Niceguyaaa and Fallenangel74 are meeting!! (105)
sweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 PostsGood luck! Yes, I'm sure you're hesitant. But as others have said, follow your instincts. If you feel comfortable talking to him... & you've been talking to him for 4 years... then you've built up a trust. This is just taking it to the next level. Is there any way he could come to you, instead?
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Sommerauer71: So, in his understanding, do you feel comfortable with him?
I would say four years is a patient man.
Bless you, my darling, you are really tying yourself up in knots over this aren't you?
Come on, let's look at this.
Do you want to meet him?
Do you feel safe and secure in your agreement with him to go ahead?
You know, if you are that scared, ask yourself why. Is it because of what you have read?
I would say four years is a patient man.
Bless you, my darling, you are really tying yourself up in knots over this aren't you?
Come on, let's look at this.
Do you want to meet him?
Do you feel safe and secure in your agreement with him to go ahead?
You know, if you are that scared, ask yourself why. Is it because of what you have read?
I want to meet him.....
It is because of what i have heard on the news of people preying on others and trying to be cautious(spelling?...lol) I wanna come home and be in safety and be here for my kids too in the end?
after he talked to us ...my daughter snuck on while i was on the phone call and he was all like hi sweetie how is school and she told him how she was in public speaking and won gold and he was like WoW! right on ..that is amazing good girl...and she won silver in choir he was like i am proud for you
He seemed genuine? made me smile
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ooby_dooby: Why doesn't HE fly to see YOU? I would never expect a woman to fly to meet me. It wasn't how I was raised. This way he would be on your turf not the other way around.
He was already here and I didnt show it was in the begining and i thought it too soon
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sweetowen: Good luck! Yes, I'm sure you're hesitant. But as others have said, follow your instincts. If you feel comfortable talking to him... & you've been talking to him for 4 years... then you've built up a trust. This is just taking it to the next level. Is there any way he could come to you, instead?
He is moving to another city and is starting off fresh in Calgary he said we could wait but it will be a long one since he has to get into his new work environment and it will be awhile and he is not sure when he can make it here?
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Fallenangel74: I want to meet him.....
It is because of what i have heard on the news of people preying on others and trying to be cautious(spelling?...lol) I wanna come home and be in safety and be here for my kids too in the end?
after he talked to us ...my daughter snuck on while i was on the phone call and he was all like hi sweetie how is school and she told him how she was in public speaking and won gold and he was like WoW! right on ..that is amazing good girl...and she won silver in choir he was like i am proud for you
He seemed genuine? made me smile
It is because of what i have heard on the news of people preying on others and trying to be cautious(spelling?...lol) I wanna come home and be in safety and be here for my kids too in the end?
after he talked to us ...my daughter snuck on while i was on the phone call and he was all like hi sweetie how is school and she told him how she was in public speaking and won gold and he was like WoW! right on ..that is amazing good girl...and she won silver in choir he was like i am proud for you
He seemed genuine? made me smile
Okay, you want to meet him.
Fallen, I think you will come home to your children. Of course the news is not pleasant reading, and it is frightening, and it is out there, danger.
So, the next question.
And I ask this, there is a difference.
Are you scared because of the news?
Or are you scared because he has given you reason to be scared?
You need to address your anxieties here, and see which one applies, and then you can make a decision, when you have answered the question. Or are you confused about it all?
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sweetowen: Good luck! Yes, I'm sure you're hesitant. But as others have said, follow your instincts. If you feel comfortable talking to him... & you've been talking to him for 4 years... then you've built up a trust. This is just taking it to the next level. Is there any way he could come to you, instead?
I'd still do a police check.
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Fallenangel74: He is moving to another city and is starting off fresh in Calgary he said we could wait but it will be a long one since he has to get into his new work environment and it will be awhile and he is not sure when he can make it here?
Look at Sommer... she flew to another COUNTRY to meet her man!
Mine's all the way on the other side of the country & I'd go see him when I go to the west coast, but with his recent illness, he'd rather I didn't. But you have to know if you can. Do you TRUST him... that's the only thing you need to ask yourself.------ This thread is Archived ------
Indyfella: I'd still do a police check.
That should already have been done!
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Sommerauer71: Okay, you want to meet him.
Fallen, I think you will come home to your children. Of course the news is not pleasant reading, and it is frightening, and it is out there, danger.
So, the next question.
