Deleting my profiles on dating apps and applying for a new job
Yesterday, I deleted all the dating apps that I had on my phone, and cancelled the subscriptions. It's a money pit anyway, and I didn't really get any messages from people I matched with. One of the apps is set up, so the woman is the first to write. After 24 hours of no messages, the match expires.I was on that app for quite a few months. I think for about a year. During that time, I had matched with five people, but no messages came after the match was mutual. Finally, I had had enough and cancelled the subscription, deleted my profile and the app itself from my phone.
The other one was a no match bonanza as well, so I threw in the towel and cancelled the subscription, deleted my profile and deleted the app as well.
I now only have two dating profiles. One on Facebook dating and this. I use this profile for the blogs, so technically it doesn't count. Will I be back on those apps again? No. Too much time and money wasted.
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Today, I found a job posting for a warehouse job at a company that's literally in nerd heaven. They are looking for someone who has warehouse experience, and is familiar with picking and packing orders - which fits me well. Deadline for applications is tomorrow, so I have sent an application today. Hopefully I will hear back from them soon. If not, I'm just going to continue working where I currently work.
Fingers crossed.
Comments (13)
It doesn’t bother me any. If I matched with them then it’s fine, they can talk to me first if they want.
I’m finding that online dating is becoming a thing of the past. It’s only for people that want quick hookups now.
Don't rule it out because when you least expect it, someone walks into your life.
I had completely given up, and some things happened.
My neighbor passed away a few months ago and her family sold her house...to a very nice man. We just happened to be outside at the same time and he came over and caught me just as I was getting in my car. He shook my hand and introduced himself. He didn't let go very quickly, and it had been a long time since I had a man hold my hand. He was very nice so we talked, I really enjoyed his company.
So it can happen, just be nice to the ladies.
I would say, good call. From all the data I have heard about online dating, only the top 5%-ish of men have success on them. The huge majority of women on them all compete for those 5% of men.
Remember the old way of getting a date? The old way of getting a date is for the man to pursue the woman. So with these online dating sites, women are getting 100+ messages a week from men. Put yourself in their shoes. What would you do if you were getting 100+ messages per week? I know what I would do. I would only respond to the top percent of them. That would be the easiest way to deal with that many messages.
Then what happens after responding to those most attractive users...you may go on a date or 10 with those users to satisfy your curiosity of them. But in the meanwhile, you got another 100+ messages....and you see 8 other users that look even more attractive than the previous 10+ dates you just had...so now your curiosity makes you wonder about these new attractive prospects....and the cycle continues.
That is why many women have a huge "body count" of men they have slept with...that is why women have a roster of men they see on a regular basis....and most importantly, regarding your post here....that is why online dating does not work for 90% of men.
So, good call with deleting your profiles.
Men have brought traditional dating practices in to a modern era of technology that no longer works for the majority. Men have to change their dating practices....and update it to the modern environment of dating.
Don't get me started on women who have slept with a large number of men and how it makes them undatable.
One could argue, that the day of the "traditional" relationships are in the middle of being destroyed and a new "traditional" is being born.
So....modern men must be mindful of this when finding a potential partner.
Finding a woman who has not been "changed" to put it politely, is like finding a literal unicorn.
Do some research on what happens to women when they sleep with over 5 different men....and keep in mind, there are women out there who have slept with well over 100 men.
The main tip I can offer is, the woman has to be more attracted to you than the man is to her.
There is a lot of information out there that men must now be aware of...remember, we are no longer living in a "traditional" way of relationships. Men need to understand what that all means.
I would say, good call. From all the data I have heard about online dating, only the top 5%-ish of men have success on them. The huge majority of women on them all compete for those 5% of men.
Remember the old way of getting a date? The old way of getting a date is for the man to pursue the woman. So with these online dating sites, women are getting 100+ messages a week from men. Put yourself in their shoes. What would you do if you were getting 100+ messages per week? I know what I would do. I would only respond to the top percent of them. That would be the easiest way to deal with that many messages.
Then what happens after responding to those most attractive users...you may go on a date or 10 with those users to satisfy your curiosity of them. But in the meanwhile, you got another 100+ messages....and you see 8 other users that look even more attractive than the previous 10+ dates you just had...so now your curiosity makes you wonder about these new attractive prospects....and the cycle continues.
