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How To Avoid The Pain of First Date Rejection

How To Avoid The Pain of First Date Rejection

Going on a first date is often scary, but first date rejection can be excruciatingly painful. You are putting yourself out there and taking a risk just by going on the date, and the last thing you want is to be told that you are not what they are looking for in a person. Fortunately there are three things you can do to avoid first date rejection.

1. Bring Confidence Along on Your Date

Ironically, if you are not confident in yourself, and you are worried about being rejected, then you will probably be rejected very quickly. The nervous attitude of someone who is not confident in themselves shows through their body language and makes other people uncomfortable and turned off.

It is human nature to be attracted to someone who has a high level of confidence in themselves. This is why 'bad boys' or 'bad girls' are so attractive; they have a high level of confidence that attracts people despite their bad qualities.

How do you feel confident? You become confident! You affirm to yourself that you are a great catch with a lot to offer someone, and the more you affirm it the more you will start to believe it.

Another way to feel confident for your date is to read some tips and tricks on succeeding with the opposite sex right before your date. This will leave you armed and ready with information that can influence your date positively, and your brain will not have had a chance to forget important key points about succeeding with the opposite sex.

2. Make Your Date Feel Important

We are all looking for someone who can make us feel important. That is one of the perks of being in a relationship; we have someone else to tell us how great we are! By treating your date as if they matter, you will be sending them a message that they will feel special with you if they see you again.

You can do this in a few different ways that can all be done individually, but for the best result, you should use as many as possible in your first date.

Listen to your date and validate what they say with your own replies, questions or comments.

Maintain eye contact to show your date that you are really interested in what they have to say.

Use your body language to show interest by facing your date. Also, lean in towards them when they talk.

Laugh at their jokes, and make sure that you show appropriate emotions when they are talking about something that is not funny.

You can share a story about yourself that relates to what they are talking about, but don't turn the conversation towards you completely; instead, share the story so you can relate to them better and show them that you understand them.

The most important thing to remember is that if you are pretending that you are interested in them or being fake about your interest, then they will sense it, and they will most likely refuse a second date with you. Make sure that doesn't happen by genuinely maintaining an interest in what they are saying and doing.

3. Be Positive on The Date

Expectations are usually high on a first date. Laughter, fun, and excitement are all anticipated by your date. There is no desire for negativity in those expectations.

If you whine, complain, or talk negatively about something or someone, then you are going to cause your date to feel negative as well. If your date associates negative feelings with you then they will not want to see you again. In fact, nobody, in their right mind, is going to want to go on another date with someone who was negative.

Save your whining and complaining for your friends at home. Focus on positive and uplifting stuff for your first date. You don't need to get too deep on a first date, but if you feel like you should then talk about your dreams and goals that you are excited about, or talk about the accomplishments you have had; do not talk about your failures and disappointments.

In the end, it is not that hard to get a second date with the right attitude and presence on the first date. The above three things: being confident, showing interest, and being positive, will leave your date wanting more. Use these tips and your chances for a second date will drastically improve, helping you to avoid first date rejection.

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