Wow, yeah thats pretty messed up... cheating on a soldier of all people. Of course a good way to spot people who just want to party and are on here to use people. They make themselves sound as perfect as possible. I at least tell people I'm divorced, which really should prove I have sincerity or why wouldn't I just lie about that.
*Shrug*
I find the more motivated and smart ladies attractive anyhow. I've spoken with some pretty awesome people on this site recently. They are out there, even local.
I thought of an example... So I dated a woman once who continually would ask me if I was sure I really wanted to date her. (note to self: can't fix self confidence issues) Anyhow...
I started out wanting to date her, and told her that. However, after the 9th time she asked me if I was sure... I wasn't sure anymore. How could I have confidence in a woman who didn't have confidence in herself?
Long story short, its just another way you learn what you're looking for.
That is relaxing...I like this idea best so far. Not to say I dont appreciate the suggestions about my bike from the ladies (I've thought of that one already :P).
I went to a comedy club on my last date. We laughed for two hours straight during the show.
For those of us that have stressful lives but are still hitting the dating world, it just makes the dates themselves stressful. I'm a student so my date budget is like $50 a week... or more if I skip meals. Heh. So my question to the Connecting Singles Community is:
What are some 'economically smart' dates that relieve stress?
She was totaly in the right to do what she did if they weren't dating yet... I mean as right as that is on its own basis... But if he's driving that long and that far. There is obviously something he felt she had that the other 14,000 women between his house and hers didnt have. There are choices a woman can make to have a man feel wanted, and choices a woman can make to have a man feel expendable. No man that puts that effort into a woman wants to have her make him feel expendable. Even if he is... Its a pride thing. So if she really liked him, then she screwed up.
I joined because of the fact you can see what a person is like before talking to them. And also partially because you're out there for others to see, I have to agree, this site has been a waste of time from the stand point of Colorado. Women on these sites generally don't initiate conversations because guys outnumber the ladies to the point they don't have to.
Buuuuutttttt. Thats how it is in real life too. I've probably only been asked out 4 times in my life. Every other woman I've been interested in, I had to make the move because they wouldn't. And if I'm guna stick around somewhere I'm supposed to make the move, I at least want a place I know I'll get a response.
I would honestly prefer to walk up to a woman who is standing with her friends. And get turned down in front of a group... then just be ignored.
I guess in a word, I'm looking for honesty. Someone's heart to grant me amnesty. In truth I know I seek attention. From someone with dimension. And no, I can't stand pretension. I'm looking for someone real. The type who won't conceal. I guess in a phrase, I hope you're the one. You make me wonder how it all begun. And you're not the type to flee or run. You've shown me integrity and trust. But with you here I'm simply nonplussed. I guess I never knew what I wanted. I've only seen what you've flaunted.
A smoky room, a small cafe They come to hear you play And drink and dance the night away I sit out in the crowd And close my eyes Dream you're mine But you don't know You don't even know that I am there
I wish that I was in your arms Like that Spanish guitar And you would play me through the night 'Till the dawn I wish you'd hold me in your arms Like that Spanish guitar All night long, all night long I'd be your song, I'd be your song
Steal my heart with every note you play I pray you'll look my way And hold me to your heart someday I long to be the one that you caress with tenderness And you don't know You don't even know that I exist
I wish that I was in your arms Like that Spanish guitar And you would play me through the night 'Till the dawn I wish you'd hold me in your arms Like that Spanish guitar All night long, all night long I'd be your song, I'd be your song
Te sientas entre la gente Cierras tu ojos Y suenas que soy tuyo Pero yo no siquiera se que estas ahi Me gustaria tenerte entre mis brazos amor
I sit out in the crowd And close my eyes Dream you're mine And you don't know You don't even know that I exist
I wish that I was in your arms Like that Spanish guitar And you would play me through the night 'Till the dawn I wish you'd hold me in your arms Like that Spanish guitar All night long, all night long I'd be your song, I'd be your song
With the sleep comes the worry of a time that will pass. With the deep comes a furry as the parts come to a mass. As we weep we start to bury who we are among the class. So we cast a shadow on the strength of thoughts and our needs. As we follow through the length of our plots and our deeds. Who we are is a measure of the world as a whole That's why we must treasure the simplicity of the tool It brings about a way to speak with the group As our children stray and fall into the loop We must break the chain or all will be for not A shelter from the rain would only get us caught It needs to be right and in has to be done Or the fright will consume us as we reach for the gun.
I won't be that guy that lies. If we're approaching a stranger, its probably the looks... but if its say, a co-worker or a person we've met a few times and we decide why not? Chances are they fall into some of these listed items.
1)Happy Outlook: the more we hear a person complain... the less we want to talk to them 2)Good Posture: sounds silly, but posture shows us guys about you're confidence level. 3)Eye Contact: not every guy is a player... we look for indication of interest... 4)Smile: kinda goes with number three... indication of interest... but smiles rock anyhow. 5)Thin/Athletic: its not all about appearance, we see the body as a measurement of how active you are. Guys like sports, and active things like hiking and snowboarding. 6)Independence: most guys are sick of girls that want everything given to them. If we think you can handle yourself and wont cling, we're more likely to want the clinging more :)
just a couple thoughts, any other's guys? Ladies? …. I know the ladies aren't oblivious to everything that attracts a man...
Over a year ago when I last would say. Love was gone and I had lost my way. But healing comes in a weird array. Some take pills and others simply pray.
I wont take the time, to disclose what healed me. I wont waste my rhyme, to define what I personally see. No matter the form of faith, a friend loves and forgives too. No matter the form of sorrow, a friend will pull you through.
Help you? How? Date ideas? Or do you just not like the feeling in general? If that’s it you’re screwed. If you do like the feeling. The best cure is to just spend time with them. The proximity helps.
You could always watch a few movies if you’re alone. I recommend comedies to set yourself in the upper of the mood swings.
The eating; If you cannot eat, then you’re obviously nervous, which means either you haven’t told him how you feel, or you for some reason don’t know for sure if he feels the same. Tell him.
The sleeping: If you cannot sleep, its because you feel you have unresolved business and it probably relates back to the eating. Tell him.
The concentrating at work; If you can’t concentrate on work. Well who could with that much on their mind and no sleep. Tell him.
I wouldn't be able to tolerate... Jealousy and Spite
When someone lets their fears of someone else’s value rule them. And when someone takes those fears and acts on them. It destroys much more then a simple lie. I guess I choose these two because they comment specifically on the end result rather then the problem starter.
I prefer people stick to the effort they already put in. You can see a lot about a person by the effort they put into things. What we are in the eyes of others is defined by what we do. I have a higher expectation of someone who will post a clear picture of themselves. If I’m not drawn to someone’s profile I guess I just won’t read it. But then again, isn’t that the whole reason this website has forums, so the community has other chances to see an individual for who they are other than a number and a “mug shot?”
Think of a profile as a resume and interview, some people go to an interview thinking the conversation will only go one-way. They will answer a few questions and maybe get the job. The folks that put the effort in and are committed to the search, are also usually the ones who interview the interviewer and leave with a sense of expectations from both sides of the table.
What I wonder is, why don’t people smile in their profile pics?
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Favorite thing to do on a date?
Wash park? Thats 2 miles from my house :) I love that park, I totally agree. Or the ice cream place near there - Bonnie Brae.