The secret to happiness...

It happens all the time, Mystery. People help each other all the time for the sake of love alone. And with all the bread in the world in your pantry, without love, the cupboard is bare.

I think we are all loving creatures but we are also creatures of our circumstances.
Combining life and love will make something like a hologram. If we wanna get the hologram we have to first add each layers on.
Love cant buy you bread , that is for sure but love can put some bread on the shelf.

Hi CailinCalaghan

Hi Kasih! Thanks for your comment/observation.

The point I am making is that people can be happiest when we do what we do and feel what we feel without making our satisfaction dependant upon an outcome of choice. I do what I choose to do because I feel it is the "right thing" to do. If the consequences are difficult, I have solace in the fact that I chose my course based upon principle -- NOT the secondary gain of some outcome I might have otherwise been trying to create with that choice of behaviors. Because of this, my satisfaction with myself is intact because I chose my course based on integrity. My happiness is in this way independent of outcomes.

If you love someone contingent upon them returning your affection, that is not love. It is a transaction. To love honestly, regardless of outcome is to say "Let me care for this person without demands or expectations. Let me love them for the sake of the joy of simply feeling that blessed sentiment. Let me not make my love a transaction by trying to use that love as some sort of manipulative leverage to induce the one I am loving to make concessions or to return my love or to in any other way affect their behavior." THAT is honest love with NO agenda. It allows you to be happy simply loving for the blessedness of the feeling itself. Your happiness in choosing to feel this love is independent of the behavior of the one you love. Your happiness is invulnerable. You are also free to be who your are. You cannot be threatened with the loss of your right/ability to love based upon your compliance with the demands or agendas of the one(s) you love. Neither can you be coerced into loving just one.

Marriages and other "arrangements or agreements of partnership" are another matter. In these we make stipulations and requirements for continuing the arrangement. But the arrangement can be dissolved without the surrendering of love or your right/ability to love the person with whom an arrangement is being changed or dissolved. Love is independent of arrangements and outcomes if it is love at all and NOT an economy of exchange. I have never stopped loving ANYone I have loved. Nor shall I. This is my choice and my enjoyment of loving is not affected by external circumstances. So I am free to love without fear. I have been through two amicable divorces and both of my exes are still my friends because I showed them, by the way I conducted myself through the divorces, that they could have and should have trusted me all along. I am happy, therefore, with me and this is happiness independent of the unwishedfor outcome of divorce.

I recommend loving for the sake of the simple blessedness of the feeling. This makes you automatically a friend of the one you love. You are not their owner or master, nor are you trying to influence their behavior. This leads to trust and the natural deepening of affection and the solidarity of whatever arrangement/outcomes that might naturally evolve out of such love.

If you do this honestly, you cannot help but have the same outcome: peace of mind. And what is more precious?

Thanks Ms Francie and Dan! I love Josh. Great voice!

Now in this song he is talking about heartache generated by him not experiencing the outcome he wanted: to be with the one he is loving. So he's in heartache.

On the other hand, he sings about his investment in getting the other person to know who he is. That's a worthy investment regardless of how the situation evolves. If the one he loves never loves him back in the way he wants, he should still be happy for choosing to share himself and his heart openly and he should do that shraing without the expectation of any secondary gain in the way of some hoped-for outcome in the way of the sort of relationship (arrangement) he wants. It's okay to want that outcome but unwise to base our happiness on its manifestation. When you do this your heart does not ache because things are not as you wish they would be. Your heart swells with love and feels as though it may burst in your chest with ardor and it is sweet and, even if the one you are loving never knows and never sees, God does. So it becomes something sacred between you and God and you will feel peace and comfort from within.

Love for the sake of the blessedness of the feeling. Invest in knowing others and them knowing you because it is how we find one another and encourage one another. Here I am with you all sharing myself and you are sharing yourselves and it is very comforting just the way it is.

Thank you for sharing with me and for caring for me.

Ms. Francie! Saya sangat mencintaimu!!

Dan! You are a loving man and so you naturally see in me what you are. It's a property of minds: Projection makes perception. You are what you see!

You're such a honey!

Thanks, Pedalguy! Nice dog! (You're cute too.)

Good morning, Welela! YOU would know if I am right! I reckon you have sorted all this out too. Beautiful day to you!

Thanks for your visit and comments Glitch! I reckon we are saying the same thing: Be happy with and within yourself and that happiness will be independent of situations and outcomes. With love, it seems, people find this harder to do. They want things to turn out a certain way and are unhappy if it does not. Beautiful day to you!

Sorry Guadalajara. I have no idea what a string tanga is BUT it's good to see you. Hope you have a great day!