Major over-reaction on her part. I don't mind being called either, lady or woman. My male colleagues call the females ladies, my female colleagues call each other women.
But for some reason my current boss (of the female variety, but not in any way to be confused with a lady!) and my last boss (a gentleman) always refer to me as a "very intelligent GIRL" which I find very patronising.
Haven't read all the posts in detail but I agree with the general trend... it appears she is being bullied.
If she plays with dolls, try to watch her without her knowing. You might find that she role plays with the dolls and might give some hints as to what is going on.
Also get her to draw pictures with paint or crayons. Ask her to draw a picture of the playground at school, playing in the garden or any other activity she does or place she goes. You may see trends in the colours she uses.... blacks/browns are sad or scared colours. Reds/blues/yellows etc are happy colours.
If you can't see anything from those ask your doctor to check her hormone levels. She could be hitting puperty early. It's rare but it happens.
Oh and give her loads and loads of cuddles and praise... especially praise about how beautiful she is. Pick her best features (her eyes or her hair for example) and specifically admire these.
I think I'm still single because I'm too independent (as if I have a choice!). I'm also quite shy with people I don't know but people tend to mistake my shyness for coldness.
Of course it could just be that I'm scared to death of being used and abused again!!!
I never noticed any difference in being sick whether I was with someone or single. Still had to do the mammy duties alone. Luckily I was never seriously ill when my kids were young... they would have had to go into care as their dad didn't do adult responsibility.
Maybe that's why I never ask anyone for help or support, even if I want it. I've learned the hard way that I won't get it.
I can't think of any particular "occasion" when I want someone. I think I find it hardest being alone when I need to talk something out or need a sounding board. But I don't necessarily feel I need a man in my life for that... just another person to talk to.
Would be nice to have someone to go for a drink with from time to time (not that I can afford it but I'd like to have the option when I can).
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RE: Happy Birthday Bluebell
Happy Birthday K. Hope you had a lovely day.