Why do women always blame the men for the problems in a relationship. I think I would have been willing to work on the issues rather than run away which was done to me. Some folks expect the honeymoon period of a relationship to last forever but reality always sets in. One of our main problems was that I could not accept her going ballistic if I contradicted her in a decision as opposed to discussing the merits of each persons point of view in a rational way. The second problem was that I was often told that I was not jealous enough, which was percieved as not caring enough. I paid a high price for resisting being dominated. I think she wanted to party more than me as I figured i had got that out of my system in my 20's and 30's Finally there was a lack of communication on both sides.
Nah but I did hear a good quote the other day in a film on Sky about a chap who broke up with his girlfriend He said "I loved her from the first kiss on the lips till the last squeeze of the trigger".
Show me a person who can be objective and pragmatic about rejection and I will show you someone who is economical with the truth. I said what my instinct was, not that I was going to act on it. Im not going to start being negative in that way at this stage of my life. The people who handle rejection with ease are the ones who never really immersed themselves fully in a relationship. Both men and women are guilty of using their partners as glorified F buddies. The difference is I cared too much for my own good but c'est la vie
I was dumped by my girlfriend of three and a half years. She says Im a nice chap but that the life we shared was not enough for her. I have been sad for the last two months because of that decision. I am finding the concept of just being friends demeaning.
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Why do women always blame the men for the problems in a relationship. I think I would have been willing to work on the issues rather than run away which was done to me. Some folks expect the honeymoon period of a relationship to last forever but reality always sets in.One of our main problems was that I could not accept her going ballistic if I contradicted her in a decision as opposed to discussing the merits of each persons point of view in a rational way. The second problem was that I was often told that I was not jealous enough, which was percieved as not caring enough. I paid a high price for resisting being dominated.
I think she wanted to party more than me as I figured i had got that out of my system in my 20's and 30's
Finally there was a lack of communication on both sides.