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I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Well, as far as i know...it's just over two hours, depending on whereabouts you are, a bit far, but not as far as where you're from!...lol

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Haha!
Sounds good to me!
Not sure if i can find any Ben and Jerry's around here though, but i'll just go to Dairy Queen and find something just as great! I really love the movie White Chicks, never fails to make me laugh, so i might have to watch that too!
Aw, you're only in Canada for another week and a half? That sucks, but i guess you gotta get back home, i'm sure you're making the most of your time here eh?
I would really love the company, i have yet to meet anyone other than my ex from CS, so that would be awesome...should have a drink or something....and pizza!...lol
Take er easy, and keep smiling, it's contagious!

RE: Ask Krista :):)

Thanks Krista. Yeah, it was quite a shock, but i'm getting back on my feet, have taken the week off of work to work through this. You're right, he didn't deserve me and i know i can do better, but it doesn't take the pain away, or help my confidence any, but i'm woeking on that! I thought i had found the man of my dreams, but i was dead wrong...wish i would've been more perceptive earlier on, but i was so taken by him, i was so in love...but alas, he did not love me as much as i thought he did, or even could someday. I can't wait for him to come to his senses, i don't want him anymore, eventhough i still love him, it's not how it used to be...i could never trust him again, and without trust, you have nothing. His loss.
I am definitely gonna take my time to heal and am only looking for friends right now, but someday, i will open my heart again and let a more deserving man in.
I wasn't looking for anything either when i joined, no expectations....but then there he was, i just knew i had to have him from the moment i laid eyes on him...don't get me wrong though, i have some great memories of our time together, and i have learned a lot from this experience, so i am thankful for that at least, just not the pain involved. Eventhough he will always hold a place in my heart, he was my first love afterall, i can live a better life without him in it. Rebounds are no fun, i agree, it's not fair to the other party, if you are not completely over someone...so i will work on my bitterness towards him, so that i can truly be devoted to another. I have a lot more time for myself now, and i will do things to keep me busy, hang with my buddies, etc.

I will e-mail ya when i get a chance, but i have been receiving so many flowers and messages, it's hard to keep up!...lol Thanks for the support, muchly appreciated!

Take care Krista!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thanks Krista!
Oh, i will indeed check your thread out, thanks!
Luck? I may need some of that!...lol
My wisdom teeth are hopefully gonna come out August 11th...i think...i need them out soon though! I have been trying to eat, but i can't eat anything solid food, so right now soup is the main dish...of course ice cream will fit in there somewhere, as well as jello and pudding...i just can't eat pizza, my favourite!
Ah well, i'll be sure to indulge heavily with the ice cream, though it's not very nutritious!...lol

Glad your parents had fun! On my way to your thread, see ya there!
Take care my friend!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Hey Krista, no problem, no need to explain, just glad you're back!
I am doing better, but i have lost 4 pounds in 3 days, not cool! However, that's not all because of the breakup, i have to get my wisdom teeth out, the gums are really swollen, and it hurts a lot to eat!
How are you doing, and what do your parents think of Canada?
Take care!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Aw, dang it! I can't even send you a flower...i guess i have to wait 'til later!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Hiya there Roxanne!
I had wanted to thank you for sending me a flower the other day, but i couldn't ,your profile was hidden ...perhaps i will take the opportunity now....Great to see ya again! Thanks for your support, hope you are doing well and that only happiness and luck come your way, take care and have a wonderful day!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

That is a great statement, wow! Thank you Lutz, so true!
Don't worry, head is held high...i will move forward again!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Aw, thank you, but your response here is more than enough!
It's funny, ever since Saturday(the breakup), my computer has been acting up, like it is feeling my pain...lol
I know there are plenty more men out there, but because i am only looking for friends now, it is less likely for them to send me anything, eventhough i will be open to friendship growing into something more, i am wounded at the moment and it would not be fair to get into a relationship until my soul heals and my heart is mended...until the bitterness is gone, i need time to heal myself!

