ARE MEN DIFFERENT? (60)

OK i was asked to start a thread ...so by popular demands here goes .......I have often felt that it must be tough for men who find themselves in a position where they are the sole provider of bread in a family and somewhat scary i would have thought to have 2,3,4 people relying on you ...i mean what if something happens and you lose your job ???? do men feel like this?????


do they ever feel that they are stereotypes and society expects them to fulfill the role of main provider?????


how many men would like a situation where their partner makes a very good salary and they can stay home .....read..do charity work....cook.......spend time with the kids etc........?????

Marry me, I'll do the dishes....

Society doesn't support a 'house husband' yet, though they might be more inclined to this than their wives. when i had people relying on me, it was horrible the fact that i was expected to provide but wasnt respected in my opinions (when ie i didnt like my job and wanted to find another, and got no emotional support through that). Like if providing was the end of the whole thing and like i should shut up even if things became stupid. It felt to me that my ex partner's security was more important than my well being whilst trying to provide. Is that a stereotype? couldn't she aim for a situation where we would both be happy? Many times i feel, smokey, that women's insecurities dictate the mail provider's stereotype. and also some times when women are materially independent, men are presented as useless, with no apparent purpose on this planet. like if women's idea of male spirituality ends at the loaf of bread. I think that male female relationships are going through changes and BOTH must reestablish what these relationships mean to them.

LOL i dont think we will get on ......2 dishwashers in the family and no cook we will starve ......

very interesting cos only this week I have been talking about this very same topic in some of my language classes .. it seems that in Italy it is totally unacceptab;e for a man to stay at home and look after the kids while the woman works .. and all the students across the board seemed resolute in that opinion.

In the UK it's nothing strange for a man to be the 'house husband' as it's known there ..

I was made redundant when my daughter was 4 years old and it seemed very traumatic at the time .. my life has however gone from strength to strength since that time .. and I dread to think how things might have been if I hadn't got that lucky break, as I see it now ..

In my country there is nothing wrong or weird if a woman earns more money. Although it's still unusual for man to stay at home with kids while his wife is working and providing the whole family.
Anyway, I wouldn't mind this if it was better for my family.

hi Hakos i really agree with what you say here ....many dont accept the role of house housband.......and yes men are often seen as only a way of providing the bacon .....they infact often have less choices than women who often can choose to stay home or work or study .....though i do know some women who have financed their husband's study ......and women do sometimes dipense of men if they dont need their cash ..the thing is in the past there was a level of equality with men havind domain over the finances and women domain over the kids today women often have both and men find themselves powerless...although i must admit sometimes it can also be their fault cos many women have reinvented themselves in the context of the 21 st century ...some men also have...but many men still stick to the same roles their parents had and refuse to take on roles which they see as roles for women..or am i wrong here?????

There are loads of house husbands in Scandinavia. That's one reason trying to adapt to other cultures can be even worse. Ok they don't open the doors for us women anymore... it's a shame IMO. I hope gradually there will be an equality that also allows for les petites différences, that is the things that make us unique as men and women.

It is a changing trend here in Aus as a lot of men have lost jobs from one reason or another, and also coz some women do prefer to work and they like the ide of someone being a home carer with the child instead of putting the child in a day care centre.