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Dec 10, 2009 1:54 PM CST What would you do?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help! dunno sigh
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Dec 10, 2009 1:57 PM CST What would you do?
stefonline
stefonlinestefonlineDublin, Ireland136 Threads 9,702 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!



I would just pay her Sweet and say thanks for the thoughtfulness....be done with it....but let her know not to ever do that again without consulting with you....not that you would want her to do it again....conversing
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Dec 10, 2009 2:02 PM CST What would you do?
LaVerdad
LaVerdadLaVerdadBaghdad, Iraq1 Threads 1,897 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!


Just out of common courtesy and being a decent person, pay her. Like you say she is confrontational and you want to avoid any bad feelings, especially working in an office. Such can escalate into unnecessary even bigger disputes. Perhaps also tell her next time she buys food just to check with you first so there is no misunderstanding in the future.wine
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Dec 10, 2009 2:02 PM CST What would you do?
Odysseus101
Odysseus101Odysseus101Roma, Lazio Italy46 Threads 12 Polls 925 Posts
What she said.....blow it off, it's not worth getting obsessed with it. Just let her know, you won't pay the next time.

stefonline: I would just pay her Sweet and say thanks for the thoughtfulness....be done with it....but let her know not to ever do that again without consulting with you....not that you would want her to do it again....
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Dec 10, 2009 2:04 PM CST What would you do?
amelie13
amelie13amelie13Sydney, New South Wales Australia16 Threads 3 Polls 327 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!


It's a bizarre gesture - if she didn't ask you what you wanted or indeed, if you wanted anything at all. If I felt like having that coffee and apple pie I'd probably give her some money, but I would have asked her to check with me first before she did it again.

The cynic in me tells me that its possible she has a friend who works at McDonalds and she got given free stuff, which you all then paid her for. :-) It's unlikely, but possible. It's more likely that she just couldn't get hold of you and didn't want to leave you out.
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Dec 10, 2009 2:06 PM CST What would you do?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
amelie13: It's a bizarre gesture - if she didn't ask you what you wanted or indeed, if you wanted anything at all. If I felt like having that coffee and apple pie I'd probably give her some money, but I would have asked her to check with me first before she did it again.

The cynic in me tells me that its possible she has a friend who works at McDonalds and she got given free stuff, which you all then paid her for. :-) It's unlikely, but possible. It's more likely that she just couldn't get hold of you and didn't want to leave you out.


Nope, she never tried. dunno
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Dec 10, 2009 2:11 PM CST What would you do?
kissmedeeply
kissmedeeplykissmedeeplyPetitcodiac, New Brunswick Canada70 Threads 15,139 Posts
Okay if you did drink and eat what she gave you then i would pay up..and then explain to her pls ask first..

but if you didnt eat it then dont pay for it ..simple
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Dec 10, 2009 2:11 PM CST What would you do?
lookin4ubabe
lookin4ubabelookin4ubabeTacoma, Washington USA5 Threads 1,135 Posts
Just curious...did you eat what she brought you? dunno
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Dec 10, 2009 2:13 PM CST What would you do?
drbombay
drbombaydrbombayStaten Island, New York USA42 Threads 5,391 Posts
I would pay her and then make myself throw up on her desk and ask for a refundbarf rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing cheers
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Dec 10, 2009 2:14 PM CST What would you do?
rubendario
rubendariorubendarioHartford, Connecticut USA8 Threads 1 Polls 3,278 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!


That is a tough one and not easy!! If she's one of those super defensive and sensitive types, then pay her this one time, thank her for her gesture, and explain to her that the next time she must check with you first. I don't think you should have to pay, but since this is a coworker and it can make life at work uneasy, just do it this one time and make things clear. Good luck!! grin cool sad flower
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Dec 10, 2009 2:16 PM CST What would you do?
menu2
menu2menu2Near Galveston Island, Texas USA2,106 Posts
drbombay: I would pay her and then make myself throw up on her desk and ask for a refund
Cash...that is.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing wave handshake cheers
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Dec 10, 2009 2:19 PM CST What would you do?
OUTRAGEOUS
OUTRAGEOUSOUTRAGEOUSPanama, Panama44 Threads 1 Polls 1,768 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!


