Kind of awkward to 'abide by a law or leave' when the law in question is introduced many years AFTER they arrive, or even after they were born in that country.
They are suddenly being told 'what was once legal now isn't'.
One could say, if Belgium was willing to welcome these people, and use them to cotribute to the workforce, perhaps they should respect these peoples rights to wear what they wish?
I quite agree, but this is not exclusively a male thing. When people choose a partner, they choose 'them', and sadly, in the majority of cases, they 'accept' the kids are 'part of the deal'. Male or female, this remains the same.
It is for this reason that I am glad I have custody of my 2 year old. I told my ex that any guy who wanted her would not want her for our son, he would simply accept my son, and could never be a father figure to him.
I know it sounds simplistic, but... IF you are able to meet and form a relationship with someone, perhaps a single parent father might have vastly more empathy with your own children. As yours and his grow together, as they play and learn together etc.. it could form a much tighter bonding process between both parents and their respective children, I know, I have been there.
I would be hard pushed to form a relationship now with any woman that did not have children of her own for exactly the reasons you have stated above. My sons are not a part of me, they are all of me.
You highlighted in bold "And also, could not the same be said of just about everyone on here given that we are, for the most part, single? Should we all have been more careful in our choice of partner?"
But you seem to have missed the point of what I was saying. It is actually the bit you didn't highlight thats was most relevant.
As for that which you did highlight... you will see within that sentence, that it says "just about everyone" not "everyone", which was intended to discount the small minority such as yourself.
My foremost point remains that it is harsh to say to the OP, who may have had many good years with the child father before their break up, "next time be more careful with your choice of men".
Might we safely assume that they likely had many happy years together before things went wrong (given that the child is now 11) ?
Yes, the way this guy is acting is dispicable, but can we safely say the OP would not have seen this coming throughout their good times?
No... it's a bit harsh to say "next time be more careful with your choice of men".
And also, could not the same be said of just about everyone on here given that we are, for the most part, single? Should we all have been more careful in our choice of partner?
My ex was considerably younger than myself, and I mean by over 20 years... for 4 years we had a very close and loving relationship... we also had a (planned) child... our respective ages didn't even come into it.
Just for the record, the fact that we are no loger together is not an issue related to age.
Personally, I don't thik it matters a damn what age two people are... if they work together, then let those who frown shove it up their backsides.
Seriously, most of the time, people who pass judgement are plain jealous.
Anyone, give me one solid, watertight reason why any person should not find love, companionship and enjoyment is someone who is significantly younger or older than themselves?
And please, don't give me wishy-washy answers like "It's just not right" or "They won't have anything in common", because thats complete rot.
And yes... in case anyone wishes to question... I would be fine with one of my own children being involved with someone of a significantly different age. Thier happiness is vastly more important to me than how many years their chosen partner has been on the planet.
Those who tend towards people of a similar age to themselves tell me, the happiness you seek from a partner, would you deny it to someone else just because their loved one is younger or older than they are?
It really pisses me off that society judges people on their physical age rather than their emotional and mental age. Not ALL younger people are immature, and not ALL older people have forgotten how to have fun.
Its about Love, life, fulfillment, happiness.... not about age!!!
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RE: Lost a Family Member today
I am not a man who prays, but that does not make my condonlences to yourself and your family any less sincerely felt or meant.