Why get married any more? ( Archived) (63)

Knowing you have someone there, a partner, a friend, a person that has your back, supports you, that will be there for you forever someone to talk to every night about the days events, the kids and then kiss before you go to sleep. WAIT that was an episode of the Brady Bunch. Yep marriage can really suck I need more coffee.

I agree. To some its just a piece of paper but to me its more a deep serious thing. To me marriage is sacred, you are sharing the rest of your life with this person whom you dedicated your whole being to and vice versa as well. To me marriage is sharing with the world and the ones you love how much you love one another. Its a new beginning to life.

This institution of marriage has indeed become a farce.

Originally it was a religious idea to be married in the eyes of God.

Now it has become a political issue and a business contract.

If there is supposed to be a separation between church and state then why should marriage have anything to do with manmade laws?

The whole idea of marriage has become corrupt over the years.

Is it a religious tradition? Or a governmental legal issue???

It's bull crap as far as I can tell.

Why should the government even care about people's personal relationships? Why doesn't the government just treat everyone as individuals? Or if people do want to have some kind of legal connection that should be done as a contract that totally separate from the idea of "marriage". Marriage shouldn't have anything at all to do with any legal system. It should be a purely theological ideal and be totally separate from any legal or governmental issues.

That's how I feel about it anyway.

its only corrupt if YOU feel it is...its all at how each views it James. What each believes and is willing to put into it and take from it. Marriage is beautiful, can be...if both love with a true heart.


Just because the government issues that piece of paper makes it no less valuable to the two willing to be true to what that is.

Because I would never live with anyone.

Most put the success of marriage/relationships into the hands of love. With only a vague and romantic concept of what love means, we wait for love to do it all.

We want to believe that love solves all interpersonal problems, dilutes all differences, dissolves fears and anger, resolves all conflicts and surrounding us with strength and warmth, will bring us to eternal bliss.

This is like waiting for our instincts to guide us, and is no more satisfactory a solution. In fact, placing ourselves in the hands of love has proved more of a probleme than a solution.

Having loved and lost, most of us have become suspicious of love, committment and marriage. Too often we have reached out in what we believed was love only to recoil in awe at is power to collect tryants and cause pain in our lives.

Even where love is perfect it still is not a total solution to a healthy and happy marriage/relationship.

Most people do not want to take the time to invest in marriage anymore, it is simply to much work.

What I meant was that the government has corrupted it.

It's not longer marriage in the eyes of god. It has become marriage in the eyes of man. They are even deciding on whether it should be just between a man and a woman or between any to individuals without regard to gender.

Personally I don't care. I'm just asking, "When did the government become god?" Is it marriage in the eyes of god? Or marriage in the eyes of government?

I'm saying that socially it's a corrupt concept. That's not a personal opinion. That's just an observation of the way things are. It's not intended as a judgment call.

Ah indeed cat...its not easy, its a commitment to communicate, share everything, love, respect, argue even....lots of things


but love is the foundation that makes all that possible..to wake up next to that person and be glad of that each and every day...appreciate one another

old fashioned in a lot of ways i guess. i just believe in marriage and that commitment.

Well then there are two old fashioned ones left.

I believe in marriage and commitment as well.





Even though a person gets burned does not mean that they should never stike another match.

If you want to seperate the two, the Bible is against it as well, so does that mean that government is making the choice for us really? Or following what -most- may believe is "right" in the eyes of God?

Make that three

I could make that four but I'll leave it to Peaches to have her say if she sees this thread