I always thought of many things and when I thought I'd post something here think about words
that really does not only happen to me as I wonder how many people
It's true when they say the word miracles or is able to destroy more than a stone. A misplaced word makes a terrible mess and often reverse their damage is impossible.
and this has happened to me several times I will not deny
No matter how strong or weak we are emotionally affected by what we always hear from others, even if it's for good or for evil influences with the word more or less intensity.
How many times do change our actions after reading or listening to someone something that really touched us enough to transform us?
How often are hurt by angry words directed at us that we both shook our whole mood changed?
How many times can enhance a mood of anyone through mere words?
How often we regret to say what we think because of the bad impression that we cause or because it was said in moments of nervous and insane rage?
Words have real power, or not, because in fact this ability to touch us and transform us is only possible if we're receptive to them, ie, the effect they cause us is also connected to our state of mind, we are well well if we do not receive or worsens or improves the state lies.
While we know the harmful and beneficial effects that words have on ourselves and others, still did not fail to be influenced by them. For the person we are today is a reflection of what we live, we can not be unscathed this.
The power of venting is to relieve tension, because if it turns out all that is choking the boring is we can not choose the best way to say what needs to be said, because we are so involved in so many feelings that we were kind of blind and dizzy, without discerning what is good or not say.
moreover, to say nothing is worth the omission is another dangerous option in certain situations, because the truth when discovered may be beneficial for some.
at this point it is necessary to distinguish the omission of the lie, because for me things are very different, because it does not omit to speak the truth and lies to distort truth.We all want to use words more consistently as possible, however, is not always possible in many instances life requires that we postures unconventional and unexpected.we need to have a double warning: speaking and listening. The talking because we can influence people in a positive or negative and to hear why we can not believe everything you read and hear, we must take care not to be so vulnerable and impressionable and at the same time be receptive to the words that can be good.the word has the power transformer and influencing behavior, use it to balance when you are dealing with serious issues and lightly and smiles when someone you are captivated by them.
Today in day live in a consumerist society and accelerated and we are increasingly connected to the Internet world
often inadvertently end up becoming so pure feelings like love and friendship in meros''contatos vrtuais''
which sometimes does not hold true are not many less sincere. love is a noble sentiment and requires much dedication (at least for me)
Besides being constantly nourished by both parties. must learn to love, viverpara outro.Algumas the times, the desire to find the perfect match is so urgent that the relations are based solely on what the other person has to offer, or in some cases, people even ask themselves: is that someone will really meet all my needs? this kind of thinking prevents us from seeing the other person as he is for real. So we can live any kind of relationship in a more enjoyable and frankly, we give up our selfish desires''of''our projections and accept our way of being and also the personality of the loved one, like any human being has his virtues and his defects. We must have time to listen, understand and share our anceios. demonstrate not only with words but through concrete actions that we feel
for me both in love and friendship are the feelings that they need time to be cultivated so that they can develop and become sustainable we need to show willingness to learn from the other part of your life aferecer a hug, a look ...
Generally, those claiming a decision is one that wants to get married and know that very well! Who does not want or is in doubt, go "pushing with the belly," letting life happen to see what is going to give up front.
However, even apparently "undecided" does not suffer, it may not be exactly true. Also because, if there was someone who really had absolutely sure you do not want to compromise, certainly not get involved. But that's not what happens.
Even those who do not know what he wants, prefers to "stay", kiss, have fun and enjoy the delights of a romantic rendezvous to stand alone. That is, the vast majority of human beings - not to run the risk of generalizing all saying - or, above all, sharing your life with someone.
Perhaps here would fit well the famous verse of our dear Vinicius de Moraes: "Fundamental is the same love. It is impossible to be happy alone. " Yes, because alone, alone, do not know anyone who actually wants to stay!
So why is it that turns and moves, know or hear of one guy or one that is-so-but-not-dating, dating-but-not-home, or even home-but-not-behave- as-such? How difficult or afraid to take a full commitment to all liens and bonds means that this choice?
And boy, this dilemma should be nothing new, nothing should also have something to do with modernity or the facilities of virtual meetings, as quoted by our grandparents, on occasion, the famous dictum "the subject does not know if home or purchase a bicycle. " That is, the history of doubt comes from afar!
Yes, of course, is not always easy to take such an important decision without having any duvidazinha even. However, this is very different relationships to go dragging on indefinitely. This table shows first of all, someone who urgently needs to invest in self emotionally mature and able to make choices that allow you and others the view that it is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Because until that happens, what we see are people tired of a charge position, uncertain by the lack of certainty of the other and even, depending on the level of "embromation" feel like a proof that love which seems phony!
Well, if we can not deny that those who go on holding some more, always waiting for the decision of the other, is certainly contributing to the situation lasts, we can not - in any way - simply absolve those who stay on the fence, warming place, delaying the lives of others, never take the next step!
Nobody is forced to a "yes" which is not right, that's true. But is everyone's duty, rather, be sincere, clear, transparent and objective. Do not want to marry or not sure? Okay. It's your right! But if this scenario is becoming a Mexican soap opera storyline, so even at the risk of being alone, at least to be authentic and honest enough to say with all the other letters, flatly, no bullshit, no excuses, no-lero lero.
Finally, try this exercise, but be consistent. Say whether or not you are unsure about how to fly and continue circling over bread pudding, is pure cowardice. Who wants to marry has always hoped that others also want, and this desire makes perfect sense. So do not you volunteer to disappoint, and make bitter dry sense of who loves you so much ... This is certainly demonstrated by the attitude of the other, at least, respect and consideration!
It is normal from time to time I have a crisis of conscience: "I have shown so much affection for that person who did not show any feeling for me, gave no value or importance" But where is it written that you just have to do things the expected return ? The reason I would say that before you show affection to wait to learn more, see if you have an affinity for reciprocity and only then with this certainty is that you have shown your affection. But who has that certainty? I love a person today who seem to worship me and nothing to me person "desadora" who answers it? You did something? No, I did not do anything, just talked about when I could not bear the scorn and then just said what should not, I was sincere and that was enough for only one me "desadorar," I do not condemn, are personal choices.
I do not regret having shown my affection for someone who "desadorou for nothing, my only regret precipitation of having misinterpreted the signs, misunderstanding to think that sign was answer some bond of friendship. But who makes no mistakes? Not really I will curse and condemn the things I said or did because at that moment I was being truthful and be honest is not a sin, sin is to pretend that everything is just so wonderfully not contradict each other, pretending this is not for artistic I do not know pretend sympathy for free by anyone.
I appreciate those who appreciate me and captive who captivates me even while there is feedback from the other side I'll always be loving and loving others because they like it, but if I realize I waste my time and affection then I understand that people do not want to receive them and take my team to field no longer bother, other times I saw that question is not a good idea, the better to sneak out even without asking for explanation.
The mistake is in me that I love and love people and I deserve to captivate me
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