Speaking as a single guy who is certainly open to dating single parents, I wouldn't want to meet the kids until I knew the relationship was serious as well. I love kids and can act like a big kid as well (monkey bars STILL make my heart race). I think depending on how old the kids are certainly affects how soon to introduce the person you are dating. The older they are, like teenagers, they can much more easily understand the whole "dating" concept, the younger they get the more confusing it can be until they get down to infants.
Though not being a single parent and only having dated some single moms, I would have to say the best advice that I know of is to keep the kids out of it until you are sure the relationship is strong enough and will last. Then you can sit down with the kids and expain to them the situation, depending of course how old the kids are. My two cents.
Pucks: I went through something very similar with a very good friend of mine. Like you, I like everything about her. How she handles herself, her sense of humour and especailly the friendship we have. It took me a good month to work up the courage to ask her out because I didn't know how she felt for me and I didn't want to spoil the friendship. I finally decided that the friendship was strong enough to last through at least asking her out. She didn't accept my date, but when asking her out, I told her how I felt and that I didn't want to do something to jeapordize the friendship. She was flattered I asked but would rather remain good friends. I am glad I had the courage to ask her out, something I find VERY hard to do. We are still very good friends and can even joke around about it. I say when you are ready, tell her how you feel and simply ask her on a date. You never know, you may simply work better as friends, too. It is still worth the risk just so long as you don't lose a good friend in the process.
Thank you princess, I am patient and I am sure the right person will come along. I have a pretty big wall around my heart, but it's about time it came down.
You're a beautiful woman and you will find a man who gives you all the support and love you want. And I hope he makes you laugh, we all need someone like that!
And time is what it will take. Don't let anyone ever tell you it should take a certain length of time.
Celebrating your daughters life is the best way to honour and remember her. Once a year, on the day of my brothers passing, my family gathers in Winnipeg at his gravesite as a celebration of his memory. We joke around and often have a big laugh, but there are still tears and there will always be tears. Losing someone so close has taught me so much about myself and has brought my family closer together...they mean the world to me. I hope you have the same kind of support group around you, you shouldn't have to deal with this on your own. If you need to, I'll be glad to listen and offer whatever support I can.
coldlakeprincess: the loss of your daughter is devestating, I can only imagine the pain it causes you. I lost a brother 4 years ago to a medical condition that struck him down from perfect health and a very promising future. My parents were devestated and I they have both said that a parent should never outlive a child no matter how long or short that child's life is. I feel the loss of my brother every day and the only advice I can give is you never get over it, you just learn to live with it. I never want to get over the loss of my brother, he was an amazing man and I still try to live my life with his example in my head. Crying is still the best way to deal with the loss, it means you still feel, greive and think about it. No one can say how much time it should take for you to greive, you will know when you are done greiving.
Could part of the problem of some peoples depression be that they don't have a joyful outlet? They don't have a hobby or an activity that makes them feel good, relieves stress and helps them see clearly again? Many clinical cases of depression exist, not always a root cause for depression, just some chemical situation in the brain that gives the person feelings of sadness, loneliness and dispair. Talking to loved ones always is a good way to relieve the depression. Many people don't have that or feel they don't have that. I encourage everyone and anyone who reads this to let those people close to them that if they feel alone that they will always have you to listen to them. Many people aren't looking for answers, just a kind ear to listen to them and a shoulder to cry on. Thank you sweetkitty, I think you have two wonderful ears that I would like to bend one day....and you have mine to listen to you about anything as well two strong shoulders for you to lean on.
I have suffered through many bouts of depression, some mild, sometimes severe. I have never needed medication to get me through, thankfully. I learned to become self-aware of when I was feeling like that and combat it by doing things that make me happy again. Sometimes it's talking with my friends or family about what is bringing me down, sometimes it's just listening to happy music or going out to see a comic or an improv group to put me in better spirits. I know depression affects many, many people in so many ways. Some cannot get through it without a great deal of support. I don't think it's something to be ignored or dealt with lightly, I have seen the devestating effects it can have on people. We should all make sure we let the ones we love know they have someone they can talk to about anything, because that is what friends and loved ones are for. Talking doesn't solve the problem of depression, but it can certainly help people cope with it.
Which bar does everyone like? I'm fairly new to Edmonton, but I'm up for anything for a night for St. Patty's. I know the Druid will be PACKED, so if anyone else has an idea of where they might want to go.
A bartender, princess...awesome....admittedly, I'm not the drinker I used to be, two beers and I'm looking at my watch and yawning, but a get together is always a good idea. Though on St. Patrick's Day, the Guiness always tasts a little better than usual.
Valentine's Day is a day to do that little extra something special for the one you love. Yes, you should show how much you love someone year round, but there is nothing wrong with setting aside one day to have a big surprise, it's the spirit of the season, if you will.
Valentine's Day, or St. Valentine's Day is named after two Christian martyrs by the same name. Many religions and cultures had a day of love like Valentine's Day in one form or anther...basically it was a day for the exchange of items or gifts to loved ones. Days like this have been recorded as far back as 381 AD
I love to spend time in the mountians, hiking or camping. I work at solely indoor job and getting outdoors is my escape. Long chats in a pub over a good beer. Visiting museums, be it small town ag museum or the British National Museum.
I was born in Winnipeg as well, though many moves I lived there three separate times...it seems to be a place most Winnipegers return to...very strange
I don't know how many people know about this camp, but to me it sounds facinating. It is an option for parents to send children to a typical summer camp without the pressure of religion. It is a secular/humanist camp in the US and in Canada that encourages freedom of thought and expression. I will include the link here, but I would like to know what people think of it and if you have kids would you send them to it.
currently off Wimbldon Rd. But she is selling her place (after a year of fixing it up, it looks great!) and moving somewhere else, not sure where though.
I visited her for Christmas, it's so different, England vs. Canada...the age of England just blows away anything here in Canada....we just have a lot more space in between cities
I'm new to the site and I am soon to be new to a city. I just need some advice on what areas of Edmonton I should look at living in and which ones to avoid. I also want to know what rental compaines I should avoid, ones with bad properties or bad service. Any help would be great. Thanks
If this isn't the right forum, I am sorry, I just couldn't find an appropriate one. Thanks again.
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Speaking as a single guy who is certainly open to dating single parents, I wouldn't want to meet the kids until I knew the relationship was serious as well. I love kids and can act like a big kid as well (monkey bars STILL make my heart race). I think depending on how old the kids are certainly affects how soon to introduce the person you are dating. The older they are, like teenagers, they can much more easily understand the whole "dating" concept, the younger they get the more confusing it can be until they get down to infants.