The Power of Commitment

What commitment is not?


1. Committment is not self-fulfillment
We sometimes hear people say I am committed to making my marriage work. By that, they may mean I am committed to making my marriage work for me to be happy, not that I am committed to making our marriage work so that we can be happy. In marriage the I must become we.

2. Committment dose not result from having everything go well.

3. Commitment is not simply the tool to avoid failing marriage.

4. Commitment is not holding on only, untill someone better comes along.

What Commitment is.

1 Commitment is a Choice
2 Commitment is positive not negative
3 Commitment is two people that make decision to (a) Stay together
(b) Love and affirm each other(c) Grow as people (d) make their marriage an expression of their desire for each others happiness.

One of the strongest needs in the human personality is to be valued and loved. A good definition of love is a desire to understand the other person's needs and willingness to give energy from your life for that person's highest fulfillment.
In essence, each person in a healthy marriage is saying to the other, I'm concerned about you, what you think, your values, your goals and dreams.
To have a healthy marriage, you must appreciate the unique way God is using your partner.

The choice to be committed includes two important ingredients
A. Caretaking and Bonding.
Choosing to be a Character: when we commit ourselves by choice to each other, we each automatically become a character for the other as well as for our marriage.
Commitment is a choice to invest unconditionally in the well being of the other person.
Commitment is the determination to hold steady when the temptation might be to run from a difficult situation.
Commitment is the willingness to go that extra mile or ten miles.
Commitment gives a person the staying power in marriage

Choosing to be a bonder.
Bonding is a term use to define the uniting force between two people.
Bonding can also be define as the mystery of human attachment between two persons….so profound…that it can not be understood merely in physiological terms.

Successful marriage are built and sustained by successful commitment and communication.
Hope you are blessed with this message.

God Bless you,
Sandry