And I ask this, there is a difference.
Are you scared because of the news?
Or are you scared because he has given you reason to be scared?
You need to address your anxieties here, and see which one applies, and then you can make a decision, when you have answered the question. Or are you confused about it all?
Fallen, I think you will come home to your children. Of course the news is not pleasant reading, and it is frightening, and it is out there, danger.
So, the next question.
And I ask this, there is a difference.
Are you scared because of the news?
Or are you scared because he has given you reason to be scared?
You need to address your anxieties here, and see which one applies, and then you can make a decision, when you have answered the question. Or are you confused about it all?
Well he hasnt given me reason to? he was upset when i didnt show last time, and has offered to pay my way if i was afraid he was after money he would pay everything, anything to prove he says?
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Indyfella: I'd still do a police check.
Nah, I relied on the people from here to assess him.
And he did not get good press.
I went anyway.
Just goes to show, how much you lot know!
Evening Indy.------ This thread is Archived ------
Sommerauer71: Nah, I relied on the people from here to assess him.
And he did not get good press.
I went anyway.
Just goes to show, how much you lot know! Evening Indy.
And he did not get good press.
I went anyway.
Just goes to show, how much you lot know! Evening Indy.
See... & I'd visit Doc without hesitation too. You get to know someone pretty well, after chatting with them. They can only cover their true selves up for so long before slipping up somewhere. JMHO.
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Sommerauer71: Nah, I relied on the people from here to assess him.
And he did not get good press.
I went anyway.
Just goes to show, how much you lot know! Evening Indy.
And he did not get good press.
I went anyway.
Just goes to show, how much you lot know! Evening Indy.
I am available nights and weekends to check out any ladies that need to be checked. I will ensure you I will do a head-to-toe inspection. No area will be left unchecked. Forward names to me for action.
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Fallenangel74: Well he hasnt given me reason to? he was upset when i didnt show last time, and has offered to pay my way if i was afraid he was after money he would pay everything, anything to prove he says?
Right, so stop reading the news, it is not in there everyday, the new power we have with the internet is to flood ourselves with information, some good, some bad and the other? Well it crawls into our mind and we cannot get it out.
If he is trying to prove that he is a good guy, you must have given him some reason for him to want to prove that fact.
I would go, you have told him your fears, you have allowed him to speak with your daughter, you have been in touch with him for four years.
I think you can do this.
I really do.
And if there is any hope for you both, if you meet and really like each other and take it further, then share with him all your fears...
That is what a relationship is, I never share mine with other people, I share them with him, and him alone, that is what partners do.
Four years is a long time to wait for a person, I would go out on a limb here and say that if he wanted to do anything he would have more opportunity to do in that time and you are still safe.
Give the guy a chance! Hey?
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Big_John: I am available nights and weekends to check out any ladies that need to be checked. I will ensure you I will do a head-to-toe inspection. No area will be left unchecked. Forward names to me for action.
I'm okay thanks John, I have been assessed from head to toe.
I got the thumbs up...
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sweetowen: See... & I'd visit Doc without hesitation too. You get to know someone pretty well, after chatting with them. They can only cover their true selves up for so long before slipping up somewhere. JMHO.
I went with my gut instinct, if I had of listened to people here, I would have been meeting a woman abusing, woman hater and an idiot.
Fortunately, my gut instinct and my own astutness got me through it all.
Six months later????? Well, we're still together and it just grows each day.
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Sommerauer71: I went with my gut instinct, if I had of listened to people here, I would have been meeting a woman abusing, woman hater and an idiot.
Fortunately, my gut instinct and my own astutness got me through it all.
Six months later????? Well, we're still together and it just grows each day.
Fortunately, my gut instinct and my own astutness got me through it all.
Six months later????? Well, we're still together and it just grows each day.
See, another wonderful success story! And hopefully, I may be able to tell of one someday.
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Big_John: I am available nights and weekends to check out any ladies that need to be checked. I will ensure you I will do a head-to-toe inspection. No area will be left unchecked. Forward names to me for action.
Hmmmmm.....
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Fallenangel74: Hmmmm I am gonna do it....Anyone know any good babysitter for 4 days?....lmao!!
If I lived nearer, I would do it.
I would want hourly updates to be reassured you are safe and well.
I think you want and need that, reassurance that your decision to go is the right one.
If I were in your shoes, I would go.
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