i have my guard up and with good reason. i've allowed my guard to drop with several people and everytime i've been hurt. enough is enough. so i'll keep my guard up, thank you very much! :0) until i find someone worthy, that is.
i think froggy hit it right on the head. getting into a relationship and having a 50/50 chance that your mate might die can really scare a woman. anyone really. so don't take it personal. i know a lot of woman who have preservations about dating a police officer or a firefighter because of the risk of their occupation. but, love is love. when you find it, you'll know.
right no kameron aka 2good2b_bad is making me cry because he hasn't been on in so long. :0( i miss him. he's always complaining i don't "talk" to him and now that i'm on the forums he's nowhere to be found. go figure!!!!!!
and many of you make me laugh with your friendly banter. keep it up guys. it's nice to see friends enjoying each others company.
i never really talked to her, but saw her on the forums alot. she was a crack up and will be missed. she seems like a really good person and a really good friend.
i say do it. you never know how a little gesture like that can put a smile on someones face. i know if i got flowers froma secret admirer i'd feel like a princess for the whole day!
i agree it's the things that you have in common that help create a lasting bond. but it's also the differences in people that can strengthen a relationship. i want someone i can teach and also learn from. someone that can show me things i've never seen and can open my eyes to the world.
i don't think it's a bad thing to talk to more than one person. but that's where the age old rule "honesty is the best policy" comes in. i personally would let them know. i wouldn't name names, but i'd definitely let them know, so they don't feel like i lied.
i tend to attract much older guys. i'm 22, i don't need 35-45 year old guys asking me out. i don't have a "daddy syndrome". i like guys my own age. i also attract guys that are not available. sorry, but i'm not up for being "the other woman".
i agree. once you live with someone you get to see how they really are in their personal space. plus, if you can live with someone, be around them most of your time, and not get sick of them then it can be a long term relationship.
my positivity. i try to stay away from negative people because often they hang on to you and try to make you a negative person also. i know we all have problems, but there's always tomorrow. what doesn't kill ya, makes ya stronger!
i think if someone says they're falling for you and you feel the same way then let them know that. by all means. on the other hand, if someone says they're falling for you and you don't feel the same, catch them, then let them down easy. make it known that you're not interested like that, or that you'd be better off as friends. unless they don't take the hint. then you might have to put it in not-so-nice terms. i think there's always warning signs. he's acting distant, he doesn't call as often, or when you call him he says he's too busy to talk. if you choose to ignore the signs, then yes, you have to take some of the blame.
i use to have little hiding places, but i think i was too good at that because i would always forget where i hid money *lol* but i moved three months ago and while i was packing i found all my little hiding places. so that was pretty cool.
RE: what the heck are we supposed to do, if we all have our guard up?
i have my guard up and with good reason. i've allowed my guard to drop with several people and everytime i've been hurt. enough is enough. so i'll keep my guard up, thank you very much! :0) until i find someone worthy, that is.