well after an offer like that ..........what can a lady say??? lol However i would like to hear what everyone else has to say and then i shall see what all can fit in my suit case!!!
Ok i have been feeling blue due to the obvious other thread and would love to be cheered up and i have come up with and idea that just might do that.
If i was to say that i was going on holiday next week just like that, can you give me three things that i should take with me that could either cheer me up, make me feeeeeeeeeeeel good, enjoy and i mean anything. lol It could even be the suggestion of a person to put in my suitcase . lol So here goes............who, what, why and well just tell meeeeeeeeee !! Right go for it............tis only fun!!
Wow Langley...........i really feel your hurt in that letter and thankyou for sharing it with me. I bet there are thousands of mums out there feeling the same way as we do right now. He still has not made contact but i know he is okay. I sense it because if there was something wrong his girlfriends would be in touch immediately and she has not. I have deliberately chosed now not to send out a search party.............only my love so that he knows ........no matter what i am still here for him.
It is really weird as he gave me no trouble as a child...........no back cheek until recently.lol no tantrums like his sis and has always been so helpful. His sis gave me so much grief from the age of 11 until now and she is 15 in Jan that i felt like handing her over to the social services. We have come through it and our relationship is changing each day. One of respect for each other and i guess i have let her do a lot more than her bro being the second child as you have tried and tested the trials with the first and your fears of " he cant do this because that might happen!" tend to be less when the second one comes along although i was strict with her also and still am to a certain point but as long as i have a number and a name i trust her. if she lies she is not letting me down she is letting herseld down but i take into consideration that we were all young once and dont tell our folks everything...lol
Funny thing is i am going through a change in my life also which stems from being on this site ...............lol His name is Dave and he is from NZ. We have chatted since almost day one i joined here (4mths)and now he calls me every single day. He wants to come to see me next month and is torn as his mam is dying of cancer as we speak. However i think he finally going to take the plunge and if he does i will keep you posted!! Other than that i will not say anymore as i am keeping my cards close until we meet and i really cant wait for that!!! lol
Thankyou all for your advise and stories........It has been a help to me in coming to terms with what is happening. I really do appreciate it. Bless you all xxxx
Thanks for you kind words and your insight and your telling me of your experience also. As the day has gone on today it has gotten better but i know later tonight i will berieve again so for tonight only i may just curl up with a bottle of wine with the notion of feeling sorry for myself and be blessed that i have two wonderful children. Or should i say adolesants as i have a girl who is 14 going on 25 and she will no doubt be doing the same in a few years.
You know there is nothing on this earth as powerful as the love between a mother and her young! Magsy xx
Thanks for that............it was thoughtful of you to reply. It was not easy for me to say as i can be quite a private person. i have a feeling that my son is going to learn the hard way also so as you say all i can do is be there for him no matter what. I know he is safe as i called his dad but we dont know where he is cos he wont say!! It has been less than 48 hrs and i have decided to let him get on with it but to send him a text saying i love him and hope he gets it. After that he world is his oyster!! You never know maybe he too will return and have learned something..........xxx
Hi everyone i just wondered who has been through what i am going through now? I wakes up this morning my usual happy self the reality of what happened the other day comes back to haunt me. I goes to my son's room like i normall do in the morning to get him up for school and the bed is empty just like it was the day before and then i remembered ................"oh Yeah he has left home!"
You see he has been miserable for weeks, not long finished his standard grades in school and had said to me weeks ago he could not stand the studying any longer..........it was too much for him!! He had gone to stay at his real Dad's house last October stating it was for support for his forthcoming exams and said he would return in June May when they were all over and he did except he never stayed. He has got himself a girlfriend now who is very sweet but the same age as him.................sweet sixteen!! The look so muc in love it is unreal. I think she is his first love.
The long and short of this tale is that after coming home this past Sunday from a family trip ( both my son and girl and their partners) I wake up on the Monday morning (yesterday) to find his bed empty. There was a note telling me he had left home...........and stating not to get all dramatic as he would be safe and he could not stand being treated like a kid anymore. He wanted to do his own thing.
He said sorry for letting me down but this is what he had to do. Over the past few weeks he has stated that he wanted to leave school and study no more. I tried to encourage him to wait until he got his exam results in Aug and then make his decision but it seems he has already made it.
You want to know the truth i feel like it was me who let him down as there must have been missed communication for him to just leave like that and this morning i guess i feel like my right arm has been cut off and it hurts like hell. I know he will come back sometime but it is not knowing that is gonna be hard. This i guess is what is called the emptying of the nest syndrome...............and i am sure there are loads of you out there who have experienced the same thing.All we can do is give guidance and let them live their lives but now i know how my mam felt when i came home and told her at 18 i was moving out and in with my boyfriend.
OOps what i meant to say was............it is something that catches you out eventually so, yes it will find you as well as you finding it and no doubt it will happen when you least expect it!!!!! And what wonderful feeling it is when it does find you..........Take care. Magsy xxx
HazelEyes..............tis something that catches out eventualy so,........yes it it find you when you least expect!!! What a wonderful feeling when it does find you..............Take care. Magsy xx
Love is......................when you watch your young son develop and grow into a young man and he comes home from school and says to you> How was your day mam? Can i make you a cup of tea when you know fine his day has been as tough as yours!!! That's my boy!!
Love is when your kids say to you at the age of three " Mummy i am so glad that the angels made you cos if they did not i may never have met you! " lol
Thought i would start a " tongue in cheek" thread for the ole saying .......as above so i will start and anyone who might like to add their definition plse do................lol so here goes!!
Love is........................when you have run out of your fav choc maltesers and he leaves watching his favourite footie team on the box to go into the rain storm to the all night store to get you another one one
Some peeps may have lots of other peeps around them all the time and never feel physically lonely...........but at the same time they may be lonely in their minds! you could have been in a relationship with someone for years and still be mentally lonely...........Just remember to get it right if you can when you are looking for that soul mate. Dont take someone just to fill the physical gap......cos it is a bonus in life to have someone fill the mental and emotional one also. That's when you know you have a true connection!
How about any kind of anything!!!!!!!!!!lol Grave digger ...........hope you have not gone to bed as there are no other guys here yet so you are unique at the mo!!! xx
Ok Debs thanks for that...........i think somewhere in my little brain i knew that and willread this in the morning and go ..........oh shoot!! Duhhhhhh!! BTW i have the the chicken thighs now also...........and they are very meaty....lol xx
OMG Debs are you a nurse also? So ami and i am also a midwife!! Where do you work says me with glass of wine precariously balancing in my left hand whilst tying this with my right one.........lol Hey but we nurses can do anything ....right!! magsy xx
yessssssssss let's make it a costume party also..........and i am wearing my birthday suit.............ok nice set of spoons by the way............haha
Hi everyone.........Right just to say i have the wine open and the chips and dips at hand. Let's get going with a party!!!! So you are all invited and i want you to let me know if you are coming now............ok tell me what you are taking ( beverage wise) and who you are taking that you might like on the site and just go with the flo. Hic !
Well here goes..........who is first to pop their head in and get the music going...............lol
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Holidays..........lol
well after an offer like that ..........what can a lady say??? lol However i would like to hear what everyone else has to say and then i shall see what all can fit in my suit case!!!Take care
Magsy xx