When you go on that first date what do you... (96)
Big_John: I know it is so important to not rush into anything. Taking the time and slowing things down to a comfortable pace is perfect. Most dating situations appear to rush things up and expectations are too high for most people.
I try to see this as anticipations over expectations,,but we're only human. I'm still single,,so either I'm not doing something right,,or that special person has'nt entered my life yet
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kitty01: I guess it is not good to tell that you put one ex in prison and the other killed himself.
Boy, talk about the thrill of a high risk relationship. What are you doing tonite?
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Big_John: I know it is so important to not rush into anything. Taking the time and slowing things down to a comfortable pace is perfect. Most dating situations appear to rush things up and expectations are too high for most people.
Zero. None.
No expectations at all when meeting for a first time.
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sassy49senior: When and if it happens as I have very little dating
experience, since I do have one pending, we have
gotten to know a little in the past few weeks and have
had the opportunith to hear the voice.
I will go as me no sense in putting on a show. If we hit
it off I am sure the rest will just come together. We
will have things to chat about and get to know a little
more about one another. Hopefully if it goes well when
we part there will be a kiss and plans for a 2nd date.
experience, since I do have one pending, we have
gotten to know a little in the past few weeks and have
had the opportunith to hear the voice.
I will go as me no sense in putting on a show. If we hit
it off I am sure the rest will just come together. We
will have things to chat about and get to know a little
more about one another. Hopefully if it goes well when
we part there will be a kiss and plans for a 2nd date.
I believe this is the best way to enter into a first date.
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jessejess47: for me it is preety much the same as the rest, I do try to make them laugh like vinny says And I always pay for the coffe or meal or whatever.
I see where this would put a great deal of pressure on me if one of my goals were to try and make her laugh. I think all women love a man that has a sense of humor and can keep things on the happy side.
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Big_John: But do you get nervous at first? Do you wait until he generates the conversation? Have some of your first dates been awkward or uncomforable? How do you try to change that feeling if you really want the date to work?
I had very few first dates after my long-term relationship (7 years).
And yes, John, I was nervous a little, but not uncomfortable, it was fun.
Big_John: How do you try to change that feeling if you really want the date to work?
That I don't know.
I don't think that changing this feeling will (on it's own) insure that the date will be successful.
Both understand that a bit of tension is normal when ppl first meet.
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What are you suppose to say when they ask to tell me about yourself and you have nothing to say that does not lead into areas you do not want to talk about. I do not just come out right away but in the end what can I say where are they now and do you still see them or where is the kids father? Only one answer jail and dead.
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kitty01: What are you suppose to say when they ask to tell me about yourself and you have nothing to say that does not lead into areas you do not want to talk about. I do not just come out right away but in the end what can I say where are they now and do you still see them or where is the kids father? Only one answer jail and dead.
I see your point. How many have called you back?
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Big_John: think about asking? Do you have question you want to know the answers?
What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why?
What are the qualities of your ideal relationship?
What do you like to do for fun?
or are you so overcome with fears and insecurities. You may be afraid of rejection, failure, saying the wrong things and coming across like a loser in front of your date.
What are your 1st date questions?
To be honest Big John. I wouldn't go on a date with a plan drawn up. I just would just let all flow naturally and see what happens. I would keep a first date very trivial. Instead of seeing if two people are compatible via meet up, I would tend to allow for natural instincts to connect via having fun and extremely light chats but I would answer any questions that was asked of me, but asking too many questions can be a big turn off for some people.What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why?
What are the qualities of your ideal relationship?
What do you like to do for fun?
or are you so overcome with fears and insecurities. You may be afraid of rejection, failure, saying the wrong things and coming across like a loser in front of your date.
What are your 1st date questions?
On my first date, I would try to be fun, humorous and be a good listener.
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buzzy: "Do you give head." If she doesn't, why go on?
Shame on you buzzy 
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buzzy: I see your point. How many have called you back?
Now that I am older maybe I can just say I do not know where they are and have no contact. Maybe then I would get a second date
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Laura25: Zero. None.
No expectations at all when meeting for a first time.
No expectations at all when meeting for a first time.
This is so different than the way I think. I have expectations of wanting the date to work; to get to know the person; in hoping that this works and she will be the one.
'Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed' Alexander Pope
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kitty01: What are you suppose to say when they ask to tell me about yourself and you have nothing to say that does not lead into areas you do not want to talk about. I do not just come out right away but in the end what can I say where are they now and do you still see them or where is the kids father? Only one answer jail and dead.
I believe we all get questions about things we don't want to answer too early in a relationship. Deciding what to say and when to say it is one of the hardest things we do on first, second and other dates. Sometimes when you wait too long to provide answers will cause problems. So this is a hard balancing act. Many of us doesn't do it well.
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Big_John: This is so different than the way I think. I have expectations of wanting the date to work; to get to know the person; in hoping that this works and she will be the one.
'Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed' Alexander Pope
'Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed' Alexander Pope
John, I do want the date to be a success, wouldn't have joined a dating site otherwise.
But
I don't even view a first meet as being a date. Why would I put this unnecessary silly pressure on myself and on the other person whom I never saw before?
There is always a 2nd date to have all the expectations blooming. If both are up to it.
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Laura25: John, I do want the date to be a success, wouldn't have joined a dating site otherwise.
But
I don't even view a first meet as being a date. Why would I put this unnecessary silly pressure on myself and on the other person whom I never saw before?
There is always a 2nd date to have all the expectations blooming. If both are up to it.
But
I don't even view a first meet as being a date. Why would I put this unnecessary silly pressure on myself and on the other person whom I never saw before?
There is always a 2nd date to have all the expectations blooming. If both are up to it.
Good answer.
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buzzy: "Do you give head." If she doesn't, why go on?
Buzzy!
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Big_John: Good answer.
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Charli15695: Buzzy!
Well it's important to me! But I always return the favor!
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kitty01: Now that I am older maybe I can just say I do not know where they are and have no contact. Maybe then I would get a second date
You could just say, "Out of my life." Which is true.
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But do you get nervous at first? Do you wait until he generates the conversation? Have some of your first dates been awkward or uncomforable? How do you try to change that feeling if you really want the date to work?