Can You Have a lasting Relationship With Closed Fr
I had a female friend and she was like a sister to me. We shared ideas,helped each other and she was very supportive to me.I know her past and she knew my past. We grew in the same area. She knew everything about me and I also know the bad and the good side of her.When I moved to Europe,the attitude has changed from brotherly love to different thing altogether. The writings, the way she talks on phone and certain questions she asks suggest something else. I still see her as sister and wish to treat her as such, but to her, '' To hell as brother''.
After my course, I don't intend to go back. I will rather go to visit home, because ''home sweet home''. She is in Africa and I'm in Europe. How can we be in relationship?
I don't want that style of proposing to a lady and the lady stays there for years before you come(very common with Africans who married to those in Europe- Some stay as many years as possible.)
I don't want to hurt, and loose her as sister too.I respect her so much .
I'M CONFUSED
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it can also cause you to lose that relationship as a sister if it was to go wrong .
but i think u need to find out whats her motive if it is coz u now become an opportunity for her or the real thing.
if it was me i would tell her i am coming home for good and see her reaction.
a lot of times people sees a bigger picture and take advantage .
i know of a case where the girl even say she was pregnant after being friend with this married man for a while and because of his divorce she took advantage of his vulnerability at that time to say she had wanted him for a long time .
then with the pregnancy comes danger to the child and she needs money to do operation to save the child as it would have been his first , i was the one who was there coz he was abroad working now after a while there was an opportunity for her to go away to work and there went the baby.
she wasnt pregnant but was taking his money constantly for doctor bills .
she saw a bigger pic with him and she took it after being his friend for so long.
have a blessed day
Just because she has changed how she appears to be feeling about you does not mean that you automatically do the same.
It sounds to me like she only wants you now because you have left and somebody else might get you.Classic Dog in the Manger behaviour.