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There is no "correct" type of post here, Marasgal, as you will soon discover. The only thing I would suggest is that you take it slow. Yes, you want to love and be loved again, but don't rush it. Take the time to find what you truly need and want from a woman and take the time to find her.
By the way...welcome aboard!
By the way...welcome aboard!
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Welcom to CS
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welcome here and have fun.
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.....And here lies the mistake.....and I will be lashed here by the Ladies,so be it.....'I tried HARD to make her happy, willing to make the changes to try to make her happy, but she just didnt want me to Make her happy'....this one, I have heard so many times,I don't mean this in a nasty way towards you....and I congratulate you for trying.....Hey,I made the same mistake as you.....trying to 'hard' and been to 'Nice' and 'understanding'...it doens't work.... I read a very interesting article on 'Men been to Nice,finish last'....'Google' search it, and have a read.....I wish you all the best,and best wishes
J.D 
J.D
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Sit back, eat some popcorn, watch andpost in a few forums and just have a good time.
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Hi Sassy. 
sassy49senior: Sit back, eat some popcorn, watch and
post in a few forums and just have a good time.
post in a few forums and just have a good time.
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virgiomonkey: .....And here lies the mistake.....and I will be lashed here by the Ladies,so be it.....'I tried HARD to make her happy, willing to make the changes to try to make her happy, but she just didnt want me to Make her happy'....this one, I have heard so many times,I don't mean this in a nasty way towards you....and I congratulate you for trying.....Hey,I made the same mistake as you.....trying to 'hard' and been to 'Nice' and 'understanding'...it doens't work.... I read a very interesting article on 'Men been to Nice,finish last'....'Google' search it, and have a read.....I wish you all the best,and best wishes
One of the biggest misconceptions that many of us have is that we think we can "make" someone else happy. We cannot. We can be good and kind and loving and caring, but we cannot make someone happy. I have known a number of good men in my life and I am thankful for having known them, but that doesn't mean that they were right for me. Their attempts to "make me happy" ultimately felt smothering. The joy is either there in its very existence or it is not. I DO want a good man to love, but that doesn't mean that I can fall in love with every good man that enters my life. There is more to the equation, and I'm hard-pressed to believe that you don't know this, too. If you believe that just goodness is enough to commit yourself to another (loving them, sleeping with them, making love with them), then none of us would be here. I know a hell of a lot of good men. I just don't love them.
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jlb684: One of the biggest misconceptions that many of us have is that we think we can "make" someone else happy. We cannot. We can be good and kind and loving and caring, but we cannot make someone happy. I have known a number of good men in my life and I am thankful for having known them, but that doesn't mean that they were right for me. Their attempts to "make me happy" ultimately felt smothering. The joy is either there in its very existence or it is not. I DO want a good man to love, but that doesn't mean that I can fall in love with every good man that enters my life. There is more to the equation, and I'm hard-pressed to believe that you don't know this, too. If you believe that just goodness is enough to commit yourself to another (loving them, sleeping with them, making love with them), then none of us would be here. I know a hell of a lot of good men. I just don't love them.
.........Well said...and I agree with you,have you fainted.?????..L.O.L.....learn't my lesson very quickly on that one,so as my young Adult Son,but some people don't learn and still continue on with the same old mistake of your comment 'the ultimately felt smothering'.....again nicely worded.....but sometimes I see Men just been to super 'Nice' and to 'understanding' to the point it looks like they are 'groveling'.....and have become a total gutless Wimp.....
J.D
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welcome , STar treks out . T-4 comes out thursday go see it .
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I love this song.. Gipsy Kings " El Toro y La Luna"....
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Welcome to CS
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my heart goes for the children,
I hope that both of you would make it easy for them, while I am sure that you and she will find a way to live your separate lives.
but if you may allow me my new friend to say:
first make your divorce final before getting involved with anyone even if this involvement is only friendship.
second, give your self sometime to release all the bad experience influence o your personalty and thoughts.
third, Then, you can start fresh with old issues are totally out of your system.
remember to smile always
and those that do not kill you, make you strongersalam
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And as some others have already said, slow down. Take your time and wait til your divorced before entering into something else while you're still feeling "almost dead" as you put it. You need some healing time before you can give your best to another. By the way, your post is just fine. I'm sorry that you've been hurt. At least you still have some hope that you can love and be loved once again. Best wishes to you.
