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Jul 22, 2009 1:08 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
I still think some but not all people do want/expect their partners to be picture perfect so to speak.I think those kinds of people are only living in a fantasy world because there is no perfect person that I know of.Below is a article I read today and how Charles Johnson sees it.


Do we really want perfection in a partner
by Charles Johnson

Is there a perfect mate for everyone? After talking to a lot of people
about dating , I don't think everyone who is dating is looking for the
perfect person any more.One of the reasons there are divorces is
people thought they wanted a person who was perfect. As it really
was, I just wanted a person who just had things in common with me.
The people who think they are perfect are living a world by their self.

You will find that most people who think they are perfect do not have
any true friends.They just think they do.

After having a lot of lady friends in todays world ,I have a found that
almost all my married friends do not have a perfect mate that they
want us to think they do.The longer men and women live together
they must be able to change things in their life in order to make their
mates want to be with them even if they are not perfect.The only
people who think their perfect husband or wife is happy is living in a
fantasy world.The people I know who is like that,they are both going
out on each other.

Before I got married I decided to make a list about the women I was
looking for.Looking for that perfect women for me was a real waste of
time in making a list.Amost every women I would meet liked some
of the things I liked.About this time I stared wondering if my life style
needed to changed.I started watching what the women did that I was
trying to date.I soon found that these women were not really that bad.

If one mate wants everything perfect around the house and the other
mate just wants to be happy,They need to break up now.They are just
wasting their time.They will never be be on the same page as long as
one mate wants everything their way.There is no way that they can tell
each other how they feel because of going in different directions.The
wife and I will never agree on everything ,This had been going on 28
years now.We both have to go out of our way to be happy.We try to
talk about every thing we do.She still does things I don't like and I am
still doing things that she does not like.

You must stop looking for the perfect male or female because they are
not out there.A lot of people have looked all their life for that perfect
person.These people who think they need everything done a certain
way may have that thought the rest of their life.
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Jul 22, 2009 1:10 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
MEDTECH662
MEDTECH662MEDTECH662Ity Bity, Tennessee USA12 Threads 641 Posts
No such thing as perfection imo
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Jul 22, 2009 1:11 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
Lagoona22
Lagoona22Lagoona22Bugibba, Majjistral Malta161 Threads 11 Polls 10,711 Posts
giggle

















.....A nice rack is a good start....
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Jul 22, 2009 1:12 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
cameraman
cameramancameramanSt. Petersburg, Florida USA29 Threads 19 Polls 2,501 Posts
I'm not actually looking for a perfect partner... Just a partner that knows I'm perfect... Or will she???
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Jul 22, 2009 1:15 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
dirko63
dirko63dirko63brussels, Brussels (Bruxelles) Belgium2 Threads 426 Posts
MEDTECH662: No such thing as perfection imo


nobody is perfect- i am a nobody this means im perfect rolling on the floor laughing
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Jul 22, 2009 1:15 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
dillydally
dillydallydillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads 2,697 Posts
Flaws and all for me .If he can except me and mine then its all I need smitten
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Jul 22, 2009 1:19 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
RobertC2
RobertC2RobertC2Xaghra, Gozo, Gozo Malta91 Threads 8 Polls 8,344 Posts
somechick:
If one mate wants everything perfect around the house and the other
mate just wants to be happy,They need to break up now.They are just
wasting their time.


OMG!

That's so true!

She wanted everything to be perfect, and I just wanted to be a happly slob!

conversing sigh
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Jul 22, 2009 1:44 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
Michael211_2000
Michael211_2000Michael211_2000Houston, Texas USA22 Threads 5 Polls 775 Posts
I just want someone that's perfect for me! I don't think that's too much to ask for. dunno

- Michael ("American by birth, Texan by the Grace of God!") sad flower
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Jul 22, 2009 1:46 PM CST Do we really want perfection in a partner???
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
Nope, because then i would have to strife towards perfection and i am far from that.
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