I wouldn't say its picky. I would say its more 'selective'. We have lived and learn't. We know what we want and what we don't.
We need to remember though that there are two people in a relationship, and it cannot work if we make it all about 'us'.
I don't believe anything works out until, we truly are ready to open our hearts up again and remove what shields are preventing us from moving forward.
RE: When First Meeting someone for a Date, Sould you Greet them with:
I don't like to beat around the bush.I say 'ok zip it down, slap it on the table' and I reach for my measuring tape.