I still think some but not all people do want/expect their partners to be picture perfect so to speak.I think those kinds of people are only living in a fantasy world because there is no perfect person that I know of.Below is a article I read today and how Charles Johnson sees it.
Do we really want perfection in a partner by Charles Johnson
Is there a perfect mate for everyone? After talking to a lot of people about dating , I don't think everyone who is dating is looking for the perfect person any more.One of the reasons there are divorces is people thought they wanted a person who was perfect. As it really was, I just wanted a person who just had things in common with me. The people who think they are perfect are living a world by their self.
You will find that most people who think they are perfect do not have any true friends.They just think they do.
After having a lot of lady friends in todays world ,I have a found that almost all my married friends do not have a perfect mate that they want us to think they do.The longer men and women live together they must be able to change things in their life in order to make their mates want to be with them even if they are not perfect.The only people who think their perfect husband or wife is happy is living in a fantasy world.The people I know who is like that,they are both going out on each other.
Before I got married I decided to make a list about the women I was looking for.Looking for that perfect women for me was a real waste of time in making a list.Amost every women I would meet liked some of the things I liked.About this time I stared wondering if my life style needed to changed.I started watching what the women did that I was trying to date.I soon found that these women were not really that bad.
If one mate wants everything perfect around the house and the other mate just wants to be happy,They need to break up now.They are just wasting their time.They will never be be on the same page as long as one mate wants everything their way.There is no way that they can tell each other how they feel because of going in different directions.The wife and I will never agree on everything ,This had been going on 28 years now.We both have to go out of our way to be happy.We try to talk about every thing we do.She still does things I don't like and I am still doing things that she does not like.
You must stop looking for the perfect male or female because they are not out there.A lot of people have looked all their life for that perfect person.These people who think they need everything done a certain way may have that thought the rest of their life.
somechick: If one mate wants everything perfect around the house and the other mate just wants to be happy,They need to break up now.They are just wasting their time.
OMG!
That's so true!
She wanted everything to be perfect, and I just wanted to be a happly slob!
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Do we really want perfection in a partner
by Charles Johnson
Is there a perfect mate for everyone? After talking to a lot of people
about dating , I don't think everyone who is dating is looking for the
perfect person any more.One of the reasons there are divorces is
people thought they wanted a person who was perfect. As it really
was, I just wanted a person who just had things in common with me.
The people who think they are perfect are living a world by their self.
You will find that most people who think they are perfect do not have
any true friends.They just think they do.
After having a lot of lady friends in todays world ,I have a found that
almost all my married friends do not have a perfect mate that they
want us to think they do.The longer men and women live together
they must be able to change things in their life in order to make their
mates want to be with them even if they are not perfect.The only
people who think their perfect husband or wife is happy is living in a
fantasy world.The people I know who is like that,they are both going
out on each other.
Before I got married I decided to make a list about the women I was
looking for.Looking for that perfect women for me was a real waste of
time in making a list.Amost every women I would meet liked some
of the things I liked.About this time I stared wondering if my life style
needed to changed.I started watching what the women did that I was
trying to date.I soon found that these women were not really that bad.
If one mate wants everything perfect around the house and the other
mate just wants to be happy,They need to break up now.They are just
wasting their time.They will never be be on the same page as long as
one mate wants everything their way.There is no way that they can tell
each other how they feel because of going in different directions.The
wife and I will never agree on everything ,This had been going on 28
years now.We both have to go out of our way to be happy.We try to
talk about every thing we do.She still does things I don't like and I am
still doing things that she does not like.
You must stop looking for the perfect male or female because they are
not out there.A lot of people have looked all their life for that perfect
person.These people who think they need everything done a certain
way may have that thought the rest of their life.