My mom and I are in that very same position. It took YEARS for my mom to get the state my father lives in to work with the attorneys, etc to start getting all of the back child support that my father owes. it finally happened about 6 years ago and she gets a check monthly that she splits with me. I use that money to take care of my son!
Personally, I don't even know where to begin to look to meet someone, even though I am around people all of the time. I work Mon-Fri and my weekends are filled with stuff for my son, family friends....my free time is limited. Also, I absolutely FEAR rejection and have no idea how to approach a man anymore. I am so out of practice!
In other words, I am of no help to you at all.....
High school - He was a football and baseball player and gorgeous! I was so happy that he asked me to be his girl. ISSUE: He had a girlfriend the previous year who had moved away and they had broken up. She would call him every once in a while to cry and tell him that that she was miserable without him, etc. and that would make him feel bad. Eventually I was forced to realize that he was torn and so decided that it would be best to end it so he could get his head together. I know...so much drama in high school, right? He eventually realized that he had made a mistake but I was able to see him just as a friend after the HORROR of the heartbreak went away....
He played a very pivotal role for me at that time. I was diagnosed with Scoliosis (curvature of the spine) and had to wear a back brace for a year. It was a pretty bad experience AND I had to go through it in high school of all things, but he still cared for me and didnt get freaked at all. That made me feel OK about it and I held my head up high. SO, the break up was pretty hard to deal with. But we remained friends.
To this day, I do still think about him every now and then.
I am proud of you! Healthy of you to be happy for them.....heartbreak is hard, but we learn from it too. It just wasnt meant to be for you and her but you will find who you are looking for.....
Good luck and I appreciate you opening up like that. Its not always easy...
I am feeling that way today too, with no obvious reasons! So I can relate. Just take the advice given on CS, take a breather and get some air, do something for yourself and it will pass.
My ex husband is Puerto Rican which makes my son bi-racial and he is STUNNING! If the children are raised with love and support, they can stand up to those that question or have an issue with their "mixed" ethnicity. I have been very straightforward in telling him about the prejudices that exist in the world and he is amazing at handling stuff as it comes. I am also lucky to be in an area that has a very diverse culture....
My answer to the question at hand (for what its worth) is of course I would date outside my own race and I find lots of different races attractive....
There are many colors in this world and they are all beautiful.....
OK, I am a thicker lady and I do work out and have a very busy lifestyle. I admit that I could do more to get into better shape but I carry myself well and stand tall. That being said, I also know that a lot of men prefer thinner women. I have just decided to let nature take it's course and I know I will meet a man who appreciates all of me, cellulite included!!!
You are a gorgeous lady and deserve someone who will love you for exactly who you are...both inside and out.
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RE: Child Support
HI,My mom and I are in that very same position. It took YEARS for my mom to get the state my father lives in to work with the attorneys, etc to start getting all of the back child support that my father owes. it finally happened about 6 years ago and she gets a check monthly that she splits with me. I use that money to take care of my son!
Good luck to you!