Take care!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

You are so very right Lydia...but for every upset, there is always some happiness somewhere in here. One of the greatest quotes is "when one door closes, another door opens". I think the floodgates of friendship have opened up for me here...so that is something very positive already. The people here are great...caring, kind, compassionate, supportive...true friends.
Thank you Lydia for your imput...and i will survive!
Take care as well!

RE: Ask Krista :):)

I must ask Krista...not sure if you heard, but my boyfriend and i broke up! He broke up with me in fact after 9 months! My question would be...will i find a man who genuinely loves me, where distance is not an issue? I know i deserve it, but it will be hard to put my heart on the line, i truly loved and care for him with everything i had.
What do you think? If you want to know that whole story...see thread "i just got dumped...etc.", in the Relationship advice category.

Hello by the way!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone again who has responded, as well as the many who have sent me dozens of flowers and messages offering their comfort, support and much needed words of encouragement.
For the ones on this page(#4) - Wayne, Justin, Roxanne, Jax, RainbowSlider, Kieth_Male, Janice, Dr. Wave, Belushi, Shallyjean, Rockstar, diogenes and Fetis30(hope it didn't miss anyone! Sorry if i did.)...i have found it difficult to respond to each person's response, haven't found the time, so for those who i haven't gotten back to, i am sorry. Please know that i have read all of your comments and taken the wonderful advice into consideration...as well, i very much appreciate the support that so many have offered unconditionally to me, total strangers even.

I have still had trouble sleeping, but am getting stronger every day, though the 3 pounds i have lost since Saturday from not being able to really eat much, has not come back. I have only slept nine hours, if that...in the past two nights. On top of all of this, i dreamt of 'him' last night.
I will move one...i know i am better off without him, but it still hurts and i know it will for awhile. I just thought i found someone that truly loved, respect, cared for and appreciated me...though in my heart i knew it wasn't meant to be, i deserve more than him.

Thinking about it know, the last four months were not nearly as happy and positive as the first five...my self-esteem and confidence dropped, my worries and fears elevated...but i pushed those feelings aside in the hopes that if i gave him time HE needed, he would grow to love me the way i wanted, the way i needed to be loved...i know now, i was wrong in thinking that way...i should've been the one to put an end to it before it got to this point, but i didn't for fear of hurting him, the last thing i wanted to do. I still love him though, but not the kind of love i had for him in the beginning...i could never be with him again and never want to. He has hurt me more than words can say.

I have chosen to take the control back in my life, to put one foot in front of the other, to step forward...it's a long road ahead, but i am ready for the journey that awaits me. I am staying on here, i couldn't possibly leave, as i have made some wonderful friends and met some amazing people...i am mostly here for the forums now, and here for the friends...if love comes my way again, i will take another chance at it...but not until i heal.

I hope you all have a wonderful day...I have always said..."Behind the clouds, the sun is shining", May only sun shine come your way!
Hugs to everyone!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you everyone for all of your support, i was unable to get much sleep last night, so i am still very exhausted, and unfortunately have to work today! I work with dogs, around 35 or so today, so that will be very difficult indeed!
I will respond to each one of your responses when i have more time, which will probably be later, when i get back from work. I also want to take this opportunity to thank those who have sent me the numerous flowers and messages offering me much needed words of encouragement and support. I need that more than anything right now...i feel blessed to be here, to be able to share the joys, the laughter, as well as the sorrows and tears. I am so grateful...i know i will get through this, but it will take every ounce of enery i have...or what i have left, which isn't much.
Take care everyone and have a wonderful day!:bye:

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Wow!
That quickly eh?
You're a sweetie!
Thanks! Gotta love the effects of ingesting alcohol!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you to everyone who has responded. Your supportive words and encouragement hits home for me...warms what's left of my broken heart. I am grateful to be blessed with all of the wonderful people on the forum, and eventhough i am hurting beyond belief...i am happy with what i have...happy to have the great memories of the times with my now ex...there will always be a place for him in my heart...and someday, when the time is right i will make room for another.
Bless you all for your kindness and sincerity, because of this i think i will have an easier time getting through this, this has been very therapeutic for me, very helpful.
I hope everyone has a great night, as i am going to attempt to get some sleep, though i am not sure how successful it will be, i need it though, i am exhausted!

