. When you feel comfortable, try the phone calls and get on with meeting each other.
Sometimes I wish that I had not wasted endless time on emailing a guy for weeks before getting the courage to phone and/or meet.
Good luck everyone.
If you are interested in someone, go for it. Wasting precious time waiting for one or the other to send mail/flowers, email and/or messenge is not good. When you feel comfortable, try the phone calls and get on with meeting each other.
Sometimes I wish that I had not wasted endless time on emailing a guy for weeks before getting the courage to phone and/or meet.
Good luck everyone.
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Traditionally it's the man who is supposed to make overtures to a woman, and a woman is supposed to just sit back and wait for that to happen....or not.
Times have changed, at least a little. Is it now acceptable for women to make the first move to contact a potential match? Men, how do you feel about that? Do you assume that she's a "pushy broad", too aggressive, etc.? Would you prefer to make the first move?
Or does it really matter???