That is why many women have a huge "body count" of men they have slept with...that is why women have a roster of men they see on a regular basis....and most importantly, regarding your post here....that is why online dating does not work for 90% of men.
So, good call with deleting your profiles.
Men have brought traditional dating practices in to a modern era of technology that no longer works for the majority. Men have to change their dating practices....and update it to the modern environment of dating.
I’ll get you started on it. How does it make us undatable? That is your snarky opinion. So you obviously have a double standard that men can sleep with whomever they want but women can’t. Hmm…
They say when you are meant to meet you will no matter what.
She will find you
Good luck with the job, and I hope you are happy, after all that is what we all crave
Free dating sites like this are very rare. Apart from CS, I know of only 1 truly free dating site.
I would say, good call. From all the data I have heard about online dating, only the top 5%-ish of men have success on them. The huge majority of women on them all compete for those 5% of men.
Remember the old way of getting a date? The old way of getting a date is for the man to pursue the woman. So with these online dating sites, women are getting 100+ messages a week from men. Put yourself in their shoes. What would you do if you were getting 100+ messages per week? I know what I would do. I would only respond to the top percent of them. That would be the easiest way to deal with that many messages.
Then what happens after responding to those most attractive users...you may go on a date or 10 with those users to satisfy your curiosity of them. But in the meanwhile, you got another 100+ messages....and you see 8 other users that look even more attractive than the previous 10+ dates you just had...so now your curiosity makes you wonder about these new attractive prospects....and the cycle continues.
That is why many women have a huge "body count" of men they have slept with...that is why women have a roster of men they see on a regular basis....and most importantly, regarding your post here....that is why online dating does not work for 90% of men.
So, good call with deleting your profiles.
Men have brought traditional dating practices in to a modern era of technology that no longer works for the majority. Men have to change their dating practices....and update it to the modern environment of dating.
Dating sites are full of scammers..or, people looking to get likes or messages to up their self esteem...
Don't rule it out because when you least expect it, someone walks into your life.
I had completely given up, and some things happened.
My neighbor passed away a few months ago and her family sold her house...to a very nice man. We just happened to be outside at the same time and he came over and caught me just as I was getting in my car. He shook my hand and introduced himself. He didn't let go very quickly, and it had been a long time since I had a man hold my hand. He was very nice so we talked, I really enjoyed his company.
So it can happen, just be nice to the ladies.
Don't rule it out because when you least expect it, someone walks into your life.
I had completely given up, and some things happened.
My neighbor passed away a few months ago and her family sold her house...to a very nice man. We just happened to be outside at the same time and he came over and caught me just as I was getting in my car. He shook my hand and introduced himself. He didn't let go very quickly, and it had been a long time since I had a man hold my hand. He was very nice so we talked, I really enjoyed his company.
So it can happen, just be nice to the ladies.
Makes me smile to see this.
No need to apologize. I understand where you are coming from.
Just to clarify something, I do not condone men sleeping around either...that leads to issues with men as well. The issues it leads to with men are somewhat different with the issues it creates in women sleeping around.
When men sleep around, it is mostly a physical connection that gets created...nothing more. That is with most men. When a woman sleeps around, for the most part, a mental/psychological connection gets created. I am not saying one is better or worse than the other...but they are different is the point I am making.
What the studies have shown, when women sleep with over 5 men, there is a large likelihood they will initiate the divorce in a marriage. If a college educated lady sleeps with over 5 men, there is around a 90% likelihood they will initiate a divorce. These are stats that exist.
So why is that? Why do women initiate divorce on such a high level?
When women sleep with 5+ different men, their ability to pair-bond diminishes greatly. They compare their current partner to all of their previous partners. They convince themselves that they had to "settle" for their current partner...and women are convinced not to settle. Therefore, through time, they become resentful toward their partner and eventually leave them. The more men they have slept with, the more comparisons they can make....the quicker they become resentful for settling. Look up the term "alpha-widow"....this happens so often that they actually came up with a term for it.
This is the main reason why men would want to avoid women with a high "body count." There are many more.
But to be clear, I do not condone anyone sleeping around....men or women.
If you want me to share other reasons why men should avoid women with high "body-counts," let me know. I am happy to share more.