Mixed race and dating? (23)
skypilot1946: I had to think long and hard before posting this......
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
Looking at your photo, I would have no idea. Which mixed races are you that it is of such concern?
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Being of a mixed race,I too can understand where
you're coming from.I've had very positive as to
me being of a mixed race,people are truly interested
in who I am,in what my culture is about.I've chatted
with many people who has accepted me for me and not for
my culture.However,I have "butted heads" with a few in
my time and,those are the people I'd like to thank for
they've given me more "Oooomph" for me to just be myself.
Good post.
you're coming from.I've had very positive as to
me being of a mixed race,people are truly interested
in who I am,in what my culture is about.I've chatted
with many people who has accepted me for me and not for
my culture.However,I have "butted heads" with a few in
my time and,those are the people I'd like to thank for
they've given me more "Oooomph" for me to just be myself.
Good post.
In response to: I had to think long and hard before posting this......
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
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skypilot1946: I had to think long and hard before posting this......
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
Just a thought, Make your hobbies and Lifestyle, as showing the exciting side ON YOUR PROFILE , so liven it up may help... Story I heard
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Thanks for the replies folks.
I'm proud of who I am and my heritage. I wouldn't change a thing, but if others found it a problem, and I was trying to get a date, then it would certainly become a problem for me.
Of course, it could be just my photos women don't like, but no, I won't even let that enter my mind as these pics are staying (had more photo-sessions than Kate Moss since trying online datin!!!)
I'm proud of who I am and my heritage. I wouldn't change a thing, but if others found it a problem, and I was trying to get a date, then it would certainly become a problem for me.
Of course, it could be just my photos women don't like, but no, I won't even let that enter my mind as these pics are staying (had more photo-sessions than Kate Moss since trying online datin!!!)
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I don't think your problem is your mixed race, but the fact that you're sitting in the middle of nowhere.
In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
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Hi together.
I think that is a general thing. Everybody has other point of views in his life. Some people like only that and other only something else. Some people like only asian faces and other only black skin...
For me is it absolutely not important from which race (or mixed) is a woman. Sure, i have my favorites... but in general is it not important... important is what my heart is telling me.
That's it, nothing else
;-)
I think that is a general thing. Everybody has other point of views in his life. Some people like only that and other only something else. Some people like only asian faces and other only black skin...
For me is it absolutely not important from which race (or mixed) is a woman. Sure, i have my favorites... but in general is it not important... important is what my heart is telling me.
That's it, nothing else
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I am not very educated on France. Yet here in California. You would have ladies following you where ever you go. May be you do not really realize you are handsome. Be yourself. I think you look great.
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heatherhuntsman: I am not very educated on France. Yet here in California. You would have ladies following you where ever you go. May be you do not really realize you are handsome. Be yourself. I think you look great.
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skypilot1946: I had to think long and hard before posting this......
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............
Simple: move to Africa! You'll have no problem dating there.
Don't mention it!
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Scubadiva: I don't think your problem is your mixed race, but the fact that you're sitting in the middle of nowhere.
In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
Agree with this and also agree with lusciousmile and heatherhuntsman.In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
You are attractive and I don't find anything wrong with your profile. It may just be location. Are you doing searches on CS for women in more metropolitan areas?
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Scubadiva: I don't think your problem is your mixed race, but the fact that you're sitting in the middle of nowhere.
In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
In ANY country on the planet, the people who live in rural regions tend to be more homophibic than in the big cities where there are lots of people from all kinds of places.
Attitudes tend to be conservative and "foreigners" are always somewhat suspect. Certainly fathers will say to their daughters: hey, you go out with this guy, he will get you pregnant and then leave. You won't know how you'll be treated, bla bla bla"
We have a saying in Germany that goes something like: What the farmer doesn't know, the farmer won't eat, meaning that in rural regions, the people tend not to be too open to new faces, new ideas, etc.
Maybe I shouldn't say this, but especially rural France has a reputation for not being particularly open and accepting of foreigners. I've been there many times and I'm not of mixed race and speak French, with an ancestor who's French and they look at me with suspicion
Hell, rural French people look at French people with suspicion. I lived in Arles, which is a fairly good size town, well, if you drive ten minutes you're in the boondocks, better not ask for direction, unless you like getting hit with a broom!
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I never would have tagged you as being multi-racial.
Most wouldnt peg me for it either, but here I sit in all my Hawaiian & Eskimo glory!
Most wouldnt peg me for it either, but here I sit in all my Hawaiian & Eskimo glory!
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Grandepensees: Hell, rural French people look at French people with suspicion. I lived in Arles, which is a fairly good size town, well, if you drive ten minutes you're in the boondocks, better not ask for direction, unless you like getting hit with a broom!
That is soooo true
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skypilot1946: Wow! Thanks for all the positive comments everyone!!!
My very dear friend lives near Angouleme. I understand how hard it is there. Its a beautiful place though..
Not much consolation I know
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Grandepensees: Hell, rural French people look at French people with suspicion. I lived in Arles, which is a fairly good size town, well, if you drive ten minutes you're in the boondocks, better not ask for direction, unless you like getting hit with a broom!
no wonder i never like to go to france
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What fishing for compliments are you?..you know you're gorgeous..I've told you enough..just too far away from me!
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SmilingGuy: Hi together.
I think that is a general thing. Everybody has other point of views in his life. Some people like only that and other only something else. Some people like only asian faces and other only black skin...
For me is it absolutely not important from which race (or mixed) is a woman. Sure, i have my favorites... but in general is it not important... important is what my heart is telling me.
That's it, nothing else ;-)
I think that is a general thing. Everybody has other point of views in his life. Some people like only that and other only something else. Some people like only asian faces and other only black skin...
For me is it absolutely not important from which race (or mixed) is a woman. Sure, i have my favorites... but in general is it not important... important is what my heart is telling me.
That's it, nothing else ;-)
I agree that,,100% Right!!!
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As you'll notice from my profile, if you take a look, I'm of mixed race, bi-racial, or whatever you want to call it. And although I obviosuly don't have an issue if people racially inter-mix within relationships, I suppose it's obvious that some will, which is again, fine, as long as they don't affect me in any way.
Now here's the thing.......I'm wondering if my being of mixed-race is affecting my dating, or lack of dating, should I say......lol? Not that I could do anything about it of course, and nor would I want to.
I'm not looking for a problem here, but just considering all possibilities in a hopefully logical manner and trying to help myself get to the root of my singledom, and would like other peoples' opinions on my thoughts. Of course, I'd like to think I'm barking up the wrong tree, but it would surely be naive to discount it completely?
I'm in a very rural part of France (moving not an option right now), but have tried to intergrate, learning the language (as far as I can go with no one to practice with) and have also contacted French members or even ex-pats from the UK and other countries, but to no avail. I might add, I've been trying this for several years on various sites and haven't had one date as yet!!
Thoughts please.............