Going through an accountant may save you money vs. a firm that just deals with bankruptcy's. I was also advised that proposals don't make you look better than filing bankruptcy. Ask questions, such as how much can a vehicle you own be worth, and if your house doesn't have much equity in it.........not worth selling. Bankruptcy is VERY common these days. Through circumstances and bad luck, it doesn't take much to not be able to financially recover. Life does go on afterwards, just don't expect to be able to build up your credit, or get credit again anytime soon.
Had an ex-boyfriend as well, where the posessive and controlling thing was to blame. When the excuse is 'he wants you all to himself' or doesn't trust his friends, It should be a red flag to run for the hills. 'Spotlight' song by Jennifer Hudson says it all.
We all would like to think that 'all we need is love' but that just isn't true. When you are dealing with someone with no job, no car, no ambition etc. what do you have? When you work hard for your money, after a while, you will get tired of the loser that wants to take and never give. We all would like to believe that love is most important, and yes money comes and goes, however, when you are treated like the sugar mama ( or daddy) and their hand is out ALL THE TIME you need to move on. It will only build up a resentment when you remain poor together. Been there, done that!!!
First of all, be glad that you are seeing this with an outsiders perspective. What we tolerate and what someone else tolerates are two entirely different things. It is also good that you put your children in their rightful place as being a life-long commitment. One can only hope that when this 'friend' decides that they have had enough, that you will be there to support them and love them unconditionally. However, since like quitting any addiction, it takes time and they will have setbacks as it may have alot of issues involved (financial, children, religion etc. ). That waiting for that day, for them to want a way out, may not come. You have to decide if you can support that person or have to walk away.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there Personally, I would not give my number or email to someone I just met in the grocery store. However, I agree that you should meet soon after chatting online, to cut to the chase on if you have any chemistry or are interested in going any further. No one wants to waste their time, and if you both are honest online, you can decide if the person's basics match before you even agree to meet.
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RE: Bankruptcy
Going through an accountant may save you money vs. a firm that just deals with bankruptcy's. I was also advised that proposals don't make you look better than filing bankruptcy. Ask questions, such as how much can a vehicle you own be worth, and if your house doesn't have much equity in it.........not worth selling. Bankruptcy is VERY common these days. Through circumstances and bad luck, it doesn't take much to not be able to financially recover. Life does go on afterwards, just don't expect to be able to build up your credit, or get credit again anytime soon.