Thinking the Best of People.. (27)
Petal 
Don't feel bad... if you have been compromised ,,, just learn from it... but dont change your kind heart... I believe that kindness and sincerty always will win out... perhaps not with others.... but for yourself... you will like and love yourself... and thats the important thing always..
Don't feel bad... if you have been compromised ,,, just learn from it... but dont change your kind heart... I believe that kindness and sincerty always will win out... perhaps not with others.... but for yourself... you will like and love yourself... and thats the important thing always..
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wow, have i got a lot of experience with this one.
go ahead. let yourself be skeptical for a little while, as a temporary growing phase. if it is truly in your nature to be good hearted, don't be afraid, you won't lose it. if it's a part of you, it's a part of you, and it will just come back more aware, that's all.
there are too many people out there looking to take advantage of caring people.
letting yourself learn from it will just help yo to not waste your time on as many of this type.
it is still going to happen, just not as frequently or severly.
some have no conscience. period.
there is motive behind every statement and action.
don't ignore gut feelings, they are more solid than you think.
gut feelings are real observations of mannerisms, weird statements that were uncomfortable for you to point out at the time they were made, and many other almost subliminal observations that your brain took in, but may not necessarily be able to describe. there is nothing magical about them. they are real observations gained from experience.
i have helped people against gut feelings, and it doesn't usually turn out well.
go ahead. let yourself be skeptical for a little while, as a temporary growing phase. if it is truly in your nature to be good hearted, don't be afraid, you won't lose it. if it's a part of you, it's a part of you, and it will just come back more aware, that's all.
there are too many people out there looking to take advantage of caring people.
letting yourself learn from it will just help yo to not waste your time on as many of this type.
it is still going to happen, just not as frequently or severly.
some have no conscience. period.
there is motive behind every statement and action.
don't ignore gut feelings, they are more solid than you think.
gut feelings are real observations of mannerisms, weird statements that were uncomfortable for you to point out at the time they were made, and many other almost subliminal observations that your brain took in, but may not necessarily be able to describe. there is nothing magical about them. they are real observations gained from experience.
i have helped people against gut feelings, and it doesn't usually turn out well.
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petalbabe: Just to make it clear!! This is not an issue between Jesse and myself..its actually to do with a tenant that we have had staying in our house here, who we basically discovered today had been lying to us about certain things.
I spent an hour yesterday, talking with this person, giving him a second chance after issuing a Notice to Quit. Today, we find out that he totally disregarded everything I asked and actually made things worse.
Jesse and I are both very angry, and upset, to a degree, as we are both caring people who treat others with respect and simply expect the same back..
I spent an hour yesterday, talking with this person, giving him a second chance after issuing a Notice to Quit. Today, we find out that he totally disregarded everything I asked and actually made things worse.
Jesse and I are both very angry, and upset, to a degree, as we are both caring people who treat others with respect and simply expect the same back..
Ye know the ol saying Petal....give people an inch and they take a mile....I have had this happen to me sooooooooooo many times...but guess what you get though because you are only a number and people will use you to get what they want each and every time....
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petalbabe: Well, thanks, sis..
I will always be a soft Petal, but sometimes, just sometimes, I wish I had more thorns..
I will always be a soft Petal, but sometimes, just sometimes, I wish I had more thorns..
I'll loan you some of mine......your Amazon sister....
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I must be very stupid, then. Because I HAVE had bad experiences in the past, but still have this happen occasionally..
I dont think it really matters how "streetwise" someone is; when you are dealing with certain types of people, I think they can deceive the smartest of us..
Jesse has been around the block. He knows the score of most things. He had his
Just kick his ugly butt out the door.....and dont even blink an eye.....
lesson learned....
I dont think it really matters how "streetwise" someone is; when you are dealing with certain types of people, I think they can deceive the smartest of us..
Jesse has been around the block. He knows the score of most things. He had his
Just kick his ugly butt out the door.....and dont even blink an eye.....
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hello,
My husband is kind hearted and has been taken many times as he is the fool..
but i try and strength him becos it hurts him deeply when he gives all and they do him wrong..
but i would never/ever want to change who he is..
just try and think first before just jumping to help the first person he comes across..
Same here with his job..
He had 23 years in North Carolina experience in cable works..
so they all take advantage of his abilities and knowledge...
which he dont mind helping..
but i got him to toughen up and not let them take advantage of what he can do..
and he has..
So they are stepping back..
but you can look in the mirror and know that you are who you are and you do try and be there for people..and do what you can do..
Dont let others take you down with them..
Dont ever change in who you are..
But speak up if this person/persons are taking advantage in some way..
All the best
My husband is kind hearted and has been taken many times as he is the fool..
but i try and strength him becos it hurts him deeply when he gives all and they do him wrong..
but i would never/ever want to change who he is..
just try and think first before just jumping to help the first person he comes across..
Same here with his job..
He had 23 years in North Carolina experience in cable works..
so they all take advantage of his abilities and knowledge...
which he dont mind helping..
but i got him to toughen up and not let them take advantage of what he can do..
and he has..
So they are stepping back..
but you can look in the mirror and know that you are who you are and you do try and be there for people..and do what you can do..
Dont let others take you down with them..
Dont ever change in who you are..
But speak up if this person/persons are taking advantage in some way..
All the best
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