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a_twilight_endBoston, Massachusetts USA8 Threads 42 PostsSo i just moved into my own apartment, and its been great. Ive always been a people person, and never had any trouble fitting in and making a million friends. However, its been almosdt 2 months at my new job, and i havent been invited anywhere. People really dont talk to me, and i cant understand why. Im very friendly and i always talk to everybody! I am so use to being surrounded by a million people, that i forgot how to live all by myself. Im trying to make friends, but they dont seem to bite. What should i do? If i spend any more time in this friggen apartment, im going to go crazy. Any advice? Where to meet people? idk.....
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a_twilight_end: So i just moved into my own apartment, and its been great. Ive always been a people person, and never had any trouble fitting in and making a million friends. However, its been almosdt 2 months at my new job, and i havent been invited anywhere. People really dont talk to me, and i cant understand why. Im very friendly and i always talk to everybody! I am so use to being surrounded by a million people, that i forgot how to live all by myself. Im trying to make friends, but they dont seem to bite. What should i do? If i spend any more time in this friggen apartment, im going to go crazy. Any advice? Where to meet people? idk.....
good friends aren't made overnight. Sharing your deepest secrets in one night won't necessarily create a close friendship. It may even drive the other person away. Take it slowly. Divulge 'safe' secrets first, and allow the relationship to hold some weight before you share the meatier issues in your life.
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Suggestions include:
1-Many people make friends at work. Open yourself up to the possibilities by participating in social occasions, such as Friday night drinks or lunches to celebrate employee birthdays.
2-Follow your interests. For example, if you like walking, join a neighbourhood walking group.
3-If you don't work and have no particular hobbies, consider joining a volunteer group with a charity that interests you.
4-Use your existing network of family and friends to meet new people.
1-Many people make friends at work. Open yourself up to the possibilities by participating in social occasions, such as Friday night drinks or lunches to celebrate employee birthdays.
2-Follow your interests. For example, if you like walking, join a neighbourhood walking group.
3-If you don't work and have no particular hobbies, consider joining a volunteer group with a charity that interests you.
4-Use your existing network of family and friends to meet new people.
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sujit: good friends aren't made overnight. Sharing your deepest secrets in one night won't necessarily create a close friendship. It may even drive the other person away. Take it slowly. Divulge 'safe' secrets first, and allow the relationship to hold some weight before you share the meatier issues in your life.
totally agreeTwilight it does take time.... people dont trust people like they use to and there more reluctant to bring new people in there lives ..just give it time for them to feel comfortable with you
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a_twilight_end: So i just moved into my own apartment, and its been great. Ive always been a people person, and never had any trouble fitting in and making a million friends. However, its been almosdt 2 months at my new job, and i havent been invited anywhere. People really dont talk to me, and i cant understand why. Im very friendly and i always talk to everybody! I am so use to being surrounded by a million people, that i forgot how to live all by myself. Im trying to make friends, but they dont seem to bite. What should i do? If i spend any more time in this friggen apartment, im going to go crazy. Any advice? Where to meet people? idk.....
Often the best way to be invited out, is to first invite others. Perhaps you could initiate some sort of informal get together. Is there a social club at work? If not, suggest to start one? What about a house warming party. That should break the ice. Being such a 'people' person, you should know how to go about that. All the best. Have fun!
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saseez: totally agree
Twilight it does take time.... people dont trust people like they use to and there more reluctant to bring new people in there lives ..just give it time for them to feel comfortable with you
Twilight it does take time.... people dont trust people like they use to and there more reluctant to bring new people in there lives ..just give it time for them to feel comfortable with you
There are always things to remember ...
... Life events, such as moving to another neighbourhood, starting a job or having a baby, can isolate us from our former support group and make forging new friendships more important than ever. ... Participate in work social functions, join a hobby group or volunteer for charity work. Friendships need love, time, attention and trust if they are to survive.
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venere08: Often the best way to be invited out, is to first invite others. Perhaps you could initiate some sort of informal get together. Is there a social club at work? If not, suggest to start one? What about a house warming party. That should break the ice. Being such a 'people' person, you should know how to go about that. All the best. Have fun!
i have tried some things like that. I think the problem might be that the people i work with are all like 10 years older than me, and they all have thier own busy lives....
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sujit: good friends aren't made overnight. Sharing your deepest secrets in one night won't necessarily create a close friendship. It may even drive the other person away. Take it slowly. Divulge 'safe' secrets first, and allow the relationship to hold some weight before you share the meatier issues in your life.
I wouldn't divulge any secrets. Once you tell one person, it's no longer a "secret". I think people might sense that you are desperate for their friendship. I know from experience, that doesn't work. Even though you're craving friendship, let them think you are independent. In other words.....keep them guessing
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Join a class? Like drawing class or cooking class, or anything you have interest in..
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a_twilight_end: So i just moved into my own apartment, and its been great. Ive always been a people person, and never had any trouble fitting in and making a million friends. However, its been almosdt 2 months at my new job, and i havent been invited anywhere. People really dont talk to me, and i cant understand why. Im very friendly and i always talk to everybody! I am so use to being surrounded by a million people, that i forgot how to live all by myself. Im trying to make friends, but they dont seem to bite. What should i do? If i spend any more time in this friggen apartment, im going to go crazy. Any advice? Where to meet people? idk.....
rob a bank... get arrested ..could be fun...meet new people in jail
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