Many people say you cant find love on a dating site. I have found you dont find true love by looking for it. It will find you when the time is right. Your best bet is to find a best friend of the opposite sex. Unless you are into that same sex thing. Im not. I have known a true love. It is completely and unequivocally worth it. It takes a lot tho. You have to both be completely honest. You can not make someone special or feel special if they are not the only one. Its impossible. If you are cheating you are cheating yourself. You have use a lot of understanding to. Unconditional understanding. Its takes that because women and men are two very different creachers. We think and speak differently. That is really what cause so much tention. Wemen speak the language of love. They need to know they are loved and appreciated. By both showing them and telling them. Just like she needs air she needs to feel important and loved to be completely happy. Most marriages end with the pursuit of each other ending. That allows things to stagnate. So you never stop pursuit if you want it to last. Its is a lot better if you build you partner up. Not tear them down. Support them and believe in them. Cheer them dont yell. Yelling at someone really is stupid when you think about it. The first thing that happens when you are yelled at is you stop listening. The second is you go on the defensive because you are being attacked.
Men speak the language of respect. They need to feel respected the same way a woman needs love. Its like the air you breath. However uncondition respect is harder to find. Either because there are less respectable men in the world or we are taught respect has to be earned. It is a curse really. A man speaks unlovingly to his women so she speaks disrespectful to him and it can turn into a nasty circle. One feeding off of the other. That is where unconditional understanding has to be used. Lets face it. Its hard to treat some with respect when they are acting disrespectable. It is easier to treat a woman lovingly when they are speaking or treating you unlovingly. Make no mistake about it being a curse. Its a very old one goes all the way back to the garden of eden. Punishment for eatting the forbidden fruit. So you can't get around it. I think it helps to understand it tho.
I've known a True Love. Its the most wonderful thing of all. My wife (best friend, partner,soulmate and love of my life ) passed away before me. So I'm alone again. I'm not looking for true love again. Because you can't find true love by looking for it. You may find liers, scammers and cheats. You may let yourself be conned and hurt. Truth is true love finds you. When the time is right it will hit you when you least exspect it. Ever hear the term Love Hurts. Even thou it is true it's never used correctly. People say love hurts when it is a lack of love that is hurting them.because someone cheated, conned, or abused them. The person or monster that did that did not love you. If theybdod they would not of done what they did. If you love someone that doesn't love you it's going to cost you. In a way you hurt yourself by trusting someone with your heart that you shouldn't. That's why I am not looking for love. I'm looking for a new friend. A female friend who is honest. Who tells me the truth. If I am lucky and find a new female best friend. Someone that I have fun with no matter what we are doing. Work or play can be fun with her. Someone I can tell anything to and know they won't hold it against me. He'll it's not hard to fall for a woman like that. I can honestly say I have never been unfaithful to a woman. The opening are always there. You can not make someone feel special unless they are the only one. It's impossible and anyone who says different in a lier and a cheat. When you find that special person nobody else will do. You stop looking because you have what you need. Holding hands can be very intimate. A knowing look can say a lot. Love hurts when you watch the one you love in pain. You hurt because the one you love hurts. So don't give up. Because it is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all. Giving up is the fastest easiest way to lose. God Bless and happy hunting. My
watches over me. I sure miss her hugs tho
Look into the mirror. Not just at the face. Look into your own eyes. You are looking at the only person you have to put up with the rest of you life. Be honest with yourself. You can't lie to you. You will catch you every time. You can't steal from yourself. Be honest. Except who you are. Become your own best friend. You are the one who has to Deeside to love you or hate you. If you hate you. You will always hold you back. If you love you you will take better care of you. If you don't like who you are change. You alone can change you. If there are things you don't like get rid of them. Things you like improve soon them. Your happiness is up to you. You alone can help you. You can only depend on you. Like yourself. Forgive yourself. Ask God to forgive you and repent. Stop hurting yourself and start helping yourself. Look yourself in the eyes. Do nothing that you can't forgive yourself for. Take care of you nobody else will your whole life. Smile tomorrow is a new day and a new adventure. Your world will be better that way. The whole world would be a better place if everyone would do this.
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