I met a guy recently...like last week. From our very first talk there was just something about him that I like. I dont remember the last time I felt so happy. He makes me smile. We have since talked with each other using a web cam..and same thing...Is this the strangest thing youve heard? I dont think I can now trust myself..my judgement seems to be clouded..HELP!
Im trying to be careful... but I feel that Ive been sad for such a long time that finding someone ..anyone...who made me smile was def..gonna have this effect. I dont want to run this guy away..but also dont want to plunge into anything either.hmmmmm
Thank you all very very much for your replies and encouragement. It seems that things here just move alot faster than i expected them to and I was just blown away. I will put a foot foward at a time and try not to jump in.
I find that when my heart and my brain differ, my heart is capable of talking my brain into the most improbable things.
Having said that, I have survived the silly things my heart has talked me into doing (not so silly as to be sued or arrested, of course!---ususally just costly in time or money). Sometimes things have panned out, sometimes not.
Try not to do anything more expensive than he is willing to do--and when something does not seem quite right, slow down a bit and check it out.
IF he made you smile, that's your guy ! But take it slow, watch your heart but don't lose your mind. It's good that you are going to meet, that shows his interest. Go one step forward as he shows his step to you too. Enjoy the ride, this initial romance. Wish you the best for both
You better stop the things you do I aint lyin No I aint lyin
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How did you know one of my favourite songs? Sometimes you surprise me, Mr Boban...
To the original poster: sounds fantastic, that's the way I make conclusions about men - the way they make me feel is the best "diagnostic tool". And do NOT worry about what else you should do, say, etc!!!
kissmedeeply: Everything is realitivity new right now..and of course you feel all kinds of emotions..becareful..its nice when someone makes you laugh and feel good again..
Study him..the way he talks..say things..if you feel something just doesnt feel right..then ask him..that is the only way to know each other..
Take it one step at a time..and i hope all goes well with you..
Thanks for all your replies...and most of you are right...my judgement is pretty clouded. Dating online is really really challenging. He does want to meet me and BTW..he is living in Europe and Im working in Asia.I would rather us meet sooner or later to decide if there is a real spark between us. Now everything is great and lovey dovey..but we cant know until we meet. I will try to be carfeul with him. Thanks very very much for your advice.
It is just like face to face, just stay true to who you are and watch yourself. In 4 days I will be married and it all happened right here on good ole cs. God bless you and yours and good luck
drbombay: Take it slow, don't build yourself up for a let down. It can work sometimes but few and far between. Think with your head and not the heart. GL
Dr. B...you hit the nail on the head with this post! Well said!!
Too easy to let your heart get in the way and cloud your vision so you don't see the storm coming.
I honestly hope it works out for you...believe everyone needs to find love and happiness...just be careful and protect your heart hun.
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