Lady friend HELP (12)

I want some serious advice here from the ladies. Men feel free too.

I met this wonderful gal about a month ago. We have been hanging out lots. She is a cool friend. We are comfortable around each other and have similar interests. One thing she loves to do is go to our local junior hockey games. I died and went to heaven eh. And she drinks beer. Saaawwhheeett. We are always smiling, chatting and having a good time.
Ok so my dilemna is this......, i find her attractive, and i just like everything about her. She is not looking for anything serious at the moment. i love my friendship with her. However, I want to kiss this girl so bad, i have to control my drool when i am around here.

Advice please. Should i leave it be and enjoy the friendship or tell her how i feel?

Why or why not. Please explain why you have your view.

Pucks, this is a hard situation to be in but if l were you, l would tell her how l feel, see what she says. Ya never know she might change her mind if she knows how you feel about her.
Just remember to tell her that even if she isnt interested in you as more than a friend, that its ok and you still want to remain her friend and continue to do all teh fun things you and her do together.

Pucks, the reason that we as women say that we are not interested in anything serious is because we have been hurt. It is almost like a defense. I am sure that if you tell her how you are feeling, not only would she take it as a great compliment but I'm almost sure she would say that she is having some of the same feelings. If she isn't feeling the same way, the friendship between you shouldn't be damaged. Holding out on telling her leads her to believe that you don't have those feelings and she may find someone else. Make the first move.. Nothing to loose trust me!!

I totally agree!!

Even if it is simply a comment saying "I find myself quite attracted to you" at least you have put yourself forward...

Pucks: I went through something very similar with a very good friend of mine. Like you, I like everything about her. How she handles herself, her sense of humour and especailly the friendship we have. It took me a good month to work up the courage to ask her out because I didn't know how she felt for me and I didn't want to spoil the friendship. I finally decided that the friendship was strong enough to last through at least asking her out. She didn't accept my date, but when asking her out, I told her how I felt and that I didn't want to do something to jeapordize the friendship. She was flattered I asked but would rather remain good friends. I am glad I had the courage to ask her out, something I find VERY hard to do. We are still very good friends and can even joke around about it. I say when you are ready, tell her how you feel and simply ask her on a date. You never know, you may simply work better as friends, too. It is still worth the risk just so long as you don't lose a good friend in the process.

thanks for your advice everyone.

tonite we are going for a bite at her fav pub, then to the hockey game.

i dont think i am ready to say anything yet. Perhaps i am a chicken.

My gut feeling says its early. According to some of you ladies i am being gun shy it seems. I am nervous she will not hang out with me if i make a move. As it stands she is very comfortable around me now. I believe this coz she is always smiling and has yet to turn me down when i ask for a hang out.

Arg arg, the ladies should come with manual i tell you. At least i get some great advice from women and men on here.

thanks all.

sometimes Darren you don't have to DO anything at all..it "just happens naturally"...

If she is as comfortable with you as you are with her..the attraction is also there on her part i'm sure...when that first "kiss" comes...its going to have been a "mutual" thing...not a preplanned move on your part...

You may be thinking that you're too chicken to broach the subject, but that's because you are putting TOO much thought into it...sometimes the opportunity presents itself with no effort on your part whatsoever...and who knows if you're out to the pub with her tonight...what says it may not be tonight that it comes up....

Good luck

Don't leave anything to chance my friend...Myself personally...i'd rather take the chance and lose a potential friend, than not take a chance and lose a potential life mate...

Hi Pucks
Tammy here from Sicamous, BC
so she says not at the moment? Has she ever given you any indication that she may be available in the near future for you? Friends first is good, however, If she is not even thinking along the lines of someday with you, then you, with your drooling feelings, could be setting yourself up for a heart ache. I have never been in this situation, but I could imagine it would be very hard. Could you just be her friend forever, or would you always be hoping that some day she would come around? This is your heart we are talking about. If it were me, and I had this strong desire for a male friend, I would have to know if there was ever going to be a chance or not and then deal with it right away, so as not to set your heart up for a break, hoping for something that may never be.
Good Luck, here for you.
Tammy

hey Darren!

am I too late? are you still hanging out with that girl?

if not, then that sucks!

but, if YES, then I say tell her......tell her how you feel but in a more relaxed atmosphere so that she doesn't feel like you put her on a spot......the worse that can happen is that she will tell you not at this time but the best??? weeeeeeeeeeeellllllll, she would accept your invitation for a kiss..........and then everything will fall into play!

Do re-rehearse what you are gonna say, just say it......you may miss out on a great lifetime partner (as Urs said) or on the flip side, she may be missing out on the coolest guy around.....

much luck to you babes!