Thinking the Best of People.. (27)
Having been tested a lot over the past few months...I would still rather want to see the best in people than become a cynical, mean-spirited person...and I was dangerously close to becoming one.
Good luck to you both!
Good luck to you both!
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petalbabe: Something happened in my life today that really tested my faith in human nature..
I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
It's good to be caring about people, the world needs that, but you shouldn't be caring while disregarding good judgment!
I guess I'm saying we need to be skeptically caring?
You have had to have been played a few times before you can recognize genuine kindness and need from ripoff artists and players.
It's like the scammers on the net, they all have telltales!
Be kind, but be discerning. I know it's not easy, but "Together...We can do better"...
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I'm sorry this has happened to you both. Please don't let your bad experience with this person(s) give you a bad outlook on everyone else. Hope things get better for ya'll soon.
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I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
It´s very hard when somebody acts out of character, or what we have always perceived to be their character, and disappoints us.
It all depends on how disappointed you are Petal, and whether you can forgive.
If you aren´t able to, then carry on as normal caring about those who are important in your life, and forget it.
A relationship can only be truly hurt or broken by the two people in it.
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amahlala: Having been tested a lot over the past few months...I would still rather want to see the best in people than become a cynical, mean-spirited person...and I was dangerously close to becoming one.
Good luck to you both!
Good luck to you both!
Yes, I agree..
I am just fed up to the back teeth with people in this world taking advantage of other people's good nature..
It seems to make no difference what age group people are, so you cannot blame a certain generation for their failings in this regard. It just seems to be a virus that spreads throughout humanity that some think they can "pull the wool over your eyes", as I would say..
I would rather, as you, be taken a few times than to become a hard, cynical person. But sometimes, it doth test you..
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Jan1305: It´s very hard when somebody acts out of character, or what we have always perceived to be their character, and disappoints us.
It all depends on how disappointed you are Petal, and whether you can forgive.
If you aren´t able to, then carry on as normal caring about those who are important in your life, and forget it.
A relationship can only be truly hurt or broken by the two people in it.
It all depends on how disappointed you are Petal, and whether you can forgive.
If you aren´t able to, then carry on as normal caring about those who are important in your life, and forget it.
A relationship can only be truly hurt or broken by the two people in it.
Just to make it clear!! This is not an issue between Jesse and myself..its actually to do with a tenant that we have had staying in our house here, who we basically discovered today had been lying to us about certain things.
I spent an hour yesterday, talking with this person, giving him a second chance after issuing a Notice to Quit. Today, we find out that he totally disregarded everything I asked and actually made things worse.
Jesse and I are both very angry, and upset, to a degree, as we are both caring people who treat others with respect and simply expect the same back..
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petalbabe: Yes, I agree..
I am just fed up to the back teeth with people in this world taking advantage of other people's good nature..
It seems to make no difference what age group people are, so you cannot blame a certain generation for their failings in this regard. It just seems to be a virus that spreads throughout humanity that some think they can "pull the wool over your eyes", as I would say..
I would rather, as you, be taken a few times than to become a hard, cynical person. But sometimes, it doth test you..
I am just fed up to the back teeth with people in this world taking advantage of other people's good nature..
It seems to make no difference what age group people are, so you cannot blame a certain generation for their failings in this regard. It just seems to be a virus that spreads throughout humanity that some think they can "pull the wool over your eyes", as I would say..
I would rather, as you, be taken a few times than to become a hard, cynical person. But sometimes, it doth test you..
It does test ya...i do agree
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petalbabe: Just to make it clear!! This is not an issue between Jesse and myself..its actually to do with a tenant that we have had staying in our house here, who we basically discovered today had been lying to us about certain things.
I spent an hour yesterday, talking with this person, giving him a second chance after issuing a Notice to Quit. Today, we find out that he totally disregarded everything I asked and actually made things worse.
Jesse and I are both very angry, and upset, to a degree, as we are both caring people who treat others with respect and simply expect the same back..
I spent an hour yesterday, talking with this person, giving him a second chance after issuing a Notice to Quit. Today, we find out that he totally disregarded everything I asked and actually made things worse.
Jesse and I are both very angry, and upset, to a degree, as we are both caring people who treat others with respect and simply expect the same back..
Well my earlier comments remain similar. People often disappoint us.
In this particular case, I think you both have to be strong and not so caring, particularly as this person has clearly abused your trust.
I´ve been "soft" all my life, usually it doesn´t create any problems. However, if it is money which has reared its ugly head then you have to toughen up.
Advice which I can give, but unfortunately do not often personally follow. I have a few unpaid debts for translation work I´ve undertaken, which I need to start taking stricter action on, rather than the polite email reminders I´ve sent!
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petalbabe: Something happened in my life today that really tested my faith in human nature..
I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??
Thru Lifes Hard Lessons, You have to be sceptical at all times, Trust Must be earned, If it hasnt been Proven, You MUST STAY SKEPTICAL.....
I have seen with the best of the best, and the worst of the worst... Be Skeptical, but still show Respect..... Trust takes Years to Establish.... so Nice but Skeptical
Usually when you give someone a little rope, They Quickly Hang Themselves.... Thats My Words of Wisdom!
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Grandepensees: It's good to be caring about people, the world needs that, but you shouldn't be caring while disregarding good judgment!
I guess I'm saying we need to be skeptically caring?
You have had to have been played a few times before you can recognize genuine kindness and need from ripoff artists and players.
It's like the scammers on the net, they all have telltales!
Be kind, but be discerning. I know it's not easy, but "Together...We can do better"...
I guess I'm saying we need to be skeptically caring?
You have had to have been played a few times before you can recognize genuine kindness and need from ripoff artists and players.
