Hi there,its Starlite,I have a question to ask, can you please help? ( Archived) (51)

Thats a tough question, I think we all know what we want but it never seems to "be" that..

I dont want or expect alot.Love , honesty, compassion,friendship..

But you have to be willing to give and not just take...

Good one Missy.

Instead of looking for what we can get why not think of what we can give?

I did a thread on this last night, asked who is ready, really ready..VERY FEW are really ready it appears.

I think Missy covered it, honesty, compassion, companionship.. "TO ME" it appears it is a lot of people wanting to get and not willing to offer.

I will not give up being me again, been there, done that, got the shirt, hat and everything else. If & when I ever find another, she may not get a lot of material "stuff", but shoe will know beyoung question she is loved..

Matters of the heart!!!

By and large I'm pretty content with my life...except...I don't have anyone (a compatible mate) to share it with. That's all that I'd need to make me totally happy.

I know what I want and who I am and will not settle for less.
I love life and think laughter is one of the best things in life.
Honesty nutrues comminication and equals respect. Any one agree? That is a foundation for a long loving relationship.

I know what I want.

I basically want a woman who is a homebody and who would genuinely be happy in a rural setting spending most of our time working around the home doing gardening and home improvements.

That's really all I want. I think most women view this picture as being boring. Most women seem to have a need to be on the run and socializing all the time.

I guess I just need a woman who is basically stricken with agoraphobia not with respect to wide open places, but with respect to being around people. A woman who would be thrilled to death just to live a simple homebody life with a mate in a secluded rural area.

Actually she doesn't need to be that reclusive. But I really do need a woman who is content with staying home a lot. I'm always very busy doing constructive productive things around the home not to mention being self employed. So it's not like there ever a dull moment. There is always something going on. And because I have a home-based business based on buying, refurbishing and reselling yard sale items there are always yard sales and antique stores to go to. So there are a lot of day trips involved.

I'm just not into women who thrive on always going out and being sociable with other people. If that's what she wants to do then what does she need me for? I don't want to do that.

So I know what I want. The problem is finding a woman who wants the same lifestyle.

I like the way you think.

I only can offer this I know my wants and needs will change, just as the hands of times or the months of theyear.

I like to think once having found that unique individual. One who can and wants to tolerate me as much as I her. We will grow as two independent vines who become entwined within and around each other.
Both sharing the nutrients of our surroundings just as rain flows downward from leaf to vine again to leaf, We would sustain each other in the harsh seasons of life.

Yeah if I got that going on with my special lady... I guess I would respond to your question with, WE will continue to grow together as a couple as as individuals. strengthening our bond by each and every moment we share together ans as individuals.

but, thats just what i think I would want to happen with what you described.