DaisyChick Forum Posts (1,348)

RE: House Burned Down Best Friend Inside Dog Exploded!

What a sad sad person you are just begging for attention. You represent the kind of people I have enough sense to never allow into my life. Good luck to you.

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I just want to thank everyone for their lovely replies. I've got tons of homework today but will be on later to respond to them all.

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Thank you for this post! I feel that is soooo true!! It bothers me when people get freaked out by the "single" title in which we are given. It's like we should bow our heads and say "Oh yes mighty one I am single because I have failed..." SO not true. Someone just hasn't been able to fully appreciate our worth. That's okay by me, I would rather weed out the ones that would later realize that an intelligent, sweet, loving, caring person wasn't exactly what they were looking for!

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Being "loveless" happens in all shapes and forms dear sweet Thomas. We just have to decide what we want and go after it. I've been married and now widowed (as you know) and none of it is pleasurable at all (except for my lovely boy). DON'T give up, even if we shall have days we want to. Eventually we will connect with someone and some of the best days of our lives will be in store.

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Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I have noticed that you have found your match and you both are very happy. I find it inspiring!

I started this site with the same frame of mind (it was strictly for friendship.) I feel like the "adult interaction" is very healthy for me (I've somewhat avoided it since my 'husband' passed). I don't seem to have a lot of it going to school with the younger generation. Up until recently I have only even started thinking of it as a "dating site" again.

I guess in the end my only point of my "rant" is to understand others and the way they think. I want to be here now to meet someone that wants the same things I do. I definitely don't want to rush anything at all. I am in a point in my life to where it is okay to be picky. I guess I was just wondering if anyone else out there was experiencing what I was. I have these moments (or days ) that I try to understand probably more than I should. Plus, I wonder if maybe I am too focused on a career now than just finding that one person to connect with. I hope that is not the case because I don't believe one can be truly happy in a relationship if they don't take the steps in life to be happy with their own individual life.

In any case, I am very happy that you have found someone special here!! I think it's lovely and I hope to have the same outcome!!

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As you too sweetie

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Ooohhh clever, very clever! (And true!!)

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Aww that was really lovely Dirko. Thank you!!

RE: Why do you like dating sites?

RE: Why do you like dating sites?

It really is the "best sites."

Honestly, I've made loads of valuable friendships, many that are intertwined with my everyday life. BUT... a year later I am wondering if it can be good for more. An actual "dating" site would be lovely. I best keep my eyes open another year

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And no one ever should "give up" but we should know what it really is we are fighting for AND competing against

Ahh someday we should all be as lucky to understand these things!!

RE: Why do you like dating sites?

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Thank you Roxaan
For the most part I am... Then I have these nights where I just try to figure out the world

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Good to see you AudrysSis. It's been a while.
I felt silly for the "rant" tonight and it's really nice --and not so nice :( --to hear someone understands how I feel.

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All you can do is be you and try your best.
It's up to the good ones in the world to appreciate it!

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Honestly, I guess it doesn't really matter as much why one is "here" but that they are upfront about why and they know what it is they want to get out of this experience.

I've never been one to judge or discard because someone didn't seek the same outcome as me. I just like to understand intentions.

I appreciate your replies!!

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Haha!!
Let's go!! ;)

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I find it weird that when you find a "connection" with someone that most men on this site get freaked out. I wonder what the real purpose behind these profiles really are. I've been around this site (and forums) for over a year and without fail every single time I talk with someone that is capable of a decent conversation they get freaked out if they "feel" anything more than just a friendship. Why are people really here? I truly believe that it doesn't have anything to do with the person on the receiving end (IN MY CASE... unless I am just in some weird little sheltered world). I'm starting to believe that guys seek out "GOOD" girls and then once they get them they run.

My question is why??

For over a year I have had my profile saying that I am strictly here for forums and friends. That has changed within the last month, I'm tired of focusing only on school. I thought I was ready for something more... until I've had a few experiences of men not being able to handle a decent "intelligent" conversation. It's like everything goes great until they realize how compatible we could actually be and that I am not willing to "play games." I consider myself to be on the high end of "good girls." I am working hard in school (as many of you may know). Is it possible that men aren't willing to share my time? (I have to put schoolwork and studying first. At 32 years old it's time to build a future and career for myself regardless of any relationship). This does not mean that I am not willing to share this life with someone else. This just means that I must find someone that understands that I need more than someone to love. I must love myself too! (And be happy with the choices I make in life.)

Any thoughts on this? Could it intimidate people?

RE: Tragedity

RE: Tragedity

You know, I'm not trying to be rude or disrespectful in the least. A lot of people know me around here and it is not in my nature to be that way or to try and start any kind of nonsense but I MUST say that I feel like there is a time and a place (And many other threads) to laugh and have a good time in. Threads speaking of murder and other tragedies I just kind of find it rather disrespectful.

I don't know either of you well and I mean no dislike towards you at all. I am clearly stating my opinion and that it makes me sad.

RE: Tragedity

RE: serial killer

I would also like to add that there seems to be an awful lot of "humor" in such a sad thread. I wouldn't wish this on any person to go through.

RE: If you were stranded on an island, whom would you like to have with you?

I couldn't care less about what the person looks like. I need mind stimulation, good conversation and someone to laugh away the stress with. I wouldn't just feel that way on an "island" either, it's how I feel now and why I remain single. I've yet to find someone that feels the same. For some people there has to be a physical spark, for me, I wait for that "mental spark" and chemistry.

I'm growing old here...

RE: Pyjamas or ....

Whew!!

RE: Pyjamas or ....

Yes, sorry, that would be one of those "things"

RE: Pyjamas or ....

It wouldn't really bother me... Although, there are SOME things, if he chose to wear them, that might weird me out a little.

RE: Who say I need to feel Guilty?

And nice to see you again Zee

RE: I've come to a realization

Great thread. I can't offer any answers but I agree wholeheartedly with what you said. Bravo to you for making this the first day of the rest of your (happy) life.

RE: Im a new up and comer

Welcome to CS Ace!

RE: Advice, please...and I'm listening

First I must apologize because I didn't read all the replies and I'm sure there were many wise words spoken.

I just wanted to do this:
I also wanted to tell you I have been through something similar, twice, once with a friend and once with my late husband. I'm sorry, I don't know how to offer advice without sharing it through personal experience...

I loved my friend more than I loved myself. We had a beautiful relationship for more than 10 years, I'd always wanted it to be more but knew because of his drinking it could never be. He was killing himself, I was watching and it was horrible. It was an agonizing decision and a year ago many of the kind people here on CS told me many of the things I've read so far in your thread. I finally shut the door 6 months ago and it was one of the hardest things in my life. I am happier now. I never thought I could say that but I am. You have to allow yourself time to grieve even if the person isn't deceased. I'm sure you will try to continue a friendship but please know that you will never gain control of your heart and your emotions until you let go all the way.

My other situation ended in tragedy. My husband died two years ago. I never closed the door on that situation and I am haunted by the events because of it. I wish I would have known then what I know now. It always feels like he is pulling me back just a little because I never let him go. He didn't treat me the way I needed to be treated because he was influenced by drugs and alcohol. I paid the price then and I will continue to pay the price because he died and was still clutching a piece of my heart. That tiny little missing piece makes me think I should have done something else or tried harder. In a sense he still has some control.

I just wanted to share this with you in hopes that it could aid in your decision. I know it's hard but your friends will help in any way they can. Please email me if you are ever feeling the need to talk. Much love to you.