It's like the scammers on the net, they all have telltales!
Be kind, but be discerning. I know it's not easy, but "Together...We can do better"...
Well said
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HotrodLarrys: Thru Lifes Hard Lessons, You have to be sceptical at all times, Trust Must be earned, If it hasnt been Proven, You MUST STAY SKEPTICAL.....
I have seen with the best of the best, and the worst of the worst... Be Skeptical, but still show Respect..... Trust takes Years to Establish.... so Nice but Skeptical
Usually when you give someone a little rope, They Quickly Hang Themselves.... Thats My Words of Wisdom!
I have seen with the best of the best, and the worst of the worst... Be Skeptical, but still show Respect..... Trust takes Years to Establish.... so Nice but Skeptical
Usually when you give someone a little rope, They Quickly Hang Themselves.... Thats My Words of Wisdom!
Yep, thanks Larry..
Wise words as always..
I posted the thread because I am certain that we are not the only people who feel that being "nice" can be a burden sometimes, rather than an attribute. Im not changing who I am, and nor is Jesse, but it does make you question your own methods sometimes..
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hopefloats: I'm sorry this has happened to you both. Please don't let your bad experience with this person(s) give you a bad outlook on everyone else. Hope things get better for ya'll soon.
Well, thanks, sis..
I will always be a soft Petal, but sometimes, just sometimes, I wish I had more thorns..
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Grandepensees: It's good to be caring about people, the world needs that, but you shouldn't be caring while disregarding good judgment!
I guess I'm saying we need to be skeptically caring?
You have had to have been played a few times before you can recognize genuine kindness and need from ripoff artists and players.
It's like the scammers on the net, they all have telltales!
Be kind, but be discerning. I know it's not easy, but "Together...We can do better"...
I guess I'm saying we need to be skeptically caring?
You have had to have been played a few times before you can recognize genuine kindness and need from ripoff artists and players.
It's like the scammers on the net, they all have telltales!
Be kind, but be discerning. I know it's not easy, but "Together...We can do better"...
I must be very stupid, then. Because I HAVE had bad experiences in the past, but still have this happen occasionally..
I dont think it really matters how "streetwise" someone is; when you are dealing with certain types of people, I think they can deceive the smartest of us..
Jesse has been around the block. He knows the score of most things. He had his suspicions a while ago about this person's temperment but, once again, tried to give him the benefit of the doubt..
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petalbabe: Yep, thanks Larry..
Wise words as always..
I posted the thread because I am certain that we are not the only people who feel that being "nice" can be a burden sometimes, rather than an attribute. Im not changing who I am, and nor is Jesse, but it does make you question your own methods sometimes..
Wise words as always..
I posted the thread because I am certain that we are not the only people who feel that being "nice" can be a burden sometimes, rather than an attribute. Im not changing who I am, and nor is Jesse, but it does make you question your own methods sometimes..
All of this tests our Faith, and teachs us today, how to do better tomorrow ( By Being Wiser)
I feel I have Lived enough Hell and mistakes, that i have that fairly well undercontrol, But time, we still get BIT AGAIN.....
We just learn another Lesson Petal, another Mark, or Scar, but we must continue to get Better and better, and make better decisions, then try to share them with the Younger ( our kids ect) Before we Die..... we are to Share those times, and help another who faces the same thing!!!! That is My Purpose, is sharing my Experiences of Growth, Towards Full Maturity, which is Knowledge, wisdom, and Understanding, Tho we can only Share with those who Have the Desire.... and Many dont!
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petalbabe: I must be very stupid, then. Because I HAVE had bad experiences in the past, but still have this happen occasionally..
I dont think it really matters how "streetwise" someone is; when you are dealing with certain types of people, I think they can deceive the smartest of us..
Jesse has been around the block. He knows the score of most things. He had his suspicions a while ago about this person's temperment but, once again, tried to give him the benefit of the doubt..
I dont think it really matters how "streetwise" someone is; when you are dealing with certain types of people, I think they can deceive the smartest of us..
Jesse has been around the block. He knows the score of most things. He had his suspicions a while ago about this person's temperment but, once again, tried to give him the benefit of the doubt..
Aaaawwww, don't hit your head against the wall
We all make those mistakes sometimes and the joke, ultimately, isn't on you, even if it feels that way.The joke is on him, because whatever he/she took you for, he/she wiil get it repaid to him/her tenfold... And that's not a wish, that's a certainty!
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HotrodLarrys: Well said
Really?
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petalbabe: We have now made the decision that never again, will we rent out. Its simply not worth the hassle.
We just want to be on our own together, and no amount of extra money makes it worth while being taken advantage of.
Sometimes, dear friend, we do have to be cruel..
With somebody extra living in the house, it makes it hard to run around naked if you want. Now your whole house is your playpen.We just want to be on our own together, and no amount of extra money makes it worth while being taken advantage of.
Sometimes, dear friend, we do have to be cruel..
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petalbabe: We have now made the decision that never again, will we rent out. Its simply not worth the hassle.
We just want to be on our own together, and no amount of extra money makes it worth while being taken advantage of.
Sometimes, dear friend, we do have to be cruel..
We just want to be on our own together, and no amount of extra money makes it worth while being taken advantage of.
Sometimes, dear friend, we do have to be cruel..
I've made the same choice as well.
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I have always been a generally optimistic kinda person, and have always strived to see the best in people. I have always felt that was the best way to be, although it has left me open to being messed around.
Without going into great detail, today I discovered that once again, someone has taken both me and my partner for a fool.
Do you think its better to be this caring about people, and try to see the best in them, or do you think its better to just be a skeptical all the time??