I would pay her, and thank her. And ask her to make sure she calls you next time she's doing a breakfast errand, so you can tellher what you want. When she calls, if she does, tell her you don't want anything.

dunno, you might need breakfast or lunch one of these days...
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Dec 10, 2009 2:23 PM CST What would you do?
drbombay
drbombaydrbombayStaten Island, New York USA42 Threads 5,391 Posts
menu2: Cash...that is.
wave How ru today, I don't take checks.rolling on the floor laughing handshake cheers
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Dec 10, 2009 2:27 PM CST What would you do?
menu2
menu2menu2Near Galveston Island, Texas USA2,106 Posts
drbombay: How ru today, I don't take checks.
Doing great dr, and having some fun.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing How about you? cheers handshake peace
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Dec 10, 2009 2:28 PM CST What would you do?
bay163
bay163bay163san mateo, California USA8 Threads 4 Polls 991 Posts
sweetowen: This morning my co-worker came into the office carrying breakfast for everyone from McDonald's. Apparently, she'd called & asked what they wanted, but hadn't called or texted me. However, she did bring me food & a drink. Now she wants me to pay her for it! First off, I really wasn't hungry & had my own drink. While I thought this was a nice gesture, she now expects me to pay her for it!! I mean, I can see if I'd ASKED her to bring me something, but I didn't even know she was doing it & never asked for it! Do you think I should have to pay her for it? If not, how should I approach her about it? After all, we DO have to work together. And she gets quite defensive when confronted. Please help!


Good lord woman what in the holy h*ll is wrong with you, dine and dash is that how you role, you are lucky it was not me, I would have called the police and had your sorry *ss thrown in jail, remember GRATITUDE!!!!!!!!!!Peace to all laugh teddybear
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Dec 10, 2009 2:33 PM CST What would you do?
drbombay
drbombaydrbombayStaten Island, New York USA42 Threads 5,391 Posts
menu2: Doing great dr, and having some fun. How about you?
Doing good as long as I stay away from the guys from San Francisco, you know about that he didn't go in the service because he didn't want to leave his friends behind rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing handshake cheers
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Dec 10, 2009 2:33 PM CST What would you do?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
bay163: Good lord woman what in the holy h*ll is wrong with you, dine and dash is that how you role, you are lucky it was not me, I would have called the police and had your sorry *ss thrown in jail, remember GRATITUDE!!!!!!!!!!Peace to all


I give gratitude when it's warranted. I'm grateful when someone asks me if I want something, BEFORE requesting payment for something I NEVER ASKED FOR! doh frustrated
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Dec 10, 2009 2:34 PM CST What would you do?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
Yes, I did end up eating it... because I felt bad. And yes, I do intend to pay her. But I just think that is so rude on her part, to get me something I never asked for & EXPECT payment for it. mumbling
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Dec 10, 2009 2:36 PM CST What would you do?
drbombay
drbombaydrbombayStaten Island, New York USA42 Threads 5,391 Posts
sweetowen: I give gratitude when it's warranted. I'm grateful when someone asks me if I want something, BEFORE requesting payment for something I NEVER ASKED FOR!
Don't worry Sweet, if he has to call the cops on you for that, I hate to see if you were being mugged.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing hug cheers
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Dec 10, 2009 2:38 PM CST What would you do?
menu2
menu2menu2Near Galveston Island, Texas USA2,106 Posts
drbombay: Doing good as long as I stay away from the guys from San Francisco, you know about that he didn't go in the service because he didn't want to leave his friends behind
Sounds that guy is a looser. And I know you don't take checks, just credit cards up front. rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing peace cheers handshake
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