Some very interesting points made on this thread. I feel informed, wish I knew some of this when I signed up.Or at least thought about these things.
Maybe I am looking at this all wrong. I got to talk to a very beatiful woman for three weeks, or a very sensitive man???,,,OH,,, hold on ,,,,Never mind!
Have you ever been to michigan? You look alot like someone I went to high school with, but I think you are too young for that.(not hitting on you,lol)
I have talked to a few woman face to face b4 and seemed there was a 30 sec delay. lol. Because what they was saying didnt make any sense,,,,lol. (Nothing implied to you) I Thank you for your comments.
Here's a question for pro's of this online thing. How long do you talk with someone b4 you ask about a phone call or seeing them on a web cam? And if there are problems with the person about having contact in this manner, maybe says too soon for that, how long b4 you just end it?? Seems, at this point to me, its a total waste of time to talk to someone for a week or more,just to find out they wont contact you this way. To be sure they are real. A vicious cycle. I have no desire to even talk to anyone for dating online now. Like im on the rebound from dating. All over someone that I never met,but sure thought I knew them.. So SAD. lol I do thank you all for your comments. I am way stronger(than what it may seem) to let this stop me, but it has put a pause in my go go. lol
When I first read your post, I was a little offended. But after thinking about it, decided why should your opinion bother me. Hell,, you could be correct and its good to see someone say what they are thinking.I will keep your comment in mind. All I can say is this happened quickly. Was talking to this person one day after signing up.Looking back,, I was caught offgaurd, but I assure you. I DID learn something from this. I have been looking at some of the forums, seems this is not uncommon. Maybe my post will help someone else. I am a little curious what about my profile makes you think the online dating is not ready for me.lmao. Or is it more because I let this happen to me.(I realize that could be hard to answer, if just as overall feeling is hard to pinpoint why)
I agree completly, we talked alot. It seemed so legitimate. I am still not sure what to think to be honest. A few thinks that keep crossing my mind that I have not shared are. I was the pushing for us to meet that night, but she did agree to it. But said all along that she wanted to talk first on phone in previous communications and wanted to meet publicly. One week previous to the night I drove out there, we was going to meet and she had given me the address then ,but changed our minds. These thoughts drive me crazy. That maybe there might be an exsplanation. But her silence now tells me alot.No matter. real or not,, I have got my sign,,lol as someone had stated.
And ,,yes I can cope with this. I have no choice and will be much more causious in the future.
I will send profile name to you in an e-mail .When I do please dont put it on this forum or share it with anyone. But do put what you think about it on here.
This may sound silly after all your responses. But there is a small chance that this is a real person, I agree at this point ,very small. But if is real, would be terrible if they were flooded with e-mails or views from members.
Thanks for the responses everyone. Looking back at it now I guess I was not thinking correctly. The signs were there I just didnt read them. You all made some very good points.I really do feel a whole lot better. Really glad I posted.I wasnt sure if I could because of the forum rules. I figured the most that could happen is they will kick me off and I was thinking about leaving anyhow. I had to tell/ask someone about this. Thank You,,
Well YES,,,,lol. But we had talked about alot if you know what I mean. Im not ruling out the male thing here at this point. That bothers me.The thought is terrible.
Well when I seen it was not an apartment, and how dark it was in the area. I didnt get out of my truck.I knew I had been lied to at that point.Sure didnt see it coming.
The phone thing did bother me, and makes me believe some of the things you all are saying. She told me she didnt have a phone but I asked her, "didnt you tell me you had a dial up connection"? She said yes,,,,I didnt push it. I guess I didnt want to believe. Live and learn,,,
I agree,, it is very strange. Why would anyone go through all that. Time and energy. Just to end it in this manner. It makes NO sense to me. I did not give any information other than my phone number.I did drive by the next day in the daylight. There is not a apartment building anywhere in the area.I have no idea if the address has anything to do with it. Honestly I am done with it.Not going to track anything.
This is my first online exspience. I think it would be a night mare for anyone.Why me??? Thing is if she would have asked for a address. I probally would have told her anything she asked.lol
I am new to this online dating thing. Made me a profile and then looked at a few profiles. Next day I got a e-mail from one of the woman/profiles I was looking at. Long story short, we started talking alot,,alot. Moved to Yahoo IM and was talking almost every night,for hours, for about 3 weeks. I gave her my phone number but she said she was too shy to call and she did not have a phone. We talked about alot of very personell things and some intimate things and both agreed that we wanted to meet each other badly.This was to be a LTR and we had discussed this. We was getting along extremely well.We always talked in the late nites and 3 nights ago we fianally decided for me to go to her Apartment to meet. I got an address and directions and was on my way. The last thing she said was "I like the sound of that hug. I will try to be laid back and relaxed as you are." Well It was mid-nite BTW and about a 20 minute drive in 20 degree wheather. But I was on my way. I found the address right where she said it would be. But it was no Apartment. It was a very dark house out in the middle of nowhere. I turned around in the driveway and went back home. I have been trying to ask her about this ever since but I get no response. I am totally baffled. This is a nightmare.I spent alot of time talking with this woman.(IF it is a woman) I feel like I have been used and abused.
I am really bothered by this. Tell me what you think?
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Online dating Nightmare. (long)
I agree,, but even as a new guy to this oline thing, I believe this thread has brought up some good points.