passive aggressive? ( Archived) (6)

i find this term confusing.
my brother has labeled some of my behavior as such.

i have worked with many types of personalities over the years, and get along with most.

but you always get that one. the one that disappears when there's work to be done, is overbearing, and attempts to intimidate and manipulate.

now i try to be nice, if i'm dealing with someone who's crossing a boundary. i'll make a pointed joke, but maintain eye contact a little too long, like," i'm trying to be cool here, get it?"



i don't even count the joke as a communication, but a surprising amount of people get it.
second time, direct communication, eye contact, i treat them as a grown adult and don't ovrelaborate.
third time i have an edge to my voice, a warnig ,that it's gonna get ugly.

so, if there is a fourth time i have to say something , why do they act so surprised? or try to act as if you are over reacting?

i don't call this passive aggressive. i call it , ok, most people get this when i tell them one or two times, i tried to be cool about it, and you wouldn't have it.


similar experiences / stories? do you consider yourself passive aggressive?

No, I'm just agressive Just Kidding.

We all can be passive/aggressive when push comes to shove. Depends upon the circumstances.

No, and other people can tell you that...

Being passive aggressive is manipulation. I know others who have this trait....they don't even realize it...

But I am a doer and very straight forward.

I don't think what you describe Pikengren is passive aggressive.

Passive aggression is more of an insecurity. People with passive aggressive behavior make promises they don't intend to keep just to shut the other person up. If you asked someone to do you a favor, they accept responsibility for it, but never get around to doing it. They'd rather make excuses or place the blame on someone else, than carry out what they "promise". The 'agressive' person would just simply say; "No, I don't want to do this."

i dont know but to me the term passive aggressive makes as much sense as "happily depressed", "non wild lion/bear/cougar" or even "predatory victim"....

make up your mind people... you are either passive or aggressive at any one point but you cant be both at once just like you cant keep your eyes open when you sneeze !!!