She was the best

Sadly, my mother passed away about eight years ago. I cared for her as well as I could, as she suffered from pain 24/7. It all started when recouping from a brain operation, of which she was staying at a friends house. My mother was quite independent, and didn't want to depend on people to do even the simplest of chores. Anyway, mum was bringing the washing in, and as she climbed the stairs outside, she could feel herself topple. She knew that there was concrete behind her and grass to the side, so she decided to push herself towards the side where the grass was. But when she landed, she landed with a twist and damaged the siatic nerve down the back. She went to doctors and there was nothing really they could do for her except to put her on morphine when it started getting bad with the pain. The only thing that she found that helped, was smoking a joint. I watched her slowly fade away, as when she would eat, it would simply come back up. For those that don't know, try eating when you're in severe pain. It was the saddest and hardest day of my life, when I saw her pass away right in front of me.
Mum had many friends, and a lot of those friends considered her to be either, a sister, an aunt or a mother. She got so much respect from people, and it didn't take long for strangers to know and adore her.
I have a lot of memories when I was growing up, of a mother who was great with us boys, (there was 3 of us) but if we did wrong, we knew about it. But I was one of these kids who was in and out of hospital, mostly with pneumonia, and caught whatever that was going around. We were by far rich, but mum made sure that we didn't go without, and I'm sure that she had gone without just to make sure we were fed.
She met a guy, who was the father of one of my brothers, and he lived with us for a number of years. When he was sober, he was okay, but he was the cliche' of a drunk man, (in those days) and use to beat up on her. Well one night, while I was at a friends place, he came home drunk. Without going into details, she had accidentally killed him. She served two years, and all us boys were separated. Not long before that happened I started studying at The School of Fine Arts.
She was and had to be one of the best mums ever.
R.I.P. mum.
Miss you always sad flower
Post Comment

Comments (17)

Heads up! sad flower sad flower sad flower
It usually is Calleis. There are days that I'm sad because I miss her, and it's usually the days that have meaning for her. Like birthday, mothers day and Xmas.
Her soul is surely in a dood place now! heart wings
I don't know about a dood place, giggle but yes she is in a good place, without any pain
Sad blog doctor,
But you seem to have got through it.
I Hope and wish you a kind of peace with the past and future too. sad flower
Now, hey Doc! Have a hip breakfast, and start an enjoying day..! popcorn violin happy place typing dance
Yeah nonsmoker. It's never an easy thing to get through when you lose family who was close to you. I just keep plodding away each day, one step at a time.
And thank you.
A wonderful tribute to your Mum, my friend. I hope one day that my children remember their Mum with as much love and respect as you remember yours. sad flower hug
Hugs for my friend.hug bouquet
doc
Your story sounds quite tragic...sorry for your loss...but glad you have some fond memories of your mom...
@Doctor..... I am so sorry for the loss of your mother
sad flower sad flower
May she be at sweet rest now!!

~DAN~
Sounds like you've come through tough times sad flower handshake
Thank you everyone hug
zmountainman, yes, it wasn't the easiest of times. But there were many good memories.
been there n done that till 2009/rip,u are a good person,it takes a toll on u/god bless.
I also cared for both my parent until their last day. You will bless. My her soul rest in peacesad flower
heart wings DOC: Bless Your Heart, Always. . . . hug
Hi Doc,

I know how you feel coz I lost my maternal grandpa 8 years ago. Still think about him, constantly.... hug
Post Comment - Let others know what you think about this Blog.
Meet the Author of this Blog
theD0CT0R

theD0CT0R

Launceston, Tasmania, Australia

I'm a dieing breed kind of guy. I have old fashioned traits, and know how to treat a woman right. Those that know me, know me as honest and caring with a bit of eccentric mixed in. Been single for far too long now, and I just want to find my Lois Lan [read more]

About this Blog

created Mar 2014
796 Views
Last Viewed: Apr 23
Last Commented: Mar 2014
theD0CT0R has 25 other Blogs

Like this Blog?

Do you like this Blog? Why not let the Author know. Click the button to like the Blog. And your like will be added. Likes are anonymous.

Feeling Creative?