Good night everyone, and may you all have only the sweetest of dreams!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Aw thanks!

Haha!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

I will try, i am just so distraught right now...i am grateful though for the life i have, and the special people i am graced with.

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you Tracy!
This is the worst i have felt in a long time. I won't hesitate to message you, you are great friend...though i know you have enough on your plate as is, thank you though, happy to have your support.

I know, an hour and a half is not far...it was mostly that he said he wanted to see me more during the week, and see more of his friends on weekends...which at this time isn't feasible, unless i move closer to him, which i would've been willing to consider had he discussed it with me prior to him making the final decision...that's what hurts most, this could've been avoided with better communication...hopefully he'll learn from this! He is 3 years younger than me, so perhaps he's just not at the same point in his that i am at...we are opposites in many ways...i thought opposites attract, but i guess can't remain intact.

Thanks again Tracy!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Actually, i did ask him...he said no, of course...he said he respects me too much, and himself as well to do that...but still i am skeptical, he has damaged my trust...not sure how genuine and sincere he is. However, i do know one thing, he would have very little time to have another one on the side...he has a very busy lifestyle. If there is another woman...he can go and spend all of that time with her now, but he may have made the biggest mistake of his life...the grass is not always greener on the other side!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thanks Paws, i may just take ya up on that offer, very much appreciated!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thanks Trish! I do kinda resemble that after a good days cry...i have tea bags at my disposal, so i could make use of those! Those other items mentioned, well...i guess i need to go shopping!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

You're right...i need to let things happen the way they need to...and i know i'm not alone. I love how supportive everyone is here, i really, really appreciate it, the forums are full of wonderful people, and i am lucky to be here, lucky to have you all to talk to!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Aw too bad!
I am a long ways away, i know!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thanks, i needed that! I agree, i can't dwell on why or how this happened, life is indeed too short.

I know for certain, it will be awhile before i can possibly allow another man into my life, my trust has been damaged, but perhaps in time, and with the right man...i can open my heart again, but for now, closed for repairs, indefinitely. I too believe that i deserve someone who will love me and want to be with me, through anything.

Thanks!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you for your response. Not sure if crazy glue is going to be the remedy for my heart, as it's shattered into millions of tiny pieces, but time can heal all wounds i believe, or i hope!
I agree with the distance thing, but i guess he just wasn't willing to make the extra effort...i told him i'd go to the ends of the earth for him, just to be with him, but that doesn't matter anymore, that wasn't enough for him. He must not have loved me that deeply, or that much to make it work.

I know tommorrow is a new day, and anything's possible...but until then, i don't know if i'll be able to sleep tonight.

I need all the hugs i can get!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you. Great statement, so true...i did have some expectations, high hopes for the future, but my hopes were crushed with one statement..."I don't think this is going to work". I dreaded hearing that, and hoped i never would. I will be more careful next time...not to give myself so freely. I appreciate your imput.

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you langley! You are so right. I should've trusted my intuition, it was right all along, but i chose to ignore it, because i didn't want to believe the truth. i didn't want to accept it. I will be more perceptive in the future. Thanks for your insight, muchly appreciated!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thanks a bunch...i did get the humour in it!
I am glad to be surrounded by such amazing people in here, like i said before, you're one of the great ones!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Thank you, i did really love him, still do, always will, but i guess it wasn't reciprocated.
I feel i am embracing those feelings, but i can't help but think of what more i could've done to change this outcome...i guess it was meant to happen like this.

Thanks for your advice, i will do my best to work through all these feelings, no matter how difficult the process...i will come out stronger in the end. Take care!

I just got dumped! :( I am absolutely devastated! Need advice please....

Yeah, i guess i got the short end of the stick

Thank you though, but i feel a bit at loss now...i was so in love with him...and i can't just stop those feelings, but i'll try to work through it.