Y'know this 'IM' thing....? (12)
Pinkerbell: How can you turn it off? Or maybe see who wants to chat with you, before you click 'yes' on it?
Is it just me, or does anyone find the thought of accepting a conversation from a total stranger a bit unnerving...?!
Is it just me, or does anyone find the thought of accepting a conversation from a total stranger a bit unnerving...?!
Hi Pinkerbelle, if you go into your profile settings you can turn it to off - you have to click on the IM request button to see who is trying to contact you, bit of a pain when the box keeps bouncing up though. Hope this helps
If I click 'yes' on it and see who it is, am I obliged to talk to them? Do they know I've clicked 'yes' and then maybe decided I don't want too...?!
Would hate to offend anyone....
Would hate to offend anyone....
Pinkerbell: If I click 'yes' on it and see who it is, am I obliged to talk to them? Do they know I've clicked 'yes' and then maybe decided I don't want too...?!
Would hate to offend anyone....
Would hate to offend anyone....
u dont offend people if u dont talk to them...ie done it loads coz i dont want contact from someone ...yes un nerving but hey its what ur here for...to find ur soul mate....its not about people pleaseing now is it....
so dip ur toe and away ya go......
every little helps
Pinkerbell: If I click 'yes' on it and see who it is, am I obliged to talk to them? Do they know I've clicked 'yes' and then maybe decided I don't want too...?!
Would hate to offend anyone....
Would hate to offend anyone....
When it happens to me i usually respond by saying.. "Please would you leave a message in my mailbox, introduce yourself, and ask if i'd like to IM, thankyou!"
The13thWarrior: When it happens to me i usually respond by saying.. "Please would you leave a message in my mailbox, introduce yourself, and ask if i'd like to IM, thankyou!"
That's a good idea, I might do that. I think personally, I'd rather chat thru inbox first, then IM them if I know a bit about them.
Pinkerbell: That's a good idea, I might do that. I think personally, I'd rather chat thru inbox first, then IM them if I know a bit about them.
Absolutely.. And if they offer their email adress straight away, don't be in a hurry to do likewise. Because it's more than likely to be a scammer!!
The13thWarrior: Absolutely.. And if they offer their email adress straight away, don't be in a hurry to do likewise. Because it's more than likely to be a scammer!!
Ha haaa! Don't worry, am in no rush to give out my email/phone no etc!
Have never been on a site before that's had so many warnings about scammers though. Has there been lots on here then?
Pinkerbell: Ha haaa! Don't worry, am in no rush to give out my email/phone no etc!
Have never been on a site before that's had so many warnings about scammers though. Has there been lots on here then?
Have never been on a site before that's had so many warnings about scammers though. Has there been lots on here then?
Unfortunately they are here in droves.
Many are spotted by the moderators and removed. Whilst others slip through the net.
I learned most of my lessons the hard way before joining this site. But these are ruthless and devious people.
That's why it pays to have friends and allies in the forums. So when in doubt there are always other opinions for guidance and encouragement.
Don't be discouraged, though.
There are plenty of good people here too!
The13thWarrior: Unfortunately they are here in droves.
Many are spotted by the moderators and removed. Whilst others slip through the net.
I learned most of my lessons the hard way before joining this site. But these are ruthless and devious people.
That's why it pays to have friends and allies in the forums. So when in doubt there are always other opinions for guidance and encouragement.
Don't be discouraged, though.
There are plenty of good people here too!
Many are spotted by the moderators and removed. Whilst others slip through the net.
I learned most of my lessons the hard way before joining this site. But these are ruthless and devious people.
That's why it pays to have friends and allies in the forums. So when in doubt there are always other opinions for guidance and encouragement.
Don't be discouraged, though.
There are plenty of good people here too!
Thanks for the warning, it takes a lot to discourage me though...
I trust my instincts and they're usually right. I can be impulsive, but don't think I'm gullible.I like it here and think I'm gonna stick around...
I just turned mine off - simple as - if somebody doesnt have the manners to ask first then I dont want to know them anyway 
The mails on here are great to get to know somebody timm Im confident to give out my msn and besides, if somebody wants to rush me then it simply comes across as a big old red flag...........
The mails on here are great to get to know somebody timm Im confident to give out my msn and besides, if somebody wants to rush me then it simply comes across as a big old red flag...........
trish123: I just turned mine off - simple as - if somebody doesnt have the manners to ask first then I dont want to know them anyway
The mails on here are great to get to know somebody till Im confident to give out my msn and besides, if somebody wants to rush me then it simply comes across as a big old red flag...........
The mails on here are great to get to know somebody till Im confident to give out my msn and besides, if somebody wants to rush me then it simply comes across as a big old red flag...........
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Is it just me, or does anyone find the thought of accepting a conversation from a total stranger a bit unnerving...?!