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Like I said, my life has felt like it stopped several years ago. I wasted so much time and effort in my attempts to make her happy.
I plan on starting with friendships, and dating, and just Living life again. If Love just happens to come around, then so be it. I Just want to get out in the world and Mainly start living life instead of just existing.
We have decided to allow our 2 kids to make the choice of who they want to be with, and if they change their minds at some time, we agreed to move the child to which parent they want to be with. We both want the children happy. The divorce will be here really soon, since neither of us want Alimony or child support (Since my daughter wants to live with me, and my son wants to live with her) So we are filing a Non-Contested Divorce. As soon as Payday gets here, we will file the papers and things will be over within a Month. So its basically its going to be pretty fast.
Do I hate her for all the cheating? Yes, but I am not going to waste the time or effort on memories of her. I am going to start making a new life and enjoy it :)
Even my daughter wants me to go out and start dating LMAO
I plan on starting with friendships, and dating, and just Living life again. If Love just happens to come around, then so be it. I Just want to get out in the world and Mainly start living life instead of just existing.
We have decided to allow our 2 kids to make the choice of who they want to be with, and if they change their minds at some time, we agreed to move the child to which parent they want to be with. We both want the children happy. The divorce will be here really soon, since neither of us want Alimony or child support (Since my daughter wants to live with me, and my son wants to live with her) So we are filing a Non-Contested Divorce. As soon as Payday gets here, we will file the papers and things will be over within a Month. So its basically its going to be pretty fast.
Do I hate her for all the cheating? Yes, but I am not going to waste the time or effort on memories of her. I am going to start making a new life and enjoy it :)
Even my daughter wants me to go out and start dating LMAO
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welcome on board Marasqal...
this is a great place to be... you might not realise this right now but you will the more you get in the forums and get to know the people here...
dating... well...that can happen...
as to finding love?.. well, that takes a bit longer but as it's an unpredictable thing.. it might just be around the corner!
here.. have a coffee!
(sorry, no emoticons for coffee yet)
this is a great place to be... you might not realise this right now but you will the more you get in the forums and get to know the people here...
dating... well...that can happen...
as to finding love?.. well, that takes a bit longer but as it's an unpredictable thing.. it might just be around the corner!
here.. have a coffee!
(sorry, no emoticons for coffee yet)
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virgiomonkey: .....
I read a very interesting article on 'Men been to Nice,finish last'....'Google' search it, and have a read.....I wish you all the best,and best wishes
J.D
I read a very interesting article on 'Men been to Nice,finish last'....'Google' search it, and have a read.....I wish you all the best,and best wishes
J.D
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u are one of those suffering soul,life is still good and u will find the right one for u one day,just keep hoping with pray...welcome to cs
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GOOD ADVISE KRISHA,BUT BEFORE RECIEVE THE ANSWER OF
PRAYER YOU MUST BE GOOD IN HEART..YES!!
YURI,
PRAYER YOU MUST BE GOOD IN HEART..YES!!
YURI,
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WElcome to the club man.. Sounds like you need more of a break, and enjoy the single thing for awhile... instead of jumping into another relationship.... Enjoy the serenity whie you can..
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I am married, but working on the Divorce right now. I was (Am?) married to my wife for 15 years. I tried HARD to make her happy, willing to make the changes to try to make her happy, but she just didnt want me to Make her happy. She cheated on me, with a few of my friends and several other people. I tried to Forgive her, but after many years of this going on, I lost the heart to keep trying.
My life has been on hold for Many years trying to make the Marriage work, that now I feel like I am dead almost. So I am looking for a(n) Honest Woman to start over with.
Not sure what all else to say, and not sure if this is the correct type of Post. Sorry sorta new to this stuff.