Do people use distance as a crutch? (32)
roseofsharon: I don't, no. Nor am I aware of someone I know feeling like that. It is very much a possibility for some though. Sometimes, depending on experiences one has had and how those experiences have affected that person, there can be a tendency to "sabotage one's own happiness".... unwittingly or otherwise. Its a kind of self-reservation measure, if you like. If they have a tendency for that, if it wasn't distance, chances are it would be something else that was perceived (used) as an "obstacle".
Good thread!
Good thread!
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Most people especially older, are set in their family and lives, jobs, house, and don't want to relocate.
Given that you might find the love of your life miles away its not convenient and sometimes not practical financially and time wise, time off job to fly across world or US to meet up.
Not saying it doesn't happen, but most people have ties they don't want to break to go away to another place.
I don't think it's a crutch as much as logistics.
I live in northern michigan and to date someone in southern michigan 4 hours away would be a stretch because of my job.
Given that you might find the love of your life miles away its not convenient and sometimes not practical financially and time wise, time off job to fly across world or US to meet up.
Not saying it doesn't happen, but most people have ties they don't want to break to go away to another place.
I don't think it's a crutch as much as logistics.
I live in northern michigan and to date someone in southern michigan 4 hours away would be a stretch because of my job.
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spice: these are all good points so far.but have to get to work.
ARE YOU THERE YET???
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Oh, heck yes, but it forces me to get to know the person before I will travel.
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zee1ander: Oh, heck yes, but it forces me to get to know the person before I will travel.
zee
If I had the $$$$$$ I would be doing some travelling to meet all the c/s members at their gatherings and some men I would love to meet.zee
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spice: do you or some one you know use distance as a crutch so they don't have to meet?
I think some do in a sense. I think they find it easier to be attracted to someone who is a distance away more so than closer, for the simple fact, they don't have to meet as soon.
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Arlene101: If I had the $$$$$$ I would be doing some travelling to meet all the c/s members at their gatherings and some men I would love to meet.
Wooo Hoooo...
zee
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Mercedes1: Im so glad you said crutch and not crotch
Oh Mercedes you naughty girl!
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Some might, or as a protection factor.
I never thought of getting involved in distance relationships when I first joined, but have gotten carried away twice now on here. I've learned caution through those experiences.
I'm on here now just for friends, but not because of heartache...because of things going on in my life that make me need to focus on myself, my family, and my friends right now, and leave me nothing left to give to romance at this time. But, if I get romantically involved again, I don't think distance will be an issue...I'll just be more careful.
I never thought of getting involved in distance relationships when I first joined, but have gotten carried away twice now on here. I've learned caution through those experiences.
I'm on here now just for friends, but not because of heartache...because of things going on in my life that make me need to focus on myself, my family, and my friends right now, and leave me nothing left to give to romance at this time. But, if I get romantically involved again, I don't think distance will be an issue...I'll just be more careful.
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Witchaywoman: No, I had bad relationships in the past and this site is a way to get to know a person first instead of getting used by a creep or a guy who will never commit.
How is that working out so far?
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spice: do you or some one you know use distance as a crutch so they don't have to meet?
The whole distance thing is a hassle. I meet ladies on here that I'd love to spend time with in person. But we both know the chances of being together permanently are small. So we friends and talk about everything. I'm not really sure I believe in love on the net. Have heard too many say they were in love with the idea of being in love. But then again, maybe I'm goind about this all wrong...
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I don't, no. Nor am I aware of someone I know feeling like that. It is very much a possibility for some though. Sometimes, depending on experiences one has had and how those experiences have affected that person, there can be a tendency to "sabotage one's own happiness".... unwittingly or otherwise. Its a kind of self-reservation measure, if you like. If they have a tendency for that, if it wasn't distance, chances are it would be something else that was perceived (used) as an "obstacle".
Good thread!