Dating in the year 2011 . .

Ok, so I've been out of the dating loop for almost six years.
I knew things would be a bit different this time around but, I wasn't prepared for what happened , , ,

I met a guy on another dating site, we chatted via e-mail for over a week and after many, many long converations we decided to meet for a drink.

His e-mails were witty, no misspelling (bonus!), intelligent and interesting. Once we started talking on the phone we would talk for hours.

Then last Friday - when we were supposed to meet for a drink - I got out of work much later than expected. (In my defense, I had warned him that sometimes my job kept me later than expected).

By the time I got out of work he had texted me multiple times and I noticed that each text was getting tenser and tenser. So rather than text him, I immediately called him to apologize for working late and let him know that I wasn't blowing him off.

So, we decided that we would post-pone the date: he was very tired from having gotten up early that morning, he'd eaten something since I'd been running so late, and the drive to meet
me was over 1 hour. I felt it would be best to talk the next day.

Very soon afterward, apparently he decided that he still wanted to meet me. He texted me but I live in an area that barely has any cell service. I didn't get his text for almost an hour.

But, again he'd sent multiple texts!!! And again the wording conveyed that he was getting angry. I called him and told him that he needed to bring it down a notch, get some sleep and we'd talk tomorrow.


Fast forward to Saturday morning. He sent me a text around 7am
it was a NUDE picture of himself. He actually sent me 2 pictures of himself. I was completely shocked.
I immediately deleted them.

A while later he texted me and asked if I'd gotten my good morning text from him. I told him they had been deleted. I also asked what possessed him to send me those pics. He immediately realized he'd completely burned all his bridges with me. I asked that he not contact me anymore. Luckily, he hasn't tried to contact me again.

But, should I expect more of this in this high-tech age of dating? I'm really bummed cause I'm a really fun, honest person with alot to offer and he really soured me on the scene.
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He was married, and on a time limit. Some men do it quick, some fast, but they all woo you one way or another. Trouble is you liked him , but he deceived you, you are hurt because he wasted your time but you did not recognise that at the time. You will learn my dear, dont become disgusted or despondant, just learn, listen and learn. Given that this medium is a wonderful venue for the seeking of casual "fun" its understandable that so many people use it for just that. Those of us who seek something different need to have more patience and recognise that finding love , true love on the internet is same as doing the old needle in the haystack routine. You will get there , never give up. Today is another day , forget him quickly, learn to forget them all quickly , they will forget us too ! Saskia
You handled it very well!!! You are smart!!! The way I view it we have to be careful these days, and you were. Keep it up please!!! There are some decent people out there, the difficulty is finding them...Don't quit, but keep your guard up. That is my advice...Wish the best for you.
You've been given pearls of wisdom . . .
Accept it and never leave the path of enlightenment . . .


Well that's what your fortune cookie for the day said. . . laugh grin


Have fun, and take everything with a pinch of salt initially, until you really get to know the person . . .


bouquet
good luck
wish u'll meet a good person soon
Thanks for all the words of support . . .you're all wonderful!
comfort sorry to here about your bad experience and it was lucky that you never met this guy because he must have mental problemsuh oh keep being yourself and if you meet someone else make sure you meet them face to face in a public place so you can find out what they are really likethumbs up
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