Love Is Like A Garden

I have found through my experiences that a relationship is like a garden. Many of us may want things quick and easy, but with any garden it takes time to grow. You have to sow in all those special ingredients to make it work. Kindness can come in the form of a little note or card. Many guys may think money is the key, but I believe a woman wants to be treated well and not all women are into huge expensive gifts. The same goes for ladies since we can also do kind things for the man in our life to make him feel special as well. You also have to pluck out what won't work, and learn to forgive since everyone does make mistakes or has a bad day. A loving relationship isn't something that just shows up at your door, it's something you have to be willing to work at. I've talked to people who play the blame game with their ex's. She or he didn't do this or that, but when I ask "What did you do? Or did you try to put love into that relationship?" Often I am told they did nothing but put all their expectations onto the other person. That person wasn't this or that. Now I am not suggesting anyone be a doormat. Please do not misinterpret what I'm suggesting. It takes two to cultivate this garden of love.

Have you seen the movie, "Fireproof"? Fantastic movie. You can actually buy THE DARE book which they show in the movie. I highly recommend anyone thinking of a divorce to rent or buy this movie. It's about a fireman and his wife who end up contemplating a divorce. The movie is a faith based movie, but the message is wonderful.

Noone is a mind reader, and certainly one can not meet the unspoken expectations of another. I know it's easy to say he or she should know me by now. The problem can be a lack of communication and you never know what the other person is thinking.

My dream had always been to find myself in a loving, growing, happy, nurturing relationship where we celebrated our 25th anniversary. I never got married with the intention I'd end up divorcing. I'm the type of person who is willing to work at the relationship, and put in my very best. It's not easy, but boy it's worth while. I take my hat off to anyone who has managed to stay married for 25 years or more, and put the time and effort into getting past the struggles. It's not easy cultivating the garden of love, but I have regained hope that one day I will find what I have hoped for. The key is to keep believing, and to keep trying.