Seperation

means a uncompatible relationship..,even on merriage theres lots of wife and husband seperated i really dont get it cuz infront of a god words that u will take care each other and love each other forever and ever but promise do broke..,so keep it up thats not the end..,dont look at how long you've been other that was not the foundation of one relationship.., so gudluck..
youll gonna find her...

Finially something I know about
Marriage is hard work. Some people just do not realize that. It is not a fifty fifty thing. Some days it is eighty twenty. Some days you get the eighty some days the twenty. But if you enter a marriage without really wanting it to work it will not. And it does take two people. Who are willing to look at the others faults and imperfections as just another reason to love them. To want to build each other up not tear them down. Who are willing to do the work where they can reap the rewards. But I bet you knew all that already. Best of luck.

Kinda strange question dude, its because they been together 8-10 years! Seems obvious to me....after a few weeks together you cant get enough and most people are on a declining trend after that. Hard work!? Whats that all about? If you could have perfect shape by taking a pill or going to the gym, which one would you choose? Who needs hard work!

If you could have perfect shape by taking a pill or going to the gym, which one would you choose? Who needs hard work!


I walk ten miles a day five times a week have for years. I have the belief anything in life worth having is worth working for. Do you want to take a pill for every problem in life?

Do you mean living together or married ? It is much easier to get divorced these days and people dont try to work problems out they just run. and before you go out and do it remember it costs about $125 to get hitched and thousands to get divorced. So we get married for love and divorced for money ... Very sad although if I found my soul mate a friend for life I would marry them. I lived with a guy for 10yrs and he is now my business partner . it became some what easier when the heart wasnt involved . but we are both now single and it will be interesting when one of us finds some one . Business is safe and secure so no worries there .

Well it was nice to see all your comments but still I wanted to add some thing to this.

What I dont understand is you start a life or so to say a journey with some one. you promise to each other that you will stay togather no matter what life throws at you, you share every thing good and bad during these years .

There are always up's and down's in your life but all of sudden due to some indifference or misunderstanding you choose to go different way.Every thing what happened in the past looks like worthless and all of sudden you find yourself left alone in the middle of the road where you cant deside which way to go .

why it has to be like this ?????????

Im sorry'that you are in so much pain but it hurts so bad because you do not have control over what other people do, no matter how long you have been with someone. It is like someone you love getting into an accident and they die. You have no control over it. You go through the grief process but you must go through all the steps because if you don't you won't be able to love anyone the right way again. Time is the bset healer but you can get through it.

There are so many reason why couples end up with separation after all these years, love doesn't mean till death do us part, love can fade either can kill you when you found out there's no place in your heart after all, when love and satisfaction has gone both will find their own way till cold war will start either both will go astray they thought its the right answer.

well no easy answer as there are a lot of angles to take this from, but sometimes and this is just one angle, people loose connection. They may have set out to have a family and once that has been achieved, the question for some is then what as they stare across the table at each other and ask is this as good as it gets? I am not trying to be cynical here just offering up a view.

Hi Puggy. I've been sorrounded with friends with the same situation like yours. I asked them why? Simple answer: they don't love their husband or wife anymore, or my wife changed she doesn't care anymore, she is more focused on her career. And they don't want to try to work it. They kept going back to that moment that they been hurt. If situation is like this better you end it up.

Marriage is a sacrament. It should be forever. But this is before, I am catholic, very religious and we valued family and marriage. But if you are not happy in your situation, it is better to get out from it and find someone that can makes you happy.

Life is too short. Letting go and moving on is really hard. I've been there on that situation. But stay positive. Pains will go away, it will take time but it will heal. Rather than to keep holding on things which is already gone. Irrepairable and irreplaceable.

I am happy being single. I am happy being me. And I am enjoying my freedom. Life has alot of things to offer, it's up to you how you will enjoy it.

Goodluck