When did it all change? (31)
74vettNewark, Ohio USA2 Threads 11 PostsGeez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated?
Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.------ This thread is Archived ------
74vett: Geez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated? Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
Older and wiser maybe...so that narrows down about 90% of the people we would have considered as potentials 20 years ago!!!!!!!!!
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74vett: Geez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated? Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
Only perceptions change...everything else is a constant....
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Hugz_n_Kissez: AHHHHHHHH We were all young and stupid once....BUT you're suppose to learn from your stupidity..that's one of the laws of life...or you're destined to repeat until you do learn...I guess you must like to learn through repetition....
learning by repetion..
can be such a pain in the .....
nice to see you back
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rivame: learning by repetion..
can be such a pain in the .....
nice to see you back
can be such a pain in the .....
nice to see you back
hahaha cant even get the repitition right lol
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Hugz_n_Kissez: AHHHHHHHH We were all young and stupid once....BUT you're suppose to learn from your stupidity..that's one of the laws of life...or you're destined to repeat until you do learn...I guess you must like to learn through repetition....
I have ADHD and repetition does not even work ....
This wine is sooooo good!!!
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rivame: learning by repetion..
can be such a pain in the .....
nice to see you back
can be such a pain in the .....
nice to see you back
Thanx darlin..and ain't that the truth....
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Jose13: I have ADHD and repetition does not even work ....
This wine is sooooo good!!!
This wine is sooooo good!!!
I hear Riddlen works wonders.....
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74vett: Geez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated? Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
I think now a days very thing in life has beome too disposable.
and unfortunately that applies to relationships as well.
no one wants to put in the work it takes to create a longterm ..
and the net has created the opportunity for fantasy and instant relationships...shame really...
every thing is only a key stroke and in some cases ..a stroke away
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Personally, I don't even know where to begin to look to meet someone, even though I am around people all of the time. I work Mon-Fri and my weekends are filled with stuff for my son, family friends....my free time is limited. Also, I absolutely FEAR rejection and have no idea how to approach a man anymore. I am so out of practice!
In other words, I am of no help to you at all.....
In other words, I am of no help to you at all.....
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Boy it really changed didn't it?
Me and a friend of mine were talking about it tonight over dinner and a bottle of red wine..
The good old days (6 years ago) when I was turning down great guys..
And remembering this made me think..what the hell was wrong with me
Not to mention that I ended up with a guy who didn't deserve a second look
If I can only have the brains I have today and go back
Me and a friend of mine were talking about it tonight over dinner and a bottle of red wine..
The good old days (6 years ago) when I was turning down great guys..
And remembering this made me think..what the hell was wrong with me
Not to mention that I ended up with a guy who didn't deserve a second look If I can only have the brains I have today and go back ------ This thread is Archived ------
74vett: Geez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated? Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
Women are making better money than us now - and they simply don;t need us for anything......... ( well maybe one thing )
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jvaski: Women are making better money than us now - and they simply don;t need us for anything......... ( well maybe one thing )
nope not even that lol
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74vett: Geez, 20 yeras ago meeting someone was too simple! When did it get so complicated? Were a little older yes, and we've changed to some degree. But isn't meeting a [potential mate still the same goal? I'm kornfuzed. any input will be acceptable.
Hey dude!
Maybe therein lies the problem? 20 years ago when you were dating did you even think about her being a potential mate? I know I didn't. I just dated and eventually found a gal that I found myself wanting to spend my life with. Think maybe we all try to hard sometimes trying to capture what we once had instead of just letting things develop naturally. Jmo.------ This thread is Archived ------
StressFree: Only perceptions change...everything else is a constant....
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woody636: Hey dude! Maybe therein lies the problem? 20 years ago when you were dating did you even think about her being a potential mate? I know I didn't. I just dated and eventually found a gal that I found myself wanting to spend my life with. Think maybe we all try to hard sometimes trying to capture what we once had instead of just letting things develop naturally. Jmo.
Woody, you might be right. Isn't the old saying that when you stop looking is when you'll find someone?
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druidess6308: Woody, you might be right. Isn't the old saying that when you stop looking is when you'll find someone?
When you least expect it!
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druidess6308: Woody, you might be right. Isn't the old saying that when you stop looking is when you'll find someone?
woody636: When you least expect it!
Can you two unpack this concept a bit for me? I don't subscribe to that. If you are looking, you will find. If you are not looking, you not find.
I mean, if one is in total shutdown mode, then it's kinda hard to actually have somebody find you or you find him/her. However, if you are in a whatever open minded mode, and not really looking but kinda looking, then I can see how you may find somebody...and when you least expect it.
And that's another discussion..."when you least expect it". When do you most expect it? At bars? Social parties? At random bus stops?
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StressFree: Can you two unpack this concept a bit for me? I don't subscribe to that. If you are looking, you will find. If you are not looking, you not find.
I mean, if one is in total shutdown mode, then it's kinda hard to actually have somebody find you or you find him/her. However, if you are in a whatever open minded mode, and not really looking but kinda looking, then I can see how you may find somebody...and when you least expect it.
And that's another discussion..."when you least expect it". When do you most expect it? At bars? Social parties? At random bus stops?
I mean, if one is in total shutdown mode, then it's kinda hard to actually have somebody find you or you find him/her. However, if you are in a whatever open minded mode, and not really looking but kinda looking, then I can see how you may find somebody...and when you least expect it.
And that's another discussion..."when you least expect it". When do you most expect it? At bars? Social parties? At random bus stops?
Hey Stress!
What's happening bud? Okay, if you're in total shutdown, nothing is going to happen mainly because YOU won't let it. But, I think if you're open to the idea of having/starting a relationship it can happen when you least expect it. You were married before so lets go there. Were you actively seeking a wife/mate when you met your ex? My guess is not. But something made you two gravitate toward each other. I don't believe you can force a relationship to happen just because you want to find someone. If you meet someone, maybe even a casual conversation at a friends house, sometimes two people just (for lack of a better word) click. You hit it off right away. So now you go back for another look because you keep thinking about her/him. You enjoy just as much as the first time. And it just builds. Suddenly it hits you that you love this person and want to spend your lives together. You weren't really looking for this to happen, it just does.------ This thread is Archived ------
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