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bella27bangor, Down Ireland1 Threads 1 PostsWhy do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
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bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
I cannot answer about the ex-wifes, but surely your children come first above everything in your life even when they have grown and fled the nest.
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bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
Woaaah, I make it perfectly clear with any conversation or date that my 8 year old son is part of me, I have yet to know any women who feel threatened by this, he is blood and he will always want me, warts and all. I have watched him grow and nurtured him. No women would evr come between our bond and do not expect a women to feel the way I do about him but would never entertain putting anyone before him and his emotional needs.
I am sure for the women that I would be attracted to then this would be respected.
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bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
you will have to search long and hard,
(i said long and hard )to find someone with the same priorities as yourself. learn to accept what you get, compromise somehow, or move on.------ This thread is Archived ------
bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
Probably for the very same reason us women do.I fully understand putting your children first and foremost but not the exes.That's why they're considered exes.
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For one. My children come before any relationship. They are my blood. If no woman understands that then they are not worth being with. It is like the woman who would put her child ahead of her relationship with the man she is seeing. That is my post.
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scousedon: Think she meant children you had with ex wife/partner.
she said ex wife AND kids
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scorpiosiren: she said ex wife AND kids
Oh if thats the case then sod the ex, moved on from her but not my child.
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shipsahoy: For one. My children come before any relationship. They are my blood. If no woman understands that then they are not worth being with. It is like the woman who would put her child ahead of her relationship with the man she is seeing. That is my post.
Ironic isnt it, not sure I would be interested in a woman that put me before her children.
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I have always respected the fact that a guy puts his children first and if they have a good relationship with their ex it says tons about their character. If you love and trust each other than jealousy shouldn't be an issue. There is no reason that an ex and the child can't be a part of a healthy relationship. The least amount of drama is best for the child and the relationship!!
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scousedon: Ironic isnt it, not sure I would be interested in a woman that put me before her children.
she did say grown children as in they should have there own life and you be getting back on with yours. minus the occasional youngster mishap where they need some assistance, and guidance. i don't have any children so i might not know anything.
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lookin4ubabe: I have always respected the fact that a guy puts his children first and if they have a good relationship with their ex it says tons about their character. If you love and trust each other than jealousy shouldn't be an issue. There is no reason that an ex and the child can't be a part of a healthy relationship. The least amount of drama is best for the child and the relationship!!
Depends on the situation on why the split from the ex, hard to have good relationship in some circumstances.
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oranges2apples: she did say grown children as in they should have there own life and you be getting back on with yours. minus the occasional youngster mishap where they need some assistance, and guidance. i don't have any children so i might not know anything.
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I would not accept a man that put his ex wife ahead of our relationship
the kids even grown still come first but there has to be a mutually understood point as to HOW MUCH first they are since they should be making decisions on their own and making a life for themselves
if he is still putting his ex first theres something wrong with that IMO
the kids even grown still come first but there has to be a mutually understood point as to HOW MUCH first they are since they should be making decisions on their own and making a life for themselves
if he is still putting his ex first theres something wrong with that IMO
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scousedon: Depends on the situation on why the split from the ex, hard to have good relationship in some circumstances.
Good point, and it does depend on the situation. But, I completely respect it when a man makes an effort to put the past in the past and try to make the best of a bad situation for the sake of the child. It's true though, some ex's are all about DRAMA and can make it very difficult!!
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friends4now: I would not accept a man that put his ex wife ahead of our relationshipthe kids even grown still come first but there has to be a mutually understood point as to HOW MUCH first they are since they should be making decisions on their own and making a life for themselvesif he is still putting his ex first theres something wrong with that IMO
I completely agree!!
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lookin4ubabe: I completely agree!!
Agreed when the child has grown up.
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I don't do Baby Momma Drama !!!
I have dated men with kids. I never expect them to put me before the kids but they tended to let the kids have too much say in things in my opinion. 4 and 8 yr olds shouldn't be running the house. Thats the parents job.
I have dated men with kids. I never expect them to put me before the kids but they tended to let the kids have too much say in things in my opinion. 4 and 8 yr olds shouldn't be running the house. Thats the parents job.
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bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
In my experience with men with younger children who I have dated, the kids do take precedence over their current relationship a lot of the time. As tough as that can be it's hard to resent - I would not be interested in dating a guy who didn't take his responsibilities as a father seriously.
If the ex-wife were still in the picture in any way except for necessary occasional discussions about their kids, I doubt I would hang around. To me, that would be a tell-tale sign that perhaps, it wasn't quite over.
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bella27: Why do some men think it is okay to put their ex-wives and (grown) kids before their current relationship?
I don't think the ex wife does necessarily depending on the relationship but ones children I can appreciate would be important although if adults one would not expect them to move back home
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