The online dating scene is rough.
Picture this - you match with someone on a dating app and get talking. It goes quite well, and you joke around while still maintaining a somewhat serious getting to know each other type of conversation.At some point - silence. Not a peep for three days. You begin to form a message in your head like "Hey, did I say or do something you didn't like or approve of? Because if so, I am sorry", only to be met with "profile deleted".
That happened to me - and it's not the first time, which makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me, or if I have to change my whole approach to talking to people online. The only thing I can think I did wrong is jokingly say "I am available at that day. Just saying!" when she named the food she was going to make. Again - it was a joke. I would never force anyone to meet me if they didn't want to. I also made that clear to this person.
I have also experienced being ghosted several times, and being asked for money a few times. One person asked me if my family was rich. When I said no, I was blocked.
Maybe online dating isn't for me. The last time I met someone on a dating app, we went for a coffee but she decided that nothing more would come of it, because of what she called "multiple red flags" - which left me pretty dumbstruck, since I didn't do anything red flag stuff. We walked and talked for an hour, so I am not entirely sure why multiple red flags were shown.
Maybe it was my video gaming, the way I talked or what I ate. I simply don't know, because she refused to say what those red flags were.
Maybe I'll just stay single. It's working out pretty well so far, anyway
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What kind of a socially inept thing to say is that?
You're right, though. The (online) dating scene is rough and you can't take it too seriously for the sake of self-preservation.
I imagine there are very few people who could have a relationship with anyone and everyone.
For the rest of us, it's a matter of coming across someone as weird as ourselves by luck and by chance.
And being okay on your own is an essential part of being ready for that to happen.
You're a lovely chap. I really hope someone sees that one day.
Make sure your hair looks at it's best, simply work on it.
And one more thing; start working out now. 3 times per week. For the rest of your life.
Buy soem used cool clothes and don't underestimate the signals it sends. You relly must have much more than two photos and the ones you have here are not very good and I hope your others are better.
If I had your youth and looks (that is way better than you imagine) I'd make the best out of it.
Told you this before but .. I see no improvement.
So far about the looks.
About how to talk to them I have less stern opinions but maybe u should just let them go
when a few days has passed with no comeback. Camera talking shuld be introduced rather quickly.
Could be a quick effective way to find out.
Good luck mister. Me myself is also not doing som fab so you're not alone.
but my wedding ring is still in the bottom drawr
Honestly don’t sweat the ghosting thing. It happens to the best of us. Happened to me multiple times. I was torn up about it too at first. Then I just started moving on because the quicker you move on the more time you have for someone else worth your time.
So yes being single is a blessing because you get to work on being the best version of yourself. It wasn’t until I did that that someone else noticed.
And since I’m a woman I just wanted to give you something that my boyfriend said. He said I just never gave up hope on dating sites even though they are awful. I’m glad I came all the way to Fresno to meet you(he lives an hour away). So you just gotta keep going man. And like Jac said you can’t take it too seriously…not at first anyway.
Good luck out there.